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My wife and I want to see what pleasure is to be had from this kind of role reversal, trying to see how to maximize pleasure, minimize mess. We are both pretty inexperienced in this particular arena, and have curiosity but also some hygiene issues / concern. I guess we want to know more about the landscape to decide if it is a hike worth taking.

Any thoughts?

~psychoblast~
 
my current bf loves it. I've met many guys who love it.

Minimize mess? Give yourself an enema first, take a shower. Don't want to give yourself an enema? Eat really lightly for a day. Make sure you've had a BM. You should be pretty clear.

This is a hike in the hershey highway worth taking. :)
 
To minimize mess I recommend an enema a couple of hours prior to play.
If it's just a medium sized strap-on you plan to play with it's unlikely you need more than one enema.
Anal explorations are far more pleasurable if you use a good lube.
I recommend silicon oil as it does not dry out quickly.
You may also consider a water-based lube but be advised that research has shown that some of the better known ones (including KY and Aquaglide) have been associated with higher rates of infection.
For maximum pleasure I'd suggest using a syringe or a lube shooter to get the lube inside.
Initially you will prefer something thin, but as you progress you will start to appreciate the full feeling of having a large dildo inside.
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Don't overdo them though. Poppers combined with mdma can make recipient anal sex extremely pleasurable too.
Position. For pegging there are two basic positions. You on your back or on your hands and knees.
The on your back position can be enjoyable if you have some kind of system for supporting your legs (a sling is good)
You will need something under your bottom to make you anus accessible.
On your hands and knees gives easier access.
Straddle a cushion or two so that your legs are spread as wide as possible and your bumhole is not too high.
The cushions also provide support for your hips so that the muscles and tendons in your bum area are not tense.
That helps penetration and makes it more enjoyable.
Have fun.
 
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Basically, since I wear camo and jump from air planes at 35000+ feet ASL, I frankly feel manly enough to admit I enjoy it.

Enemas however never seemed appealing. I've never had any problems, and I would gather eating lighting for a day before, and taking an opioid before hand to slow movement of matter from small intestine to rectum might help. (Can be fake opioid like 30mg of codeine of loperamide) further, maybe this just my desensitization from bagging rotting bodies in war zones, but damn man, its just a bit of fecal at worst. Keep it out of mouth/eyes/vagina/open wounds, and its harmless!

An easy posn for access is the same one used for lumbar puncture. On your side, knees to chest, arms holding knees.

Start with a finger or small plug. You can work up slowly to larger toys. Orgasms while being penetrated can be mind blowing.
 
*llama has instructed me to edit this post, but as I can now see that I have been quoted twice, including by llama, I don't see what good it is do so now, but as you requested...*
 
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It will take some getting used to, but it's worth persevering. The sub / dom role-reversal mental space can be very interesting, and certainly worth exploring. I enjoy being on the receiving end massively, and can come from anal penetration alone, the orgasm being a full-body type thing with a massive head rush that's very different from that usually experienced, wiping me out completely for quite some afterwards.

Basic advice is almost so obvious as to hardly be worth stating, but start small, go super slow, and use lots and LOTS of lube. A good quality leather harness is a must. The cheap stuff out there is not worth wasting your money on. A decent harness will help your wife feel more in control, and give her some pleasurable feedback, cos the base of the dildo is gonna put pressure on her clit as she thrusts. Would recommend a good quality, soft, jelly type dildo. Something cheap, hard and plastic is gonna be harder to get used and less comfortable by a long way, so likely to put you right off the idea from the start.

You can douche beforehand if you have any issues with hygiene or are overly squeamish about the potential for 'mess', but generally it's not much of an issue. So long as you don't feel 'full' the rectum will be reasonably clean anyways. Sticking a condom on the dildo will minimise any mess anyways and make it easier to keep clean without too much fuss.

Enjoy! :)
 
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MyFinalRest said:
You fuckers are so nasty. But, I leave it to you get off in the way of your choosing. I just hope none of you girlz are tossin' your bf's salad too.
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Lmao :D Each to his own. Personally the idea of sticking anything up my bum just doesn't interest me.. just the idea of 'prolapse' is enough to deter me from ever adventuring there!
 
You know this is very common, right?

I don't have any advice really, try using toys if you haven't yet though.
 
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Too funny. How old are you Alex, just out of interest, cos it sounds like you still have a lot to learn about the varieties of human sexual experience? Repeat after me: Sexuality is not defined by sexual acts. It's the other way round: sexual acts are defined by our sexuality.
 
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Too funny. How old are you Alex, just out of interest, cos it sounds like you still have a lot to learn about the varieties of human sexual experience? Repeat after me: Sexuality is not defined by sexual acts. It's the other way round: sexual acts are defined by our sexuality.
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Oh, so not sticking things up your ass is "immature?" Now I'm offended! I even think Lysis would back me and Alex007 up on this subject - even though she hates my cyber guts!
 
Hahahaha. No, I was suggesting that Alex's conception of male heterosexuality must be a fragile thing indeed if all it takes to compromise it is a fake, plastic cock, and that a more mature view might be that what you do with your arse is neither here nor there as far as male heterosexuality is concerned. Anyways, last word from me on this, the thread's been hijacked enough by me even attempting to engage in a mature discussion with this.
 
male heterosexuality must be a fragile thing indeed if all it takes to compromise it is a fake, plastic cock
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Nothing else but a "real cock" could compromise heterosexuality more than a "fake plastic cock."

I'm not making any judgements on sexuality, whether it's right or wrong, but when a man seeks penetration, he's slipping towards something else. I'm not a big fan of anal sex anyway, well, really not at all because that is not the intended purpose of the orifice and there is more risk of injury, pain, and infections/STD's than through normal sex.
 
Alex007 said:
Taking a plastic dick up your ass is anything but heterosexual.
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MyFinalRest said:
...when a man seeks penetration, he's slipping towards something else.
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i'm going to take a stab and guess that you don't truly understand the meanings of the terms 'heterosexual' and 'homosexual'.

homosexual means "of, relating to, or characterized by a tendency to direct sexual desire toward another of the same sex"

heterosexual means "of, relating to, or characterized by a tendency to direct sexual desire toward another of the opposite sex"

if it's a chick - to whom you are attracted who's doing it - that's the very definition of the word 'heterosexual'.

related angry misunderstanding in this thread: Help Me Understand Anal Sex

alasdair
 
MyFinalRest said:
Nothing else but a "real cock" could compromise heterosexuality more than a "fake plastic cock."
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And I've heard that the real thing is always better=D

But I guess having the real one up your ass is gay whereas having the fake and counterfeit one is not.8(
 
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Alex007 said:
But I guess having the real one up your ass is gay whereas having the fake and counterfeit one is not.8(
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if it's a chick who's sticking it up there, it's definitely not gay.

again, see the definitions i posted - you seem to misunderstand the meaning of the term...

alasdair
 
I don't have any plastic dicks that I can use to experiment, So instead I licked my index finger and gently pushed it up into my ass. I won't lie it felt great, so I lay on the bed with my legs desperately dangling in the air and proceeded to penetrate my anus for a solid 30 minutes. Now I'm walking around with a gaping anus that's taking in more oxygen than my mouth, but be assured that I am in no shape or form a homosexual.
 
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