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First Date Sex-Question for the Guys

mludd said:
Obviously I have no problem with there being some kind of external factor that interferes with a woman's willingness to have sex with me but if she chooses not to have sex with me because she doesn't want me to think that she's a slut then clearly she's not my type.

/mludd
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Similarly if I went on a first date with an attractive guy and we hit it off and have good sex then he doesn't call me back cause 'I slept with him so I must be a slut' he can fuck right off! Guys who think this way are not my type. It did happen before and I was simply grateful for the hot sex and relieved to find out straight away it wasn't going to work between us.

And by the way, I'm currently on my 3rd long-term relationship and my first one, which resulted in a 5-year marriage, started off as a drunken one-night stand! %)
 
No, my fiancee and I fucked on the first date, at first she kept seeing me cause' i was so damn good :) after that she started to love me, 2 years later im still with her.
 
My current girlfriend and I had sex on our first date, and we've been together for 9 months now. We both get along great and are happy and content. I think it all depends on the people involved, but the general rule is that, yeah, there is a good chance they wont call you again if you have sex with them the day you first go out together.
 
Pander Bear said:
why would you question her character when you're the one who fucked her on a first date?
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Yes, darling, but I am way aHEAD (good pun, yes?) of you on this one. We all know about the good ole' double standard. :\ Sucks for women 'cause we are the one's that say what goes. The man are always down for anything. Fortunately.
 
lola said:
Similarly if I went on a first date with an attractive guy and we hit it off and have good sex then he doesn't call me back cause 'I slept with him so I must be a slut' he can fuck right off! Guys who think this way are not my type. )
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Excellent point, Lola. Guess they are not my type anyway, judgmental dicks.
But if it was hot sex, why not do it on the daily?:D One night would not be enough for me! You would think that people would want long term goodness instead of one nighters, but I guess some men just like to sport fuck.
 
When I was a young punk, it was my fondest hope that any given girl would be willing to have sex on the first date. :) These days, if a girl wanted to have sex on the first date, not only would it not happen, but there most likely wouldn't be a second date.

Hypocritical? Not really; I've just grown up. I used to find casual sex acceptable (and even desirable) because I was immature and foolish, not because I was 'liberated' or 'open minded'. While being afraid of or ashamed of your own sexuality is silly and quite unhealthy, there is also nothing good or admirable about reducing the significance of sex to the level of a handshake; the potential consequences (disease, emotional entanglements, pregnancy) are too serious.
 
TheDEA.org said:
When I was a young punk, it was my fondest hope that any given girl would be willing to have sex on the first date. :) These days, if a girl wanted to have sex on the first date, not only would it not happen, but there most likely wouldn't be a second date.

Hypocritical? Not really; I've just grown up. I used to find casual sex acceptable (and even desirable) because I was immature and foolish, not because I was 'liberated' or 'open minded'. While being afraid of or ashamed of your own sexuality is silly and quite unhealthy, there is also nothing good or admirable about reducing the significance of sex to the level of a handshake; the potential consequences (disease, emotional entanglements, pregnancy) are too serious.
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Well, if you consider sex on the first date to "reduce the significance of sex" then I can understand why you wouldn't want to have sex on the first date but not all of us think of it that way.

To me sex on the first date is no less significant than sex on the second, third, fourth or three-hundred and fifty-seventh date. And as I stated previously I wouldn't want to be in a long-term relationship with someone who had these kinds of "rules" for when it's ok to start having sex with someone, if you want sex then just go for it, unless you're in a dedicated relationship and you meet someone else in which case you should end the existing relationship before getting involved with a new person.

/mludd
 
lola said:
Similarly if I went on a first date with an attractive guy and we hit it off and have good sex then he doesn't call me back cause 'I slept with him so I must be a slut' he can fuck right off! Guys who think this way are not my type. It did happen before and I was simply grateful for the hot sex and relieved to find out straight away it wasn't going to work between us.
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Yea, I've always thought that if there was one thing that first-date sex is excellent for then it's weeding out the hypocrites.

Still, even though I am appallingly bad at practising what I preach, I believe it's best to wait a little bit before having sex. I've had a few relationships that started with great sex, only to find out a while later that there was nothing else but great sex. Although sex isn't the only thing that is capable of blinding people, the same could be said for many things.

I'm pretty happy with myself that I waited for three weeks before having sex with my current bf. Though to be honest, the first week I was on my period, and then he was on holiday for two weeks, otherwise the deed would surely have been done sooner. Still, we knew each other for at least a month before that. I don't know if it made any difference or not. But I haven't waited that long since I was a virgin, so I'm proud :p ;)
 
The "significance of sex" to me depends on the situation. And the potential consequences? I protect myself appropriately from pregnancy and disease. As far as my heart? That is not as easy to protect, but every bit as worthy of protection. I have been disappointed so many times, that me getting really hurt in the deal is unlikely. I know better than to count on anyone but myself. It takes a long time for me to trust. I don't give trust - it must be earned. I take what I call acceptable risk. If the chase is all he wanted, I know soon enough and I was not in it long enough to get attached, anyway.
 
I respect a woman more for having sex on a first date. Sex if fun. If you want to have it with someone your attracted to the sooner the better.
 
to be honest, I like it when girls have great sex with me on the first date... I respect them more for it, as long as if we are dating they don't fuck other people. I have sex on the first date.
 
I'm a girl and if it feels right i will usually have sex on a first date,...i am perfectly aware that some guys might deem that 'slutty', but to be honest, if thats the way they feel, its no loss to me if they don't want a serious relationhsip after, because they CLEARLY have complete different views on sex to me, and ridiculously, hypocritical & sexist attitude towards women.
 
i met this girl and we were having sex in a NO STRINGS ATTACHED 'Relationship', she loved having sex we would every day for hour 3 times or more (for hours at a time), She wantd us to be going out but I was "Getting over an ex' and than when I wanted to get with her she said it was too late (basically being childish because she did admit she still had a thing for me). But that's the way things went. I just think i turned her on so much she wanted to have sex the 1st time we started kissing, But she was going to a party and a week or so later i popped 50mgs of morphine, than brought the bottle to her house (of Morphine) with a bottle of vodka, and we got fucked up on morphine and Vodka and had GREAT SEX. I actually miss that girl, She always treated me like a sweetheart...........
 
It is SO HARD for me to stop once I get turned on. A good kisser so will do it. And someone that licks and sucks and nibbles on my neck and ears.
 
ccm said:
It is SO HARD for me to stop once I get turned on. A good kisser so will do it. And someone that licks and sucks and nibbles on my neck and ears.
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Exactly, go with what you FEEL........
 
It's completely dependent on the person and situation. What sort of previous established relationship one has with the person makes a huge difference.
 
Yes, I think she is a slut, normally. If she is letting me have sex with her on the first date, than its probably not the first time....or the last.
A girl who makes you wait earns my respect. If they give in too easy, thats because they probably are......
 
dshcok - just a friendly question - what does that make you?
 
ccm said:
dshcok - just a friendly question - what does that make you?
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It makes him a guy who has sex with a 'Slut'. You don't lose any points at all with me, as long as the connection is there and your both feeling it than why the fuck not? Society makes it like there should be some time period before having sex with somebody or they are 'easy' oe a 'Slut' but to me thats just a normal person who likes sex just like I do. :)


Personally I think it's actually pretty sexy, Definatly a Turn-On.
 
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