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engagement rings

For some inlay ideas:

www.kabana.net

is a company that does some really beautiful stuff here, I've been to the store too and they will do custom work, and they'll let you give them a loose diamond (almost everyone that I talk to says that that is the best way to get your money's worth out of the stone) and they'll set it for you.

Good Luck!
 
^^ From that site, this ring is very to my tastes:
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Yesterday, those rings are STUNNING. WOW.

I think this is probably my prototype.

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I might like the side stones to be sapphires or tanzanites. That's my prototype, though, and I prefer flawlessness to size... I'm not a size queen. ;)
 
thats hot!!!

i like the emerald cut on rings, but i find, that i prefere them wit hother stones, the diamonds have such fire adn shine when they have the traditional diamond cut, they seems to lose a bit of the shimmer when they are cut like this... thats just me though
 
well I think this is a funny story and I just got engaged last week, so here goes: 2 years ago I meet this guy, really *straight* guy, divorced, 2 kids, a little older than me (Im 31, he's 36)...anyway -- hes got some hang ups and is kinda uptight, but we fall in love. so after we've been together like 6 months I suggest to him that we should *roll* together, and hes like "no way, drugs are bad, m'kay" but I keep after him and he agrees. Anyway, of course he loves it, and really opens up and we end up doing it together prob another dozen times in the next year. so, we get engaged and he buys me this huge (2.25 c), SI1, E color diamond -- its so beautiful. I think the e had something to do with it :) I'll post a pic if I can....
 
If my boyfriend bought me a ring that was worth more than one weeks pay then I'd make him take it back. Jewellery means nothing to me, give me a cheap ring and the we can put the rest of our money towards a better honeymoon.

^^ what she said; i wouldn't waste money on a ring... it's the idea (of having found someone very special to spend the rest of one's life with) that counts, and this idea that will imbue even an onion ring with meaning and make it special and beautiful (well, maybe not an onion ring, but i hope you get the drift); symbols get their meaning and beauty from the reality behind them, not the other way around; better use the 10k you saved on something cool, not some shiny stone;
 
umm.. all respect to people saying that they dont want a good ring.. but i think that may change when you actually get the ring...

seriously, if you get a $100 ring they are cheap and crappy looking...

and the ring is symbolic of your love and of lasting love... so i dont see how a cheap $100 ring from *insert cheap jewlery shop* will lst you for the rest of your life... but that just me....

i know you can say, as long as im with you ifs ok, but if your ring is going to break within 10 years, or wear away, or anything.. then is seems a bit useless... my opinion...
 
I sort of see both sides.

On one hand it IS kind of wasteful to spend *thousands* on a piece of jewellery, especially if it's done as a "status symbol thing" ('oh mine's got 2 carats! how many is yours?') I find that a little distasteful and wasteful.

On the other hand - a cheap and nasty ring? No thanks. It probably depends on your personal style and personality, because some people simply don't LIKE traditional engagement jewellery and that's cool. But most people, I would think, would like to know that a little quality and effort has gone into the ring; that it's been a *little* bit of a stretch because that's part of the whole thing that makes you go, "wow, you did that for ME?"

And like CuPillar said, it *is* something you want to last.

My ring is a happy compromise. It's small and sweet, and relatively inexpensive as far as engagement rings go, but I still know that it didn't cost him nothing and that it is quality - after all, it's on my finger for life now :)

Here it is by the way! We picked it up on Saturday (not a great pic, but still)
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Originally posted by CuPillar
and the ring is symbolic of your love and of lasting love...


hehe it most definitely wouldn't be for me! But it's just different strokes for different folks. I think it's cool that you want to spend two months pay on your ring but if that was me I would feel guilty that I was wearing a ring that cost that much! Quality would be an issue however I'm currently wearing a ring that was my mother's when she turned 21 [making it 36 years old] and it's holding up very well!

It seriously is just about priorities. In fact, I wouldn't have a problem not having a ring but there's no way I would have a dodgy honeymoon.
 
By the way congrats SLM, your ring is beautiful! You will LOVE wedding planning. I did, at least!

I agree with cheaper rings not always lasting. I know several people who's diamonds fell out, settings bent, prongs broke, and they weren't even that cheap. It's not that uncommon. Then you end up having to replace it (and spend again). I am not saying you need a huge ring at all, just quality, especially in the setting and the jeweler. You do want it to last. You wear it everyday and it takes a beating. I even take mine off when I get home each day (somedays it's never put on) and it still gets banged around.

Also, it can potentially become a family heirloom if you'd want. My father used his mom's diamond for my ex-step-mother and the setting was made into a ring for my 18th b-day (the ONLY piece of jewelry I wore until it was stolen 11 years later :(). My husband made his grandmother's diamond into a necklace for his niece. So it is an investment of sorts. It becomes part of your assets as well.

I see many people suggest trading up later on. As I said in another post, if you can (of course, depending on circumstances) "splurge" slightly now, or can wait a little to, do it. I would never want to trade up or get another ring after I got one (that's just me, very sentimental). A few girls I know wouldn't either, some would love to! So guys, know your girls' feelings on this before you maybe take that route.

Just a random comment, I don't think wanting a nice ring or having one that's a carat or two, means you are materialistic or need a giant rock to express your love. It seems like many on here feel that way or jumped to that conclusion. That's the impression I get from some posts at least ("size queen, wasting money, etc.") and that's not true for lots of people, imo. At least those I know. Sorry, I don't know why I felt the need to add this, just on my mind.
 
money isnt an expression of your love... but i feel that the ring is a symbolic thing.... so i feel that spending minimal money on it is a waste, that you will probably have to replace anyway....
 
I can see both sides here....I would LOVE the proposal with or without the ring. The ring? I would rather him wait if he didn't have the money. I'm not saying the ring has to be huge, at all, but I do have a size in my head that looks nice on MY finger. My fingers are tiny and quite frankly, anything MORE than a carat would be ridiculously huge. It has nothing to do with material things for me...it has to do with how good the ring will look ON me.Having said that, though, I know what I want and I want something beautiful. In my opinion, it is the single most important and possibly the biggest "gift" you will receive and it should reflect such.

I don't think there is anything wrong with having certain expectations about something so important.

My opinion.
 
Maybe this is an oddball question, but how would the women feel if the men had a certain price tag on a gift they were expecting you to buy them in return for a ring? Maybe something he really wants, like a surround sound system or a big screen television? Would you find that pressure uncomfortable, would you get him something in return for the ring, and would you be offended if he expected something, too?

Okay, that was about 4 or 5 questions. ;)
 
When my ex and I talked about getting engaged I was going to get him a PRS guitar. That would have been my gift to him.
 
rae said:
When my ex and I talked about getting engaged I was going to get him a PRS guitar. That would have been my gift to him.

^^
See, that's a cool idea.

DarthMom: It doesn't seem like too much searching is involved in finding a man's ring since there are traditionally no gems involved. You pick a size, a material, and that's pretty much it, no? That's probably no where near the costs of a diamond ring.
 
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