friend's new girlfriend wants to fuck

[severely etarded]

One of my friends I go out on weekends with has a new girlfriend I'm afraid he's becoming fond of. Over the weekend at a party he left us there while he ran some errands.. Anyway she came onto me EXTREMELY strong and she's hot but I played stupid because I would have felt bad fucking around at HIS house of all places.

Question.. Do and if so how do I go about telling him? The girl was nice and all she just told me straight up she's not ready to be monogamous.. Idk what to do but the guy is my friend if he wasn't I'd have had her doggystyle on his bed..

 

[severely etarded]

I guess keeping my mouth shut is the best thing.. Just can't imagine how many of his friends she's probably screwing if she was down to fuck when I barely met her.

 

[Maya]

I would absolutely tell your friend, I mean it's just me, I am a loyal friend so automatically I will inform my friend right away. It's bad enough that she's doing that and also to his bf's buddy? That's just wrong IMO. If you really care about your friend, you will not let that girl continously do something like that behind his back.

 

[Black Rabbit of Inle]

I had a similar situation about a year ago and I decided not to tell my friend. He found out anyway 6 months later and we had a falling out over it because I was supposed to be his friend and he resented me not telling him. We haven't spoken since and I regret keeping it from him.

 

[severely etarded]

I would absolutely tell your friend, I mean it's just me, I am a loyal friend so automatically I will inform my friend right away. It's bad enough that she's doing that and also to his bf's buddy? That's just wrong IMO. If you really care about your friend, you will not let that girl continously do something like that behind his back.

I'm just afraid if I tell him a number of things could happen. I'm afraid might think I tried to fuck her or something. In all honesty that was probably one of the strongest times a girl has come onto me.. Body language combined with physical contact was full on telling me "let's go"... Then she was trying to tell me she just wants to be friends with my friend.. that she likes to have fun being single..

idk what if anything to tell him, or how to go about it. I kinda played along so she didn't feel bad then went outside for a cigarette.. But she seemed pretty bummed when I didn't grab her and go for it.. which trust me I wanted to but I didn't.. pretty sure she knows I wanted to.. IDK it seems so crazy idk what to think sometimes I wonder if he's trying to get me in a threesome or something. I'd probably do it but then what if not?,i want to talk about it with him IDK what to say though lol.. or even how to go about it.

 

[Maya]

If he will think that you tried to do something then it's not on you, it's on his way of thinking. He should be thankful that his friends is looking out for him.

 

[severely etarded]

Then what exactly should I tell him and how should I break it to him? I've had plenty of girls with boyfriends come onto me like that but never an actual friend's girlfriend not exactly sure how to deal with that.

 

[《Plasticity》]

Just tell him that his girl tried to come on to you, your not in the wrong and your friend deserves to know. I agree with Maya, that's on him if he wants to pretend that something did or didn't happen. Wouldn't you wanna know if you had a girl that was hitting on your friends? Just lay it on the table and move on, let him decide how he wants to handle this.

 

[Maya]

You can ask him if he has time to have a talk with you, tell him exactly what happened and the acts in detail specially what she said "not ready to be monogamous" as I think this is a crucial part.

Now you also have to be prepared for the worst of course. She might deny it and tell your friend your a liar and you're the one who tried to sleep with her etc etc but the impot thing is you told him and your intentions were good.

 

[Pretty_Diamonds]

I vote tell him. Just like super casual… you know the last time you went to the store, you're girlfriend "blah" started hitting on me. It was weird dude.

 

[severely etarded]

Now you also have to be prepared for the worst of course. She might deny it and tell your friend your a liar and you're the one who tried to sleep with her etc etc but the impot thing is you told him and your intentions were good.

Ya this is gonna be something hard to tell him. "Hey dude, I turned down your new girlfriend for sex the other day at your house.." Hmm idk it will probably come out when I'm drinking or something. This one is going to be tough. Anymore input or advice is welcome...

 

[severely etarded]

I vote tell him. Just like super casual… you know the last time you went to the store, you're girlfriend "blah" started hitting on me. It was weird dude.

I've had girls hit on me before but this was more like an open invitation to some casual sex... And it wasn't really weird as it was just plain fucked. I'm a pretty handsome dude so girls hitting on me is fairly common.. But when they are my closer friends' girlfriend it's more like crazy.. than weird.

IDK I'm hoping for additional input before I say anything... What and how I say it if I do is crucial here...

 

[Black Rabbit of Inle]

I'd just say that she was openly flirting and not that she was straight up wanting sex. If he asks tell him about her comment on not being ready for monogamy. Just try to avoid making it sound like you're trying to break them up and that you're just looking out for him is what I'm getting at.

 

[nuttynutskin]

I vote tell him. Just like super casual… you know the last time you went to the store, you're girlfriend "blah" started hitting on me. It was weird dude.

This... Don't say anything about turning her down for sex ffs. lol Just keep it short and brief, it's not that hard. If he's a true friend he'll appreciate you looking out for him.

 

[Jabberwocky]

I think that you should tell him as soon as possible and also that you should pick a moment when you are both sober - if you are fucked all of the time then just tell him as soon as possible. I believe that you would be doing the right thing by telling him and hopefully he will recognize this and appreciate it, if not then that is his problem, at least you will be able to sleep with a clear consciousness. If you dont tell him however, I think that you would be a pretty lousy "friend" and if it were me, it would be enough to break off all contact with you immediately.

 

[LilbabiC]

I would set something up where he could catch her in the act of hitting on a dude. If he sees it with his own two eyes and doesn't believe it or doesn't have a problem with it then that's on him.

 

[purplefirefly]

Why don't you get a better feeling for how serious their relationship is from his perspective? You could ask him how serious he is about this girl. Maybe he doesn't want to be monogamous either or maybe he has no idea how serious she isn't about the relationship. I would ask some questions before I dropped a bomb.

 

[severely etarded]

I would set something up where he could catch her in the act of hitting on a dude. If he sees it with his own two eyes and doesn't believe it or doesn't have a problem with it then that's on him.

How do I break it to him..? "Hey bro I think your new GF you like a lot is really a whore.."

 

[LilbabiC]

Bring some guy around that she'd be interested in and make sure your friend catches her in the act of hitting on the guy. This way you are some what out of it and your friend has his eyes and ears as evidence.

 

[purplefirefly]

That's pretty conniving and it also probably wouldn't work. If she's trying to be sneaky then she's not going to hit on this dude in front of her boyfriend. She didn't hit on severely etarded right in front of her boyfriend.