Emancipation

I have to get myself out of being under the thumb of my father who is a nominee for my finances.

He is doing what he thinks is in my best interests and putting all my money I earn towards my motrgage and while that is great it leaves me with nothing.

I have to go through him to withdraw anything and I need a computer. He says no to just buying one and ai have to put in more which I cant do.

Its my money and I no longer need him to control my life.

But hes an old man and dont want to hurt him. I feel stifled. And while I realise I dont have his enert sense of reason I feel that I should be able to not go broke without him.

I need a computer for work and fun. I dont see why I should ask him for anything as it is my money I have earned.
 
Hi Zephyr. :) Remember me? ;) xoxo.

Emancipation is a big deal... do you feel in your heart you should?
If your father is being an enabler... you have to come to terms with that. And ask yourself when it should end. Will you be okay if it does end? Only you know. Does he know you'll be okay?

Sorry for not being real good about this online stuff... I'm learning though. I write, but not like this. The picking up of thoughts left off, confuses me.

Like I said... I'm learning. :) All is good here. Let's focus on you.
 
Hi zeph.

This is tough stuff.

It's much nicer to have a mortgage and be on your way to owning some lasting bit of property than to have some some fleeting joy of fun. There is a reason for why he is in charge of your finances (I'm assuming, as it usually doesn't get to this point for no reason). While, it can certainly be difficult, and frustrating, to have to ask for your money to spend on possibly necessary items. It is better than the other options, you know, living in a gutter with no money.

Who are we kidding, you just want to buy some ice.
 
JahSEEuS;bt21415 said:
Hi zeph.

This is tough stuff.

It's much nicer to have a mortgage and be on your way to owning some lasting bit of property than to have some some fleeting joy of fun. There is a reason for why he is in charge of your finances (I'm assuming, as it usually doesn't get to this point for no reason). While, it can certainly be difficult, and frustrating, to have to ask for your money to spend on possibly necessary items. It is better than the other options, you know, living in a gutter with no money.

Who are we kidding, you just want to buy some ice.


Who are you to judge if Zephyr wants "ice" or not? Who cares? That's not for any one of us to say. Zephyr knows that blogs are not for that purpose. Do you?

Here at bluelight that is not the purpose. At all. Thanks.
 
JahSEEuS;bt21415 said:
Hi zeph.

This is tough stuff.

It's much nicer to have a mortgage and be on your way to owning some lasting bit of property than to have some some fleeting joy of fun. There is a reason for why he is in charge of your finances (I'm assuming, as it usually doesn't get to this point for no reason). While, it can certainly be difficult, and frustrating, to have to ask for your money to spend on possibly necessary items. It is better than the other options, you know, living in a gutter with no money.

Who are we kidding, you just want to buy some ice.


Tbh yeah I do but I need a lap top as I just do as my old one died ages ago and I have tens of thousands saved up. Id rather use that to get a basic lap top than get one with a loan and dont think i should get a loan from a loan shark.

Yeah hes in charge originally as I asked him to 7 years ago. But hes a real control freak now man.

Can i borrow sum money?

I also want drugs but stuff around is too shit right now so i wait a bit
 
TheOpposite;bt21416 said:
Who are you to judge if Zephyr wants "ice" or not? Who cares? That's not for any one of us to say. Zephyr knows that blogs are not for that purpose. Do you?

Here at bluelight that is not the purpose. At all. Thanks.
Dont worry jah is a mate.
 
TheOpposite;bt21416 said:
Who are you to judge if Zephyr wants "ice" or not? Who cares? That's not for any one of us to say. Zephyr knows that blogs are not for that purpose. Do you?

Here at bluelight that is not the purpose. At all. Thanks.

I'm not judging anything. Just calling it as I see it, and joking with a friend a bit.

The purpose of this website is dissemination of information and harm reduction. No need to tell me what the purpose of this place is.

You weren't just judging me were you? Thanks.
 
zephyr;bt21420 said:
Tbh yeah I do but I need a lap top as I just do as my old one died ages ago and I have tens of thousands saved up. Id rather use that to get a basic lap top than get one with a loan and dont think i should get a loan from a loan shark.

Yeah hes in charge originally as I asked him to 7 years ago. But hes a real control freak now man.

Can i borrow sum money?

I also want drugs but stuff around is too shit right now so i wait a bit


Yes if you have that much saved up I don't see the problem. Maybe try approaching the situation with a logical breakdown for your father to follow. Is he worried that you'll spend the money in some other way? If so, let him come with you to purchase it? Order it online with him?

I don't loan money to friends, only ppl I would rather pay to never see again or turn into a human pin cushion get that honor. Plus, my interest rates are too high and I'd hate to have blogs mod chase you down and feed you to her cats.
 
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JahSEEuS;bt21423 said:
I'm not judging anything. Just calling it as I see it, and joking with a friend a bit.

The purpose of this website is dissemination of information and harm reduction. No need to tell me what the purpose of this place is.

You weren't just judging me were you? Thanks.

Definitely not. I am not one to judge. Certainly not.
Glad you're there for eachother. :) True friendship is rare. Kinda sucks. So I'm glad you can talk like that with friends.

I guess I take myself too seriously right now, in my own life. It's bad. I need to lighten up.
 
TheOpposite;bt21425 said:
Definitely not. I am not one to judge. Certainly not.
Glad you're there for eachother. :) True friendship is rare. Kinda sucks. So I'm glad you can talk like that with friends.

I guess I take myself too seriously right now, in my own life. It's bad. I need to lighten up.

No worries, I know you were just backing up for our lil' zephy

I can appreciate that.

Yea, lightening up is vital. Don't take life so seriously, you'll never get out alive, innit?
 
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