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Exploitation of children
- Thread starter doofqueen
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BloSs0m
Bluelighter
ok, back on the baby pagent topic...
*another wonderful anedote from the Bloss vaults*
when i was 3 or 4 (mayeb 3.5 anyway i was still in canberra at the time) i *chose* to be in a child pagent. i was in a shopping centre with my mum, and a lady asked me if i wanted to be in a pagent. My mum dint want me to do it at all. But show off Baby Bloss deceided that "no mum, im doing it" and i did it.
It wasnt one with all the make up and curlers and crazy shit like i saw in a documentary i watched about the whacked out ones in america with girls who wear more makeup than i do for ballet, and basically about *paretns living through their kids*, where they are more concerned with *their daughters* winning them expensive sports cars, and novelty cheques...
it was a humble little bit of fun in a shopping centre.
AND i *LOVED* IT.
always the performer, i got up there, sang baa baa black sheep whilst wearing a pretty dress and just smiled my guts out because i was having so much fun.
^i think experiences like these are fine. If not character building, i mean, that was my first taste of being *on a real stage* (be it in a shopping centre, but still a *real stage*) and i think ive been set on being a performer ever since. Its just when things get taken to the extreme that it can be seen as a bad thing...
...But that documentary, i cant remember what it was, but it truly disgusted me.
However, Beauty pagents are like anything in life.... There is always too far.
*another wonderful anedote from the Bloss vaults*
when i was 3 or 4 (mayeb 3.5 anyway i was still in canberra at the time) i *chose* to be in a child pagent. i was in a shopping centre with my mum, and a lady asked me if i wanted to be in a pagent. My mum dint want me to do it at all. But show off Baby Bloss deceided that "no mum, im doing it" and i did it.
It wasnt one with all the make up and curlers and crazy shit like i saw in a documentary i watched about the whacked out ones in america with girls who wear more makeup than i do for ballet, and basically about *paretns living through their kids*, where they are more concerned with *their daughters* winning them expensive sports cars, and novelty cheques...
it was a humble little bit of fun in a shopping centre.
AND i *LOVED* IT.
always the performer, i got up there, sang baa baa black sheep whilst wearing a pretty dress and just smiled my guts out because i was having so much fun.
^i think experiences like these are fine. If not character building, i mean, that was my first taste of being *on a real stage* (be it in a shopping centre, but still a *real stage*) and i think ive been set on being a performer ever since. Its just when things get taken to the extreme that it can be seen as a bad thing...
...But that documentary, i cant remember what it was, but it truly disgusted me.
However, Beauty pagents are like anything in life.... There is always too far.
doofqueen
Bluelighter
^^ I think that's the same show that i watched and i was absolutely horrified by it.
Like i said i'm all for sports comps (totally different to pagents and it's not what i was talking about but anyway
) I'm keen to put my son into soccer etc when i get a car.
Also have no probs with ballet and things like that that are artistic and the kids love to do because it's not really a "show off" kind of event (although i'm sure there are some kids that don't like to do it and only do it to please their parents)
and i think it's fine if a child wants to do it and is at the age that they can and it's not full on.
Like i said i'm all for sports comps (totally different to pagents and it's not what i was talking about but anyway
) I'm keen to put my son into soccer etc when i get a car.Also have no probs with ballet and things like that that are artistic and the kids love to do because it's not really a "show off" kind of event (although i'm sure there are some kids that don't like to do it and only do it to please their parents)
and i think it's fine if a child wants to do it and is at the age that they can and it's not full on.
doofqueen
Bluelighter
any more thoughts and experiences?
onetwothreefour
Bluelight Crew
surprise surprise, i'm going to sit on the fence as usual.
some can be good, some bad. pageants and things like that are all pretty fucking horrendous, imo. anything where the child is purely being exploited for their parents ego or monetary gain is just fucking awful.
otoh, things where children and encouraged to put in a large effort to dancing/sport/acting and so on, are not so bad, imo. if the child makes it adamantly clear that they're not enjoying it, i think the parent shouldn't persist, but otherwise, why not? it's these things which allow people larger opportunities as they grow up - i *wish* i'd been encouraged to take on more extra-curricular activities. i played a lot of sport, but i think i would have benefited from other activities too.
so, i think, with a lot of things concerning parents and children, it's really most important to see where the parents' interests lie, in these cases.
some can be good, some bad. pageants and things like that are all pretty fucking horrendous, imo. anything where the child is purely being exploited for their parents ego or monetary gain is just fucking awful.
otoh, things where children and encouraged to put in a large effort to dancing/sport/acting and so on, are not so bad, imo. if the child makes it adamantly clear that they're not enjoying it, i think the parent shouldn't persist, but otherwise, why not? it's these things which allow people larger opportunities as they grow up - i *wish* i'd been encouraged to take on more extra-curricular activities. i played a lot of sport, but i think i would have benefited from other activities too.
so, i think, with a lot of things concerning parents and children, it's really most important to see where the parents' interests lie, in these cases.
bettyboop
Bluelighter
doofqueen said:
I watched that Documentary too and I think it was called 'Painted Babies'
It sure disturbed the hell outta me. The parents were just shocking!
MazDan
Bluelight Crew
Its all about balance.
To much of anything can be a bad thing.
To much focus on one thing can be bad........kids need to experience many things not just focus on one or two.
Parents need to ensure they have the childs best interests balanced properly with there own.
Everything needs balance.
To much of anything can be a bad thing.
To much focus on one thing can be bad........kids need to experience many things not just focus on one or two.
Parents need to ensure they have the childs best interests balanced properly with there own.
Everything needs balance.
doofqueen
Bluelighter
absolutely. A child has to explore the world and they can't do that if they are being maded to do the same thing over and over.