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For those who have cheated - Why did you?

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I wanna know reasons on why people have cheated on their partners.

Was it because you liked the attention?

Didn't feel loved?

Seeking revenge?

Any other reasons????
 
When I cheated (6 years ago) on my girlfriend it was because I wanted to sleep with someone else for a change.

Not because of attention, not because I didn't feel loved, not because of anything else apart from the fact I wanted something new to try.
 
chopped_chimp said:
When I cheated (6 years ago) on my girlfriend it was because I wanted to sleep with someone else for a change.

Not because of attention, not because I didn't feel loved, not because of anything else apart from the fact I wanted something new to try.
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CC, when that happenned were you by any chance fairly young.....maybe up to 20 or so and had been in a relationship for a while?

Reason I ask is because I have seen that happen a few times and wondered if much is due to the incredible hormones that are happenning at the time and the stunting of the use of them by having a relationship.


In other words its maybe a part of nature for a guy to get out there and sew his seeds while he is at his most virile
 
MazDan, yeah I was 21 and had been with my girlfriend for about a year.

I think you're right. I was in no way ready to settle down with one girl forever at that point. Especially since I hadn't really been with that many people up until then.

Even my Nanna tells me to play the field before I choose one forever. Just now I would do it without hurting someones feelings so badly.
 
chopped_chimp said:
MazDan, yeah I was 21 and had been with my girlfriend for about a year.

I think you're right. I was in no way ready to settle down with one girl forever at that point. Especially since I hadn't really been with that many people up until then.

Even my Nanna tells me to play the field before I choose one forever. Just now I would do it without hurting someones feelings so badly.
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Yeah, I just watched a mate go through it.....well almost.

He has been with his gf for a few years now and he just turned 21 a few months ago.

He had a one night stand to bust his V prior to her but he recently went out with the lads and found he had women all over him and it got him thinking about what he was missing out on.

He didnt follow through cos we, his mates, explained that it was fine to go on with it but only if he lost the gf first......... he considered for a while and decided not to lose her.

However I wouldnt be surprised if the idea pops up again.........I just hope he does the right thing by her cos she is a good girl.
 
i did, because i was still in love with the ex i cheated with.. I was in a realtionship with the guy for 2 months or so, and after i slept with the ex, all i could see when i kissed my BF was flashes of me and the ex f*cking.. it was horrible.. I broke up with him the nex time i saw him.
 
I have only cheated once and once only. The girl I cheated with was someone who I had been madly in love with previously and having got over it but still having feelings, I saw an opportunity where I could get some action and went for it.

I specifically remember just before it happened thinking, "but what about my girlfriend?" I immediatiely rationalised the situation and thought it would be worth it because I just really didnt like her anymore. She had been supremely pissing me off and I had realised she wasnt for me. Things were over anyway.

She found out what had happened that night and we stayed together for a while without mention of the incident. We went out, had great sex, did all the normal things but she just suddenly broke up with me and told me I knew why without actually saying anything. I was actually glad.
 
MazDan said:
In other words its maybe a part of nature for a guy to get out there and sew his seeds while he is at his most virile
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Contrary to popular opinion, I think that goes for a lot of women too from what I've observed. I think a lot of the time it's mostly about just being bored and wanting something new, but I think many women tend to try to rationalise this by bringing emotional factors into the equation, e.g. feeling unloved, lack of communication in relationship, seeking attention. I'm definitely not saying that all women that cheat are doing it because they're bored, it's just that men are more likely to admit that they did it out of boredom, because it's seen as more of a "male thing" to sow wild oats, whereas women tend to look for other excuses because women are "supposed" to act on emotions rather than physical urges.
 
I cheated once, sort of.

It's a complex story, but I will make it as basic as possible by giving only relevant details.

My girlfriend and I were "taking a break" and she fucked my cousin. We got back together, and as revenge on the both of them, I fucked my cousin's chick.
 
honestly... i cheated a decent amount on my last gf, but in my defense, she like moved away but didnt want me to break up with her. so i was doin the long distance thing senior year of highschool, fuck that, no?

so yea, i cheated on her quite a few times, but not out of anything other than a need to satisfy. there was really only one, maybe two... other girls that i would have considered dating seriously, and with both the connection never went past friendship, w/ some benefits of course.

i feel horrible about it, she knows about a few times.. not all of them. it doesnt matter anymore, but i know i kind of fucked with that girls head. i wont cheat ever again, but ill also never do the long distance thing again. fuck that shite.
 
I cheated in one relationship, my third year of college. I haven't cheated since then, and don't think I ever will, because it was very destructive and led to other destructive behavior patterns.

Neglect would be the obvious reason. I felt like I wasn't needed or valued, despite working my ass off and going to school. It was an unequal relationship from the beginning, there was a lot of family pressure from his end, and I lost respect for him so I justified my bad behavior with the fact that things weren't perfect between us.

I don't expect to ever do it again. My thinking was completely wrong.
 
Cheated one time on my 1st wife... I had always been (secretly) bi-curious. I knew my wife would never understand- hell she thought it was weird when I even mention buying a vibrator, so I knew she would not think well of my bi-curiosity. So I hooked up with a guy I met online for a one time experimentation.
 
Well I never wanted to cheat, but I guess it's in my nature. Somehow I used to find that I could not satisfy my sexual needs with a single partner. In my first marriage I made no secret of the fact that I felt that sexual faithfulness was restrictive, and I had several adventures with both men and women.
In my second marriage I was faithful for about ten years, and then I started visiting prostitutes. After a while I became involved with a prostitute and we had a relationship which went on for about 15 years. Of course my partner found out fairly quickly (after about 3 months). I swore I would give up the relationship but I was just physically unable to. My hair turned grey from the stress. Towards the end of this affair I met a man with whom I fell in love and actually went to live with. He introduced me to a way of experiencing sexuality which ultimately brought me full satisfaction and although I ended with him I was able to enjoy this new found (for me) form of sexual enjoyment with my wife and reestablish our long-standing relationship on a new footing.
Should I say that mdma saved our marriage?
 
She didnt really love me
She didnt sexually excite me
I was still in love with my 1st gf
My 1st gf was breaking up with her man and I was sexually frustrated enough to take advantage
ended being the LAST time I ever had truly amazing sex, over a year ago

i fucked up and went back to girl #2. predictably, broke up cause we weren't really into each other, but because I went back to her I lost girl #1 for good and it has brought me no end of misery and suffering since. hopefully I'll find someone new quick so I can get over her already.
 
Acidfiend said:
hopefully I'll find someone new quick so I can get over her already.
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Not to get too far off topic, but I commend your effort. Finding someone else with whom you have a lot in common and enjoy spending time is an excellent way to get over a failed relationship (regardless of fault). You don't even have to bring sexuality into it, enjoying fun and relaxed, zero-pressure time together is more than enough.
 
my friend told me this last night
if your not cheating your not trying hard enough
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he was talking about school. i'm not.


girls cheat like it's nothing and then go back to their boyfriends. why should i be any different. technically i don't cheat, ever, cause it's never like, "will you go out with me/be my girlfriend/mutual bullshit?" "Yes".
 
Never cheated. For the 17 years my parents were married my Dad was a serial adulterer. Seeing how much this fucked my Mum up kind of turned me off the whole idea.
 
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