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Dumped GF. She is now threatening to kill herself.

^I'm sorry this is so difficult BH :( but I'm very glad to know you won't act on anything. The good thing with break-ups is we know everyone (well, almost) goes through them and survives and gets over it eventually. It always seems like there's no more hope but try to take consolation in the fact that that's only a temporary feeling, no matter how strong I'm sure it is.
Feel free to PM me if you'd like to talk.
 
^Cool thanks, I'm not trying to jack this thread....I'm not going to kill myself....I just understand the temptation to try to emotionally hold someone hostage, but thats just not a road I wanna go down anymore....
 
Rough situation, amigo. I had a girlfriend for about 6 months that wasn't that serious, I thought it was a fairly casual thing. I stopped calling her for a week or two and started to play the field, like I said, I hadn't heard from her either and nothing was said about not seeing other people. She showed up at my apartment saying that she was pregnant and I went down and got tests from the store which she refused to take and left. She then started leaving weird notes on my door with highlighted pages from the book The Bell Jar. She showed up again one night with her hair cut all of the way off, acting crazy and told me that she tried to kill herself and had little cuts on her wrists (the short way, not the long way) but highly noticable cuts nonetheless. I called her friend to come get her and she told me that my girlfriend was bi-polar and probably not taking her medication. That was the end of that, but a scary couple of days. I don't know if this helps you or not.
 
I dumped my ex and he did a suicide attempt afterwards. Sure you feel guilty. But what a relief that you are free of such a manipulative person hey?
 
^Not quite sure how great your post is in terms of harm reduction, it's ridiculously dangerous to advise the OP to just sit around and let her kill herself if she wants to...
 
^Not quite sure how great your post is in terms of harm reduction, it's ridiculously dangerous to advise the OP to just sit around and let her kill herself if she wants to...

if mental unheatlhy people are put out of homo sappiens sappiens gene pool,that is harm reduction.... you save the retard,harm the genepool,too many unfit people are allowed to spread their low quality dna becose we must save everybody
 
if mental unheatlhy people are put out of homo sappiens sappiens gene pool,that is harm reduction.... you save the retard,harm the genepool,too many unfit people are allowed to spread their low quality dna becose we must save everybody

I don't really think it's up for us to decide who 'gets' to live or die. And quite frankly if I had to pick it wouldn't be an obviously emotionally distraught girl that I think would be most deserving of death. But I think it's wrong in any case.
If someone is threatening to kill themselves and you know about it, you need to do what's in your power to stop them. That's all there is to it.
 
if mental unheatlhy people are put out of homo sappiens sappiens gene pool,that is harm reduction.... you save the retard,harm the genepool,too many unfit people are allowed to spread their low quality dna becose we must save everybody

^-Sincerely, Adolf Hitler
 
I don't really think it's up for us to decide who 'gets' to live or die. And quite frankly if I had to pick it wouldn't be an obviously emotionally distraught girl that I think would be most deserving of death. But I think it's wrong in any case.
If someone is threatening to kill themselves and you know about it, you need to do what's in your power to stop them. That's all there is to it.

and they will live,to have children with same weak dna and the whole drama is happening again.... thats not how natural selection works..... and before you dissrespect evolution,everything you can do is becose of hard evolutionary selection
 
...Right.
In the interest of staying civil and because you appaer to have some sort of unbreakable God complex I'm not going to bother arguing.
 
Wonder what happened with the OP silverman? He hasn't given us an update at all.
I'm thinking he probably took her back.
 
It's really easy to say "let the person die" when that person isn't a loved one of yours. It's not so easy and it's a horrible place to be in.
 
I'm guilty I haven't read a lot of responses, but have you considered calling a suicide hotline?
 
One of the most disgusting things you can do is use suicide as manipulation. Because of all the drama queens and kings out there a lot of the time it isn't taken seriously. Most who really want to kill themselves don't tell anyone, I sure didn't before I tried (saved by my tolerance...) suicide is serious shit and needs to be treated as such, this girl sounds like a soulless American (redundant I know) who is just trying to get you back by any means possible

On the other hand, if there's even a remote possibility you think she's a legitimate danger to herself or anyone else, call the 5-0 immediately.
 
I've had boyfriends threaten me with suicide in the past. When I was a lot younger it would stress me out, but now? I just tell them to go ahead and do it. Their choices have nothing to do with me. And if they are stupid enough to do it, then they are not really going to be around to see their revenge anyway. They'll be dead. So either way they get nothing from me.

They don't really mean it. It's just rebellion to try and get you to change your mind. People who are truly going to kill themselves usually tell no one. What your ex-gf is doing is abuse, plain and simple. If she threatened your life it would be no laughing matter, so why should it be ok that she is threatening her own life to get you back? It's manipulative bullshit.

Tell this bitch to get lost. She needs to be seeing a shrink. Or better yet - and I've done this before too - call the cops and say your friend is about to commit suicide. A day or two in a psych ward will make her think twice about making empty threats.

I've been truly suicidal before. You don't make light of suicide to hurt the ones you claim to love. It dishonours all the truly depressed people out there who feel helpless and are at the end of the rope. Fuck her.
 
I've been truly suicidal before. You don't make light of suicide to hurt the ones you claim to love. It dishonours all the truly depressed people out there who feel helpless and are at the end of the rope. Fuck her.

That's not true.
I never threatened him with it but I did tell one of my exes when I was trying to kill myself - there was nothing much he could have done at that point anyway but I just wanted to hurt him with it because I'd been planning on doing it anyway and he'd been such a horrible person...
I feel absolutely dreadful about it but it's not because someone tells people she's gonna commit suicide that she won't. Every case is different and it should always be respected & paid attention to, not discarded. You don't know whether or not she means it, and could you really live with yourself if you supposed she was bluffing and in the end, she wasn't? And that's without going into the ethical/moral aspect of just letting someone die.
 
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