Mariposa
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Kul69 said:I've never had sex with an escort but I have put up ads on craigslist in the casual encounters section to find girls to pay for sex that normally wouldn't do it.
It's just kind of a thing I had or a phase or something. I would offer $1,000 for a night to a girl that wasn't a sex worker and wouldn't normally do anything like this.
You might think it's impossible to determine something like that but I live near a bunch of colleges/universities so the first requirement was always a student ID. Maybe a couple of them were prostitutes on the side before and I just didn't know but the fact that they were in school was good enough for me. I also consider myself a good judge of "whoreism" and was looking specifically for innocence. It's possible a whore slipped past me though.
Plus I actually got responses from girls that I knew through my girlfriend so it was kind of funny to me to meet someone a couple months ago and then invite them over to fuck for money and surprise.. they know me and are friends with my girlfriend.
Just added to the whole mind fuck experience I was going for. Maybe a psychologist can explain to me why it is I was doing this but it was a hell of a lot of fun and I can't say I really feel bad at all because these girls got $1,000 in a night just to have sex and I'm not some kind of disfigured weirdo or anything.
There was just something about seeing a person's values crumble for money that intrigued me I guess. For me the money was spent on the high I got from getting the girl to agree and come over and actually do it more than the sex.
Your post contains some of the most interesting - and dare I say it, sensible - statements I have read regarding why people pay for sex during my tenure in this forum. Money, and the power behind its dynamics, are some of the most powerful motivators for people to do what we do every day. I know I wouldn't work for free. $1K is a lot of money to lay on your back and let somebody go at you. Plenty of people do it for free every day. I can see where it would be tempting on both the part of the payee (who is receiving tangible benefits in the form of sex for his/her services) and the payor (who is receiving tangible benefits in the form of having the power of having someone submit to their whims). Power, in short, is sexy. Power is an aphrodisiac.
Power can also be extremely destructive to both those who wield it and those who give into it. Power, in and of itself, is not destructive. People seek after leadership and guidance. It is our nature to seek approval. Sometimes we find the power we seek in ways that are beneficial - tangibly or otherwise - and sometimes we seek after power, but we get our power taken away from us and turned into victims.
It's a complicated dynamic. I don't think it's coincidental that many people who are either on the giving or receiving end of sexual power have felt helpless at various points in their lives. I know at the times in my life when I had to struggle to live up to my responsibilities, I busted my ass (in the figurative sense; I have never given or accepted money for sex in any form) to make ends meet.
At the end of the day - it seems to be all about either "getting off" or "putting food on the table" for those in varying situations. Being a believer in a hard day's work for a hard day's pay, I cannot judge either those who hire prostitutes or are prostitutes. It's all about getting off or getting by.
None of that is sexy to me. That sounds like work, and sex to me is play.
Hence my point that prostitution - on the john's end or the hooker's end (regardless of gender) is not a victimless crime.
To address your point that you advertised and got responses from people you knew - I laugh not at you, but with you. Maybe your girlfriend is in on it? I don't know how big the casual encounters scene is in your area. Never answered or placed such an ad myself, but I'd bet about 75% of the people in my circle of friends has.
Is there a "market" in a woman presenting herself (note: I am not generalizing as to gender, merely addressing Kul69) as "inexperienced," "I don't usually do this/I've never done this before," or "just doing this to make rent this month"? Seriously. Are there honestly people that believe that those who are advertising themselves in such a manner are being honest? Or does this circle of "I give you money, you give me sex" become so reinforcing over time to become as erotic as having a fat bank account?
I've never been on the streets and I have never starved. But if I was given an irreversible choice between sex for life and being set for life, I'd pick the latter and have a pension fund no one could touch. In this sense I am, hypothetically, no different from those who have sex for money.
This thread is finally going somewhere. I'm interested in your response and thank you for sharing your experience.