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For those who have cheated - Why did you?

I've cheated on nearly every boyfriend I've ever had...not physical cheating, but more of a 'mental' sort of cheating: talking, flirting, etc.

I guess the reason is once I have the guy, I get amazingly bored with him very quickly. I enjoy the chase more than the rewards.
 
I think I read about some studies they did in the uk once. They found out that a surprising amount of babies that the fathers thought were THEIRs actually weren't. I don't remember exact statistics or anything, but the number was up there. Damn near close to 50% of the study group.
 
I was 15 and began going out with a girl i became very close and can be described as my first proper girlfriend. In the first few months i had been told she had cheated on me already.. she was one of them that wouldnt let me out of her sight, but would go and meet someone behind my back when i was away or something :( she really did have a nasty streak to her :\

I think i got about 9 month into the relationship and slept with someone else :| i was getting my own back as you would call it, but i felt really gross afterwards. WE carried on doing this to each other for a good 3 years, in the end i broke it up because i had decided i couldnt go on any longer with this girl.. she seemed to treat me completely different when she was with her friends and things, and she was very controllive :(..

Now i am 19, I had a 9 month brake and met a new girl who i can only describe as perfect. She is younger than me which is different to my last girl who was older than me, but she seems much more emotionally mature. She is very straight up with me, i really trust her.. I hope she trusts me , because i wouldnt ever cheat on her, i have decided that if i do get cheated on i will brake up straight away because i dont want to go down that path again.. and i will just wait until i am single because despite my lack of self esteem i know that their are plenty more fish in the sea :)
 
Wonderlandless said:
I've cheated on nearly every boyfriend I've ever had...not physical cheating, but more of a 'mental' sort of cheating: talking, flirting, etc.

I guess the reason is once I have the guy, I get amazingly bored with him very quickly. I enjoy the chase more than the rewards.
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sorry, i but i thing think there is no such thing as mental cheating.
 
how about just be damn horny all the time - - a lot more horny than my partner. I need sex all the time and lots of it - LOL.
 
arizona83 said:
I was drunk, she was an old flame. Not too much to it really...
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Damn, I think you're the one I cheated with. I was drunk and he was an old flame!
Besides my husband was an extremely emotionally abusive bastard. And people wonder why I love drugs!
 
most times i used the i was drunk cop out. other times it was just for fun. also because i was insecure as fuck and wanted to prove i could. dont do it anymore though.
 
I haven't. But if I have ever thought about it it would have been because I was drunk.
 
Wonderlandless said:
I've cheated on nearly every boyfriend I've ever had...not physical cheating, but more of a 'mental' sort of cheating: talking, flirting, etc.

I guess the reason is once I have the guy, I get amazingly bored with him very quickly. I enjoy the chase more than the rewards.
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You can't just say a statement like this and not try and explain why you think and act this way. I would enjoy hearing your insight, it would be much appreciated.
 
Because I could.

Because I was bored.

Because I was giving him a reason to break up with me.

Because the person I was with used to tell me I needed to go to the gym, and someone made me feel wanted.

I've cheated in nearly every relationship I've ever been in.
 
greenfalcon said:
because she was more aesthetically pleasing than my lady at the time
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This, I would only cheat "up", if you catch my drift.

But then again, I wouldn't get into a relationship if I wasn't satisfied with the partner. I'd dump the girl before I'd cheat on her.
 
THeRaVeToY said:
Because I could.

Because I was bored.

Because I was giving him a reason to break up with me.

Because the person I was with used to tell me I needed to go to the gym, and someone made me feel wanted.

I've cheated in nearly every relationship I've ever been in.
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This doesn't answer my question at all, sorry if I wasn't more clear. I guess what I'm asking is, why is it okay for you to do it because "you could" or you "were bored" when someone else is lied to and hurt as a result? Do you just not give a fuck? And if not, why (if you don't mind my asking)?
 
Sick of the abuse

All i wanted was a serious relationship, a girl to be really good to, and i guess my male side also wanted a physically attractive girl. I got both.. and it was really good while the fairytale aspect lasted.

But inevitably it ended and i went back to a girl i used to be close with for the comfort. I just didnt get anything i needed from the girlfriend at the time and even she accepted and told me that she knew she wasnt giving me what i needed.

Felt like she was cheating on me alot too, she had so many close male friends, and going out for car rides until 12 at night with her "best friend" was completely acceptable, "we're just friends, if it was a girl you wouldnt be bothered".

To give a lyrical example to support my case, the offsprings "self esteem" reminds me of her to the point that when i speak to her next (havent spoken in awhile, thank god) i'll dedicate it to her.
 
Because he moved away to go to grad school, I was doing a lot of drugs at the time, and I finally had a chance with a forbidden partner I'd had my eye on a long time. I broke up with my boyfriend very soon after.
 
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