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engagement rings

Nice idea for the diamond, miss starry.

When I tell people I am getting married, they quickly look for the ring. Like it is an accomplishment. A prize. My wedding day is not the most important day of my life.

I have to explain that he cannot afford a ring. I feel the need to defend us/him. He just completed school blah blah blah. I am happy he can afford health insurance now let alone a diamond. I feel the need to have something just for everyone else.

One woman said, "he got off easy." I don't understand that logic. If I would not put myself in debt for a ring, why should he?

Are engagement rings a down payment for a woman's commitment?

The bigger the rock, the deeper his adoration?
 
I hear ya Perpetual Indulgence. Although I *do* have a ring, it's a small (very small) stone and a very simple one. My fiance couldn't afford a ring either, so I chose a retailer who offered an interest-free payment plan and got something modest.

I love it. But I too, feel the need to defend it. "It's only little but I love it." "It's Simple and sweet". Why am I doing this? Because we have been bought up to think huge, grandiose displays of jewellery equate to a bigger love? I'm ashamed of myself really! I AM proud of my ring. I just think that others might think it's insufficient.

There is a bridal forum I post on and you should see the price of some of the rocks these girls have - one has hers insured for $37,000. That's a healthy downpayment on a house! Ridiculous.
 
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I haven't a clue what it's called, but I want the stones in my ring set back so they're only protruding a little bit, I'm clumsy as all hell and from past experience if I wear a ring that sticks out much I get it caught on everything it could possibly catch on.

My plan is similar to miss starry's, I have my mother's sapphire engagement and eternity rings (6 stones in all) so I think I'll use two for a pair of earrings, two in a pendant of some kind, and two in my engagement ring along with a diamond from my boy in the middle.
 
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Out here in New Mexico there are a lot of jewlers who specialize in inlay-style rings which I love. We looked when we were living in philadelphia but I can't help but feel like 90% of the engagement rings I see nowadays all look the same. I wouldn't show up at a party with the same dress as all of the engaged girls, why would I want a ring that looks the same?

These are some examples of some of the inlay stuff that I've seen up here and liked:

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There is actually a lot prettier stuff in shops here but e-commerce has not hit Santa Fe yet... shocking.
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We've got a ways to go before we do the whole formal announcing thing, so I'm considering it somewhere between a promise ring (christ I hate that term) but I was the lucky recipient of one that looks like the bottom one of these recently. :)

The side stones are inlaid Japanese opals (blue, gold and green) and the center stone is a ~1/2 karat dark purple-red marquise shaped garnet.

I can't find a pic online and the ones I took don't do it justice... might post one anyway though.

We couldn't do the diamond yet because we have to save for other things and aren't willing to pay in installments (my partner's uncle is also a jeweler), so this is a mighty fine placeholder.

No date yet; like I said we have a lot to work on, but if things are still going well 6 months from now we're planning a midsummer party, most likely at the country club at my aunt's vacation home... because he just won't friggin elope like I want to!

:)
 
The bigger the rock, the deeper his adoration?
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It's not the size of the rock that matters, its the size of the cock.




















Haha I dont really think that just thought it would be funny to say
 
joannie_mhm said:
I haven't a clue what it's called, but I want the stones in my ring set back so they're only protruding a little bit, I'm clumsy as all hell and from past experience if I wear a ring that sticks out much I get it caught on everything it could possibly catch on.

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That's called "Bezel set". It's what I thought I wanted too, but bezel-set rings tend to be more expensive than your traditional claw setting (where the diamond sits 'up'); also the traditional claw setting makes the diamond 'sparkle' more, because more light gets in the sides (thus, making the diamond look bigger ;)).

But goddamn it, mine gets caught on EVERYTHING... my hair, my clothes, dale's clothes, towels, the couch, the doona cover... and I've bumped it more times than I care to recall. Thankfully with 8 prongs it's a hardy little ring! :D
 
I didnt see this thread! I am in a showy mood sooo yea. I would NEVER have imagined ever having a ring of this size and quality but i truly love it.

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Edit: After reading some pages back i have another comment.

Strawberry_lovemuffin said:
There is a bridal forum I post on and you should see the price of some of the rocks these girls have - one has hers insured for $37,000. That's a healthy downpayment on a house! Ridiculous.
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I have always agreed with this for the most part. I always said it wasnt the size that mattered, but the thought process involved in getting the ring in the first place. However, I am sort of on the other side of the coin now ONLY because of the price we paid. We purchased my engagement ring in Aruba and got top quality for 60-70% less than what we would pay in the states. My ring is 1.05 Asscher cut center stone, and .77 total on both sides of the main stone. We got the appraisal there and it was worth the owner aid $11k US dollars. It was recently appraised/insured here in the states for well over $15k. Now, did we pay that much...no freaking way would I EVER do that. BUT since we paid nearly dirt for it, I feel like I have this giant rock on my finger and to be honest I do like the comments and looks I get daily. At the risk of sounding snobbish or petty, i like the feeling when people assume I truly had to pay that much...it makes me feel rich, even though they dont know its triple what we paid lol.
 
De Beers has proactively promoted diamonds as being symbolic of eternity and love, and therefore the ideal jewel for an engagement or wedding ring. Their famously successful advertising campaigns have included measures such as:

* showing diamonds as wedding gifts in popular romance films
* publishing stories in magazines and newspapers which would emphasize the romantic value of diamonds and associate them with celebrities
* employing fashion designers and other trendsetters to promote the trend on radio and, later, television
* enlisting the British Royal Family to directly promote diamonds

This campaign was described by De Beers' PR agency N.W. Ayer & Son as "a new form of advertising which has been widely imitated ever since" with "no brand name to be impressed on the public mind. There was simply an idea—the eternal emotional value surrounding the diamond." Indeed, the campaign succeeded in reviving the American diamond market, which had been weakened by "competitive luxuries", and in opening new markets where none had existed before. In Japan, for example, diamonds were successfully promoted as a western symbol of status, which coincided with Japan's cultural opening after World War II. Japan is today the second largest market for retail diamonds.

The slogan "A Diamond is Forever," invented by N. W. Ayer, is one of the most successful slogans in marketing history. Its purpose is to prevent the creation of a secondary market by dissuading women from selling the diamonds they have received and by discouraging them from buying diamonds which other women have owned. The consequence of this is that retailers can sell diamonds at a high price without competition from a secondary market, and it allows De Beers to maintain control of the diamond trade at wholesale level.
 
Posner, I have a referral to a socially conscious diamond vendor who is not affiliated with DeBeers. Can't remember the name off the top of my head, I'll post it later... along with a pic of my current ring - I SWEAR, I am the WORST with posting pics because I'm so critical. I took a bunch in the sun.

The diamond is also my birthstone and the symbol of my astrological sign, and I have worn one next to my heart since I was 16 - I have a superstitious streak. It was a gift from my dad on my 16th bday.

DG19 - You are a majorly smart cookie to have had it appraised and I've told you this before but it's stunning and fits you perfectly. You're a woman of taste and class who's marrying a wonderful man. NEVER apologize for your bling - you are more than worth it. <3 And I'm glad you got such an amazing deal. :)

CC - I'm pretty sure there are black diamonds and sapphires though likely both are pricey. Fizzygirl posted a site called www.cherrypicked.com somewhere in this thread or elsewhere, thankfully I bookmarked it! Lots of rare gems - some of which are like 20+ karats and thus more for collectors, but there are some which would be well suited for rings. I liked canary diamonds, but then my aunt got on and it looked just discolored and clashed with the platinum setting. I see some I like at the jewelry store near my work though.

My father has my mother's ~1 karat round, sparkly diamond in his safe deposit box but I'm just about the only good thing that came out of that marriage... and there are no heirloom stones in my partner's family that aren't already being worn. His uncle is a jeweler and will be creating my formal ring and both our wedding rings, though... which I think is wonderful :)
 
I feel like I have this giant rock on my finger and to be honest I do like the comments and looks I get daily. At the risk of sounding snobbish or petty, i like the feeling when people assume I truly had to pay that much...it makes me feel rich, even though they dont know its triple what we paid lol.
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Hehe...I'm so exactly opposite of this. I feel weird when people talk about it being all bling (i think it's the pave stones that make it sparkly), and I want to tell them how little it actually cost compared to most engagement rings, and what a bargain we got on it. It's probably a little bit of the surrounding culture though, cause in grad school everyone commiserates as a 'poor starving student'. We all talk all the time about how little we had to pay for things we got, apartments, clothing, etc. It's like opposite world! ;)
 
mariposa420 said:
Posner, I have a referral to a socially conscious diamond vendor who is not affiliated with DeBeers.
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It was more a comment on how the obsession with diamonds for engagement/wedding rings is a result of a highly successful advertising campaign.
 
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Avril Lavigne's engagement and wedding rings.
Pretty cool (if you could afford them!)
 
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Way too big for my tastes!!!

I think huge rocks like that, especially on tiny fingers, look ridiculous. I'd prefer something 1/4 - 1/8th of that size. dreamgirlie's is beautiful, and about the upper limit of what I think looks attractive!
 
Personally, I don't think its the carats of the stone we should measure its worth by. Its the work that went into getting it. Nothing is more impressive to me than saying "Honey, I love you so much approximately 9 people died to bring you this ring. I love you more than their life itself".

Personally, I would not want to marry any woman vacuous enough to fall so deeply for a marketing campaign. Kudos to those who do, more smart women for me.
 
I dislike wearing jewelry of any kind, and I tend to lose rings/bracelets easily especially after getting trashed and blacking out... so when I get engaged, I prefer to tattoo something to do with him on the back of my 4th finger.
 
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