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People sure are defensive over their love of facebook, it's funny.

If you like it, use it. Clearly for some of us it causes a lot of problems and negativity in our lives and we are happier without one. I've tried. It doesn't work for who I am and what I want out of life. If it does for some people, whatever. To each their own.

use it or it uses you (even if you boycot it in spite).
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How does it "use you" if you don't take part in it?
 
i deleted mine when the models in the advertisements started to look like me. bearded, kind of disheveled, with the tag line, "are you 27 and going back to school? get our loans!"

basically just another way to be advertised to.
 
Yeah, like has been mentioned before Facebook is what you make it. I rarely comment on friends' statuses or photos, and maybe post a status myself once every week or two. I have no profile picture.

I used Facebook for the chat (I need to talk about fantasy trades, upcoming parties, talk to friends who live far away, etc) and for the events. I find some people get way too into Facebook, to the point where it takes over there lives.

One thing that pisses me off about Facebook is the whole relationship thing. Maybe it's because I'm in highschool, but whenever it seems couples get into fights, they "break-up" on Facebook, only to be back "In a Relationship" 30 minutes later. It bugs me, because it seems like these people use Facebook to define who they are as a person. I just can't seem to grasp the concept of constantly updating your profile, or what it achieves.

EDIT: I lied, I also use Facebook to show music to my friends.
 
^ again, why does what someone else does - something that doesn't affect you personally at all - upset you? announcing an on-again/off-again relationship to fb friends via relationship status updates (while i understand relationships tend to change day-to-day in high school anyway) is immature and in the case of YellowNikes ex-girlfriend, it's pathetic.

as someone celebrating their 10 year high school graduation next year, i have a facebook friend that is always posting updates bitching about her baby's daddy and changing her relationship status, what seems like daily. from my perspective, that reflects badly upon her and i find it kind of sad that as a mother at 27 she hasn't grown up enough to understand that relationship issues are best resolved between the two people actually in the relationship.

what i'm trying to say is: i'm probably not going to be spending a whole lot of time visiting with her during our reunion next year. searching for online allies against your boyfriend is not something i do and not something i'm interested in, so i feel momentarily sorry for her lack of judgment, thankful i'm not in her situation and move on to more interesting and positive updates.

if something someone typed ever upset me: i'd just delete them. i don't know what sort of facebook drama could occur that couldn't be remedied by removing and/or blocking if necessary the asshole from your friend's list.

i don't get the whole CIA thing either. maybe i'm naive in thinking that out of 310 million people, i'm important enough that government organizations are really going to want to know my every move. but if they did, since i have a social security number and pay taxes and have credit and debit cards and banking accounts and frequent bluelight using my home and office computer and use a cell phone and have a car loan and health insurance and a driver's license and even use frequent buyer cards at my local grocery chain - i don't think facebook is at the top of my list of places i'm concerned my information is found.
 
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I posted earlier in this thread, but after reading through it, I think some people are just too sensitive about "drama" on there. I've also had some freaks on my friends list who updated a million times a day and it was always "i'm so depressed i want to die i want attention look at me comment on my status!' so I just simply unfriended them. It's that easy. I knew them irl and accepted the request to be friendly, they were annoying enough for me not to want to see more of them than I had to in the first place.

And, people really make fake facebook pages to mess with people? Who the fuck has the time for that? Outside of highschool, that is absolutely ridiculous, stupid, and a waste of time.

I am friends with a few of BLers on facebook, and I don't think the fact I know them through BL makes them different than anyone else. I do NOT like drug comments on my wall, and those people do not like them on theirs either. It's common courtesy. I know a few people who will post shit like "LETS SMOKE A BLUNT" on my wall, and I delete it immediately and msg them. Then, it doesn't happen again, and if it does, I don't give a shit how good of friends we are, they are getting deleted. That doesn't have to be public. I don't let people take pictures of me doing drugs at parties, so those can never get posted. Alcohol is different (a wine glass in a pic or two may even look a little classy!), I'm of legal age and I'm not a total mess in the pictures I allow to remain tagged. Someone took a pic of me hitting a bong once, and when I was done I immediately took the camera out of their hands, deleted the pic, and bitched at them to never do that again.

/end facebook rant?
 
I need facebook to stay in touch with friends of of state... sometimes FB is just quicker than picking up the phone....

But the privacy factor is becoming an issue. Its too easy for LEO to see facebook info, and even though I don't post sketchy shit on FB... once I had a friend of mine on FB who was wanted by US marshalls (had no idea, and commented his page) well... 2 days later they came to my house and fucking searched the fuck outta my place for him. I was honest that I might have an "old" marijuana pipe in the house and they said if they found it they would just take it, they were just there for my "friend". Apparently he robbed 5 people in 6 days and held up a liquor store.
 
jeez, chem, that shit is hard core. You got your whole house searched because of a FB post? That is truly horrifying.
 
Stories of Authorities acting on things posted on Facebook have definitely been becoming more common in the last couple years. I've read about people being arrested for admitting to crimes, kids being suspended from school and people being fired for posting certain things or pictures.
 
wow. that is scary but is that possible when you hide your information from public view? i mean, when someone's hanging it all out there for the world to see, making their information public and they get busted, do they really have anyone to blame but themselves?

in the case of CS, that is pretty terrible. like all of your own updates and photos, you should have the option to select who can (mutual friends only) and who cannot (friends of friends / public) see your comments on friends' walls or to friends' updates.
 
It's not, no. Facebook has extremely detailed security settings you can customize to a 'T'. You can make make yourself completely unfindable to anyone or everyone if you wanted to.
 
What's the big deal with facebook anyway? Why didn't people stick with Myspace which was popular first? Is there any difference between the two?

I have never used facebook, but I used to have a Myspace account which has probably been deleted due to inactivity (2 years).
 
Whew, I just deleted it for reals. I'm officially off the grid. I have deactivated it a few times in the past, but then I always end up logging back in. It's super fucking time-wasting and addictive for me. I could be doing so much better things with my time. Like my homework, working out, or calling up someone to hang out with in real life. Bluelight is the only thing I'm going to keep since it seems to at least be of some value. Facebook is just a time waster. I feel so free!!!! If anyone needs to get a hold of me, they know how. And if they don't know how, they probably dont need to get a hold of me.
 
GenericMind said:
Facebook has a much more up-to-the-minute interactive feel to it.
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That, and Myspace effectively gave itself a low quality, ghetto image once it started letting users "pimp out" their pages (customize them to make them look like whatever the hell they wanted them to). That shit got old quickly, and I think most people got pretty fed up with it.

Facebook had just started to allow anyone to join right around that time (rather than only a select bunch of college and university students) and as a result, Myspace got kicked to the curb virtually overnight it seemed like.

I don't know anyone who uses Myspace anymore. I use Facebook regularly, it's a good way to stay connected to peers and friends in my undergrad department. I also just made a page for my photography business I'm starting up right around the time I graduate; it's a great tool for self-promotion in that regard. My actual photography website gets way more hits now than it did before.
 
GenericMind said:
Facebook has a much more up-to-the-minute interactive feel to it.
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I agree with you GM. Also, myspace seemed really juvenile to me. I was happy to get on FB and I've met a lot of old friends from high school on FB which is much nicer than paying for Classmates.
 
socko said:
Why didn't people stick with Myspace which was popular first?
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MynameisnotDeja said:
How does it "use you" if you don't take part in it?
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the reasons you indicated for not using it, are still as a reaction to it. therefore it is still controlling (using) you. take charge :)

i never used my real name on it. therefore, i can be selective as to who i have on access to my stuff. you couldn't find me if you didn't know me on bl, so for me, it's just an extension of this site, but one i can share with a few others who aren't blers.
 
FuturePig said:
i don't get the whole CIA thing either. maybe i'm naive in thinking that out of 310 million people, i'm important enough that government organizations are really going to want to know my every move. but if they did, since i have a social security number and pay taxes and have credit and debit cards and banking accounts and frequent bluelight using my home and office computer and use a cell phone and have a car loan and health insurance and a driver's license and even use frequent buyer cards at my local grocery chain - i don't think facebook is at the top of my list of places i'm concerned my information is found.
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Yeah, the government isn't the real threat, it's more a slow accumulation of corporate knowledge and its influence on culture and the economy that's the issue (as described in my last post).
 
I understand why people use Facebook and that it may bring alot of joy to people as well as be a convenience in terms of social-networking etc, and I have no problem with people using it (all my friends do). But personally I don't and never will use it, or myspace or any of that stuff.

Also, Damien, from listening to some of my friends talking about Facebook, they were telling me how that exact thing happens there too, re: the random attractive girls requesting to be your friend (trolls, I guess?) Facebook? more like, Fakebook.
 
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