Experiences With Prostitutes & Prostitution

[lawofkato]

Wow. All this talk about private and consensual sex...some with random people, some with people that normally don't do it and some that just get a prostitute. I've never, not once just met someone and had some random sex. I've never, not even once had a friend or someone like that and just had random sex. It's always been in a relationship type setting.

Am I missing out? I've seriously...always wanted too. Tons of fantasies and stuff about it all the time...but I've never been able to make it come true. I FEEL like I am missing out...am I?

 

[Beatlebot]

Has it changed your view on men at all? Do you think you will settle into a long term relationship or are you already in one? How does it effect your personal sex life? How do you keep yourself safe, not just from STDs but from assault?

 

[xtcgrlatl]

that's also about 500 different partners annualy.
Aren't you concerned at all about std's or hiv?

Very concerned, actually. But I always use protection and I'm pretty discriminating in a way that I think will minimize my chances.

I'll try to explain, and some of this will likely be a little controversial but it's also the nature of the game and the city I live in.

My first line of discrimination is the fact that I charge 200 dollars (and will probably raise to 250 soon). That's a pretty hefty sum for most people to come by to get laid. As a result of this the people that are financially stable enough to afford me are almost always older married white guys. They tend to be unattractive and thus not really the type to be able to sleep around casually. Most of them that see me have never even seen an escort before and havent had anything but their wife for the past 10 years and are terrified of STD's just like me.

My second line of discrimination is just talking to people. If a guy is younger then about 27 I don't see him. If a guy mentions that he's bi, I dont see him. If a guy talks about his casual sexcapades, I dont see him. If a guy talks about seeing other prostitutes in the recent past, I dont see him. If he asks about "bareback" I dont see him. if a guy asks if I "party" (drug use) I dont see him.

When I'm talking to a client I really want to hear "i'm a 40 year old married white business executive and I've never done anything like this before" That's my preferred market.

Now one might notice that I keep mentioning "white". I dont tend to see minorities. This is not because I have a problem with minority clients directly.

My primary reasoning is that there are a LOT of black and latina prostitutes in atlanta. As such that market tends to be really competitive and the minority girls are often really cut-throat. They generally have to charge significantly lower prices, as a result of that they tend to rush through 8 or more tricks a day and they tend to be more willing to bareback and that kind of thing to increase their competitive edge. Basically they engage in more risk taking behavior. And I know this because I watch their ads where they post pictures of bareback anal with their clients and charge 60 bucks a session and that kind of thing.

So what does this have to do with me and minority clients? Minority clients are not intimidated by seeing minority prostitutes like my upscale white clients are. You can get a pretty hot black girl for about 100 bucks an hour, maybe 60 a half hour , pretty easy to come by that money. As far as white girls go you'll really generally only get trashy burnt out escort for that price.

Also looking at the statistics it's mostly income challenged black and latino types that are the main transmitters of STD's in atlanta. I figure between price discrimination and racial discrimination I'm about as clear as I can be and be as. I've been successfull so far because i was tested in September and came up clear on everything.

So basically part of what a guy is paying for when he hires me is that I am classy in a down to earth kind of way, dont see all that many people and I dont rush and I enjoy what I do.

The other part of what he's paying for is that I'm pretty hot.

The other part of it is that when my buttons are pushed and I'm horny and feeling into it, I am an amazing fuck. Guys that I hook up with that dont know about what I do for a living and hook up with me are pretty much always blown away.

 

[xtcgrlatl]

I'm sure a fair amount are repeat customers.

Pretty true.

I'm guessing (hoping!) that the OP is using condoms religiously.

Here's a question for the OP: how many clients do you get who protest about condom usage, offer you extra money for bareback/raw, etc.? I came up during the Age of AIDS, so I'm pretty much a stickler for latex -- but I've always been surprised by the number of people who will have casual sex with strangers (or pros) and NOT want to use protection.

I use protection everytime, business or casual. For one thing, I am concerned for my health but I also feel a responsibility to the people I hook up with to safeguard their health to the best of my ability. I've had people offer me extra money to not use it, but I always turn them down in that regard, at this point if someone gives me vibes I dont like I just dont see them.If they give me bad vibes after they're already here I make enough money where it wouldnt hurt me to give them their money back and send them on their way.

Has it changed your view on men at all? Do you think you will settle into a long term relationship or are you already in one? How does it effect your personal sex life? How do you keep yourself safe, not just from STDs but from assault?

Changed my view on men? Not really. If I settle into a long term relationship with a guy then I'll probably just make sure I am disease free and leave that life behind. I'm in no rush to settle down though. It doesnt seem to effect my personal sex life (other then making me an expert on finding out what pushes a guys buttons both in the sense of I know what men as a whole tend to like and I know how to find an individuals buttons aswell)

I'm not looking for a relationship at the moment but for casual stuff sometimes I will call paticularly good in bed clients back and invite them over for a freebie if I am say...rolling and in the mood Other then that I keep my business and personal life pretty seperate.

The only real effect it's had on me is that I now see sex so casually that I've been sexually active with a couple friends of mine, just because i liked them as friends, who got attached to me and took the fact that I enjoyed going down on them to mean that I wanted to be in a relationship with them.

Mentally I've kind of programmed myself to come to see being sexual with a guy I like as being kind of like a reward or just fun for both of us and not a big deal that means we need to be in or are pursuing a relationship. As a result some of my guy friends guys get the wrong impression about how I view our relationship.

I don't really worry about assault, the clinetelle I see are very classy and I'm an athletic girl who's competed in brazilian jiujitsu.

 

[beamers]

with all that discriminating you do it sounds like there'd be no one left.

How many PM's have you received since starting this thread asking for a hook up?

 

[AmorRoark]

When I'm talking to a client I really want to hear "i'm a 40 year old married white business executive and I've never done anything like this before" That's my preferred market.

But how can you tell if he's lying or not? Maybe he sees a lot of escorts but realizes telling you this has gotten him shut down in the past? I mean, a lot of 40 year old married men have a reasonable amount of disposable income. With said income they could afford paying for sex on a fairly regular basis. I do commend you on the amount of precautions you impose. It sounds like you're being the safest an escort can be.

 

[MDPVagrant]

There was just something about seeing a person's values crumble for money that intrigued me I guess.

Why not just watch Jerry Springer, LOL %).

 

[serotoninstorm]

Paying for sex is common place in Japan, isn't it? I've heard that sex outside of marriage is bad, but only if you don't pay for it.

Can anyone confirm this?

 

[xtcgrlatl]

But how can you tell if he's lying or not?

If I can't then it probably doesnt matter that much because he has to wear a condom anyways. Nothing is ever really guaranteed so I just try and work with what I have to go on and do the best I can with that.

 

[xtcgrlatl]

with all that discriminating you do it sounds like there'd be no one left.

There are a lot of 35+ year old married white guys willing to pay for sex Before christmas kind of sucked up a lot of everyones disposable income I was getting about 20 calls a day. Most of those would never go anywhere, but I just can't handle more then three or four a day so before the holidays I was getting my schedule topped off a good 3-5 days in advance.

Christmas has slowed things down but I still have had one client today, have one more coming over in 30 minutes, and a potential one in about 2 more hours, have two planned for tomorrow already and will probably get a good 5-10 calls for people looking for "can you get together in an hour?" short notic stuff.

How many PM's have you received since starting this thread asking for a hook up?

None I'd prefer it to stay that way, i'm not really wanting to use Bl to advertise

 

[MDPVagrant]

Durn, I was just gonna ask if you offer a discount for BL'ers . (j/k)

 

[caveatemptor]

A lot of people don't seem to have a very good idea of what the modern internet age escort service is like.

There has been a lot of stuff mentioned here that is not even remotely applicable to escort service. Just because you have decided that you want to pay for sex does not implicitly mean you have also decided you are willing to also do anything on the planet. You are not gonna find nice "upscale" girls that are willing to have sex for money in some of the places that have been mentioned on this thread like strip joints or alleys. Hey just because you are interested in exchanging money for sex does not mean you are willing to stick your dick into random glory holes, so why would you be willing to stick it in some stripper or alley way crack whore?

That is not at all the business of escorts. Internet has really changed all that. This thread has "prostitute" in the title, but the OP mentioned escorts. Escort business, OK if you want to you can say it is still prostitution, but it is really more service oriented now, not about pimps and hoes and drugs. And not to be chauvinistic or disrespectful to women, and sure we have all hopefully had our random no strings hookups. But lets' be blunt here guys, for most of us, for all of the pussy you are gonna get in this lifetime, most of it ain't gonna be free. ;-)

A good escort is mostly about a simple to understand upfront arrangement for nothing more complicated than sex. In some cultures less prudish than Western, you will even find that women will acknowledge the same thing. In Russia for example you will find the expression of arrangements "bez kompleksov" - literally "without complications".

I pretty much agree with about everything xtcgrl has said from the other side of the coin.

I used to travel a lot for work. It tends to make you very isolated. And if you travel a lot for work one of two things is always true: Either you are generating a nice chunk of disposable income with little opportunity to ever dispose of it, or else you really need to get a different job.

The other thing is that life on the road is not fun. There is the not sleeping well away from home. There is the not eating well away from home. There is just the well, plain old away from home away from home. And doing what I did - tech service - was rough. Either a client was paying big money to fix a big problem, or else the company was paying big money to fix a problem with abig account they were afraid of losing. Either way it was my ass in a pressure cooker.

Escorts can provide a good business service. To those who say you can spend $$ on some drunk fat skank bar pickup, yeah if you say so. My time has a value attached. Good luck trolling the bars in a strange town on a Tuesday night when you have to be up at dawn the next day.

Contrast with working a really stressful day, knocking off, trying to catch a square somewhere, back to the hotel for a shower, a good solid hour of R&R with a hot chick who leaves you with a happy finish to bask in the joy of hotel basic cable and fall asleep by 10. Then you may understand the economics.

My experiences with escorts have ranged from worst experience of one or two times that were rushed and mechanical, to all the rest that was mostly flirty and a lot of fun. I am still healthy, OK, that may be a lie, but I am still definitely STD free. Girls were anywhere from really hot college coeds - fun for a novelty - to very attractive late 20s-30s girl next door types, which is definitely the way to go if you are looking for some quality companionship where the only thing that is "not quite normal" is that it is easily and reliably negotiated on mutually agreeable terms.

I am not recommending anything, it is still a high risk behavior. But if you want to engage sex for money, it's a buyer's market, and you are not having almost all good experiences, you are just not being a savvy consumer.

Just use a little common sense. Here is what I would suggest.

Forget alleys and strip joints definitely. In the US I would not go to a massage parlor either. Go internet. Craigs list is not what you are looking for, full of scams and skanks. Internet sites of upscale independents and agency gurls are easy to find. Start there.

Spend the $20 to join a review site for a month. There is one very good one, you can find it easily. It will give you everything you might want to know, what the girl is like, does she look like her photos etc. It also gives a lot more info especially for the discerning consumer. Me personally, a lotta tats are a big turn off. Certain piercings are a deal breaker. I will not fuck anyone, for money or free that is not willing to kiss. The concept may seem a little odd, but like I said, if you want a good experience, know what you are getting into.

Look at the terms. Outside of New York, LA and Chicago, $250-$350 an hour in most metro US areas is standard for an "upscale" escort. Less than that is not what the market will bear, so buyer beware. I avoid girls that offer anything less than an hour, too much traffic. I will not go into the details of "screening" but I will say I would not see anyone who doies not require it. Mornings, afternoons, and evenings are all normal. I would not work at 2am, girls who do are probably not for me. If you want nice, neatly groomed, good hygiene, use some common sense standards.

Other than that, the only other real info you might find useful, is a rather pointless debate argued by "regulars" on message boards, which is the hot topic of "agency versus independent". I'm not a "regular" and let me tell you it is total bullshit. I've had my best experiences with both approaches.

In general, I prefer to see agency girls if I have to go to them. The way a *good* agency works is they have a group of girls that they schedule, and take calls for - for a cut of course. The upsides are several - easier scheduling, if you want to see someone at a particular time and have a couple of choices you like. But here is the big thing for me - an agency usually maintains a flat somewhere in an accessible decent part of town. No one lives there - the girls just work out of there. Nice anonymous neatly furnished place with some candles, a bedroom, a bathroom, a couch, and most importantly, a washer/dryer and a closet full of sheets and towels. You show up, meet a nice girl in a nice clean place, no phone calls, no other people, no kids in another room, and a clean freshly made bed. Then you leave, or if you are like me, you might hang around and chat while the girl *changes the sheets* before she leaves. I appreciate the safety and level of service.

I would rather see independents on my turf - a girl that is willing to come to my hotel when I'm traveling. I really don't want to see a girl at her place, I feel a little vulnerable. I would usually rather not see a girl working out of a hotel room, I feel a little dirty.

So that is really about as much as you need to know, if you want to have a positive experience Take from it whatever you will. I've never thought of the girks as "whores". I've never thought of myself as a "john". I can pursue an attractive woman successfully when the circumstances suit me. I have also found that as a professional person living in the 21st century I can have a service is available on well defined terms when I want it and the circumstances are different.

I will not go into the personal details other than to say, that my best experiences have ranged from very soft and sensual to very fun and enthusiastic.

Like anything else in life, make reasonably good choices and approach everything with the proper attitude, and you improve your odds of a favorable outcome.

 

[PriestTheyCalledHim]

Pretty true.

I use protection everytime, business or casual. For one thing, I am concerned for my health but I also feel a responsibility to the people I hook up with to safeguard their health to the best of my ability. I've had people offer me extra money to not use it, but I always turn them down in that regard, at this point if someone gives me vibes I dont like I just dont see them.If they give me bad vibes after they're already here I make enough money where it wouldnt hurt me to give them their money back and send them on their way.

Do you use condoms when you give oral sex? What happens if a guy wants you to blow him and swallow him?

Do you French kiss/make out? I've heard that not all people who do sex for pay do this or they'll charge extra for it.

Do you go through an agency or is this all done on your own?

What's the weirdest request that a client has ever asked for that you did or didn't do?

Do you carry mace/weapons to protect yourself or have someone that you call while you have a guy you're having sex for pay with to make sure everything is OK?

 

[xtcgrlatl]

Everything.

Pretty much what he said.

I'll also add that I feel that if you get a girl with a good attitude that if you treat us like you'd treat a date that you'll have more fun.

I can give good service to a guy pretty much even if he does all the wrong things. If you hurt me, if you never say more then grunts, if you act really uncomfortable, part of my deal is that I'm still going to do my best to put on a good show to make it as nice as I can.

But for the guys that treat me like a fun date that they're excited to meet, the guys that pay attention to how I react to different things and have consideration for my pleasure..those are the guys that are going to jump on my review site and give me me 8's and 9's and leave my place talking about how whatever I just did was the hottest thing they've ever experienced, because sex, even sex for money, is still all about the energy you can give each other to build off of.

 

[GoddessLSD-XTC]

I seriously thought of being an escort two of my TS friends were. I hate to admit it 'cause it's a deadly sin to envy but I envy escorts and dancers, wish I could do it. When I went to Amsterdam I wanted to try it in a window but they wouldn't rent me a room 'cause I was not a member of the European Union so I ended up going to a sex club instead, where U can freelance.

xtcgrlatl:

When U do GFE, do U allow them to put their fingers in your V?

Do the clients ever get very passionate with U?

Do U ever feel like psychiatrist with them?

Do U allow anal? (How many ask?)

How often do U get turned on by them?

Do U fake orgasm?

Do U require a condom 4 BJ? (If not do U swallow?) Girls in Amsterdam require condoms and the BJ is usually just a warm-up to as many different positions U want in the time limit.

What percent of the clients cum?

Do U do this at your house? (If so, your neighbors must be suspicious!)

BTW: what does "flange" have to do with prostitution?

 

[Mariposa]

^I think the OP misspelled "fling".

This thread sure is interesting. I've never seriously considered sex work because everyone I know who's done it has regretted that part of their lives, but I don't consider myself any better or worse than anyone that does. Anyone who works for a living is technically a prostitute.

Not sure how you'd list it on your resume, but it is the world's oldest profession.

 

[xtcgrlatl]

Do you use condoms when you give oral sex?

No, since it's lower risk I dont worry about that nearly as much. I've heard of HIV+ people having HIV- partners for years and doing unprotected oral and the HIV- partner remains HIV free. More or less unless you've got a cut in your mouth you're pretty safe.

What happens if a guy wants you to blow him and swallow him?

Doesnt really get requested often.

I've been asked to allow that maybe 10 times out of some 300+ partners. If I am not specifically requested to let him finish in my mouth then I'm pretty good at telling when the volcano is going to blow during oral and getting out of the way.

I usually either let them finish in me with intercourse (protected, of course) and very often I'll finish them with a hand job in such a way that the mess goes on their belly. Or I encourage them to jack off on my boobs by telling them how hot I find it. A partial truth.

I've only had a guy go off in my mouth a few times and swallowed even fewer.

Do you French kiss/make out? I've heard that not all people who do sex for pay do this or they'll charge extra for it.

Depends on the situation. It's not something I like to do usually but I consider it part of the package so I will go with it even if I am not really into it if the guy seems to want that. I usually try and subtly push them in other directions ("I really like to have my neck/ear nibbled")

Do you go through an agency or is this all done on your own?

I'm independent. I feel it makes me less of a bust target.

What's the weirdest request that a client has ever asked for that you did or didn't do?

Most (99.9%)of my clients are pretty straight up just looking for a good looking girl with a good attitude to have a pretty standard romp with.

As far as unusual stuff I've had people just want to jerk off on me, in and out in 2 minutes and I collect 200 dollars, very cool.

I get people wanting to be dominated but I usually try and get across that I'll try but it's not my thing and they might be happier with another provider.

Outright most off putting was a dude (who didnt look like the type who could afford me in the first place and was kind of gross to me) asked me if he could "smoke while getting a blowjob" I said that he could...and he dug out the crackiest looking crack pipe ever. I'd never even seen crack before that point so I was just shocked.

I gave him his money back and made him leave.

Most unusual was a guy the other day. Good lookin guy, big athletic dude, clearly really the type to take care of himself, staying in a 500+ a night hotel.

Wanted me to sit on his face and poop in his mouth. I didnt have to poop but pretended anyways and that seemed to do it by him. He kept cooing over and over "give daddy your poo-poo" while jerking off. Eventually I peed on him instead and collected 200 dollars.

Do you carry mace/weapons to protect yourself or have someone that you call while you have a guy you're having sex for pay with to make sure everything is OK?

Well for outcalls to hotels (me going to them) i figure I am pretty safe because if you want to kill a hooker, doing it in your hotel room is a terrible idea

Most of my clients come see me at my apartment, and while i dont worry about my protection during work that much I usually have a gun that I am proficient with just under my mattress in case of break ins. I'm also an athletic girl that is more then capable of beating up Joe Average so I dont worry about it really.

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When U do GFE, do U allow them to put their fingers in your V?

I do but subtly try to get across that it's not my thing because honestly I find that a lot of clients hurt me with their fingers. I encourage rubbing but subtly discourage penetration.

Do the clients ever get very passionate with U?

If I do my part right, pretty much every time.

Do U ever feel like psychiatrist with them?

I'm sad to see a lot of them in marriages they're not happy with, but it's not my business. For the most part all the guys that see me have their heads on straight.

Do U allow anal? (How many ask?)

I do and I actually enjoy it. it's a fairly frequent request., maybe 30%ask

How often do U get turned on by them?

I try to every time. Mostly I get turned on by myself through imagination and just acting turned on can often turn me on.

Do U fake orgasm?

Not usually. I would but most clients dont care if I actually orgasm as long as I enjoy myself and the clients that want me to orgasm are usually kind of guided to do the things that will allow me to get myself off for them.

Do U require a condom 4 BJ? (If not do U swallow?) Girls in Amsterdam require condoms and the BJ is usually just a warm-up to as many different positions U want in the time limit.

I don't, most guys dont cum in my mouth because I'd rather move to intercourse, but I am very good at oral and consider it to be one of my specialties.

What percent of the clients cum?

Maybe 5 haven't.

Do U do this at your house? (If so, your neighbors must be suspicious!)

My apartment. Any perceptive neighbors can probably tell what I do, but I dont really care

BTW: what does "flange" have to do with prostitution?

Hell if i know, i didnt start the topic

 

[GoddessLSD-XTC]

You're waaaaay cool xtcgrl!

Bet it's fun to take E on the job too

EDIT: How many want to go down on U? (Do U discourage this too?)

Do U have clit orgasm or G? Which do U prefer?

How do U screen clients?

 

[Mariposa]

Wow - that's a pretty high level of risk tolerance you have, xtcgrlatl. You seem to have a healthy attitude about your work, but would you be able to get to your gun in time? Do you have a carry/conceal permit?

HIV is difficult to get by performing oral sex, but something as simple and seemingly innocuous as eating tortilla chips can cause microscopic tears that are big enough to let the virus in.

 

[xtcgrlatl]

Bet it's fun to take E on the job too

I only roll every 3 months, in my mind rolling was the single greatest therapeutic experience of my life, I respect it tremendously and work very hard to keep my useage in check. Sex on ecstasy is amazing to me, and I've certainly joked about how easy it would be to work while rolling, but I'd never waist a pill on doing a trick

EDIT: How many want to go down on U? (Do U discourage this too?)

Damn near 95%, I dont mind it, though it's not my favorite.

Do U have clit orgasm or G? Which do U prefer?

Usually if i am going to get off with a trick it's clitoral stimulation that I do myself.

How do U screen clients?

I don't. I draw impressions over the phone or email and in the first couple minutes of meeting. I try not to make a thing of the business aspect and I feel like making clients get screened would take away from the "girlfriend" part of "girlfriend experience.

Wow - that's a pretty high level of risk tolerance you have, xtcgrlatl.

Is it? I feel pretty safe really. Risk of assault doesnt really cross my mind. it's really only STD's that scare me

You seem to have a healthy attitude about your work,

I like to think that I do, and I'm learning as I go. When it was just a means of getting by I would worry about the future but now that I am raking down serious money I see it as a way to build something for the future. I have bad credit from my younger years and I intend to fix that and start putting away most of my money so that I can hopefully buy a decent house outright one day in the next 5 years or so. I also intend to put myself through some sort of tech school and make myself more competitive when I decide to reenter the standard work place.

but would you be able to get to your gun in time? Do you have a carry/conceal permit?

I do have a handgun permit but honestly the chances of me needing my gun in the sense that one of my clients would ever try something seems really far removed. When one of my clients pulls into my complex, you know it. I live in a pretty nice area where everyone drives pretty decent rides. But when someone comes through and they're headed to my apartment they more often then not show up in a $40,000+ car.

HIV is difficult to get by performing oral sex, but something as simple and seemingly innocuous as eating tortilla chips can cause microscopic tears that are big enough to let the virus in.

Good information to know. I've certainly considered requiring condoms for oral but I dunno. I realize that I'm rolling the dice and I've decided that for the moment the risk is worth the rewards. having been going for about 2 years and not caught anything I feel that my discrimination practices seem to be very effective.

It's russian roulette, and I realize this, I just try and cut down on the number of bullets in the chambers.