Good thread. I hid my heroin addiction from my girlfriend for about 3 months until it got to the point where I was too out of control to hide it anymore, it's one of my biggest regrets in life - not being honest with the person I love and am closer to than anyone else in the world by a mile. Luckily she's really understanding and forgave me but it's been a constant thorn in our relationship ever since, losing unconditional trust creates so many problems down the track. Now she's helping me get my shit back together and has stood by me while I've put us both through so much, it's still ongoing too, im off h, of methadone, bupe and valium but i still drink pst everyday. She understands and is really good about it, having her constantly spurring me on and by her good virtues she makes me want to be a better person and clean my act up for the both of us, it's sounds kind of lame but without her I don't think i would be here. Honestly I don't know how she's put up with me over the last year and a half but she has.
As for finding girls who do a lot of drugs unattractive, I can understand why a guy would however i think a lot of it is sexist, hypocritical bullshit - guys who dont like their girlfriends doing drugs while they party is fucken retarded. I find girls who drink, smoke and party to the point of being out of control unattractive but I also feel the same about guys who are out of control. It's not the fact they do drugs that makes them unattractive to me it's that they are generally unhealthy and their lives are often a mess and thats unattractive to me. What really turns me off is the look in a heavy drug users eyes, the dark rings and spaced out empty thousand yard stare, I instinctively find that unattractive on an unconscious level and I don't think I could be with them without feeling turned off in some way. However if somebody parties hard (my girlfriend parties hard) but is still functioning and for the most part happy and healthy then I have zero problem with it, in fact I find a girl who both enjoys drugs and is knowledgable on the topic of drugs more attractive than someone who is totally straight, I don't think I could totally connect with someone who is totally 100% straight, it's kind of hypocritical in a way but that's just me.