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Drugs And Parents [MEGA-MERGED]

Originally posted by custom x:
(5) it may serve to embarrass your son, which is a powerful motivator for most adolescents.
If you catch your child using drugs, make them run through a shopping center naked the resulted trauma should be enough to keep them away from drugs.
If my mother tried to make me do that when I was a teenager, I wouldn't do it and I wouldn't talk to her for months. And no teen was going to make such thing. I'd rather get away from home. Not that I don't respect my mother, but no one would make me do this. And if my mother had embarassed me for using drugs, it would be worse for her. A teenager nowadays has several ways for making his parents regret their acts. Acting stupid with your children wouldn't help at all
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i too have a kind of don't ask don't tell policy with my parents (although the fact that i'm in college, 3000 miles away does make it a little easier) - i don't volunteer information about my drug use, and they don't ask. however, if my parents did flat out ask me, i'm pretty sure i would tell them the truth, because i respect them...they wouldn't be happy, but at the same time, i'm pretty sure they know i am responsible and can make my own decisions now, so although they wouldn't be happy, they wouldn't freak out either.
however, i still hope they never ask :)
 
My mum knows all about my drug adventures, she doesnt agree but she just leaves me be. Shes a pretty smart lady, I can do everything to hide the truth and she STILL seems to know!So I don't go out and tell her, but she always seems to know. Like some freaky parental-ESP. lol
 
Originally posted by Cimora:
i severely doubt id have even started smoking if i didnt know every1 would disapprove. I think thats a very powerful thing to a teenager.

(this is a post that i picked somewhat at random since there are a couple other ones saying more or less the same thing...)
although it is definitely true in some cases that disapproval will just cause the kid to rebel, you have to remember that drugs either have or had at least a somewhat significant part in the lives of most of the people posting in this thread - we're not exactly a good sample of the teen/20s population.
personally, for me, one of the big reasons i didn't do drugs or even drink in high school was my parents; i knew that they would disapprove, and yeah, i could sneak around and hide it from them, but i would've felt bad about it. i actually don't even think they would have punished me, but all the same i knew they would disapprove. to be sure, parents weren't the only reason; none of my friends in HS drank or used drugs (a lot of them still don't), which was a factor, but it was a large factor.
now that i'm in college 3000 miles away i feel a lot more comfortable using drugs - i don't tell my parents what i do / where i go on the weekends, and i also don't have to worry about coming home fucked up and either trying to hide it or dealing with a disapproving look...
so i guess what i'm trying to say is, i actually do think parents should express disapproval of drug use - yeah, it won't work with 100% of kids, but it certainly will work with more than 0%.
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Ive done alot of stuff, and smoke and drink, but all my mom knows that i do is smoke weed and cigs...she doesnt even know i drink
 
My parents have no idea what drugs I do. Only because they're so against it, and think drugs are the worst thing in the world. It would probably kill them if they found out, so I'm not going to tell them for a long long time :D
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i just fuck with my parents like telling them when i leave im going go take peyote and snort meth. they really dont give a fuck what i do as long as i dont goto jail. Im 19 and have been though hell about 15 times so just tell em the truth
 
my mom knows that i do drugs, but she's cool with it just as long as i stay away from herion or anything else that requires a needle... My dad on the other hand knows that i've done E and that I've smoked pot, but other then that he doesn't know anything
 
i am honest with my parents, but a warning to all those that do : make sure you explain it for them if it is just a recreational thing... and make sure you define recreational to them to..
my mum asked me if i was "clean", phhhhh well i had to tell her that it is not a big thing in my life and i average less a year now, then i did in a month in 99'
good luck
 
My mom knows I smoked weed & she caught me drinking cough syrup once (well, she found the damn bottle).
She thinks I don't smoke weed anymore though. Ignorance is bliss.
She also knows I smoke cigs and drink, but she has no clue I've used other drugs though.
Telling my father I have used drugs would not only mean a broken nose, but also getting kicked outta my home and ... well I think I'll pass on spending the next 60 years of my life in a factory, waking up a 5:30 am and not even having enough money for a decent home.
 
Me and my parents sit on the dont ask dont tell policy. Regardless, they dont ask me what I do and I dont ask them what they do(I think it's a fair trade off since they occasionally get home after I do and I tend to get home 1am and later) My dad knows I smoke weed (I swear he's found my bongs) but he doesnt want me smoking IN THE HOUSE. Which I do constantly. That will get me kicked out. He was planning to search my room (he doesnt care I have the bongs, he wants to find them used or weed) but you know he can go right on ahead if he wants since I stashed all my paraphinalia and planted various things I know he doesn't want to find (we're talking shit I got for my 16th and 17th birthdays, vibrators, lube, etc etc, my friends are SO nice! lol) and I found the best hiding spot for my pipe, a 10" GITD vibrator lol. Anyways, so yeah I'm at risk to getting kicked out if he ever gets around to searching my room, good thing he's forgotten there's so many other drugs I can be using, I hope he doesnt look in my pill bottles, not that he knows what he's looking for.
 
i would tell my dad if he wasnt married to my mum, coz he used to do all kinds of drugs n shit, and would be cool with it, except my mum totally freaks out if i even come home drunk, so i think its in my best interests to keep it a secret
 
I was, when they called my mom to get me out of jail when the nailed me. i Had like a pipe and some pot. They found one of those litlte baggies with a bit of meth in it. Yay im a felon!
I wish I could get an award for that besides not being able to vote and junk.
 
I've been fairly open about my drug use with my parents ever since I was fifteen (23 now). I never really went out of my way to tell them all of the details, but when it seemed appropriate, I have shared all kind of stories with both of them and I think this has brought us a lot closer. They certainly aren't enthusiastic about any of this, but they are not overly jugdemental either and they respect my decisions and I respect their openness and acceptance. I really do have great parents.
 
My parents found my journal...and found out that I have done all of the hard drugs...I've never smoked pot before...but i've done everything from ecstasy to heroin...and loved every minute of it...My parents weren't as harsh as i thought they were going to be...In fact now that they know, they dont pry into my business half as much...its like if they dont ask, i dont tell.
 
See from where I come from if you did any of those things cuz you found your kid smoking pot it would just cause them to do it more and leave for days at a time to go to a friend's house where one could go and smoke as much as he wanted. I really don't see how punishment works if there's no communication between the child and the parent(s). My parents have grounded me MAYBE 4 times my entire life and I'm 18. Not saying I didn't ride those out or deserve them, but you know I had to go a long way to get them, one being assault of a civil servant (pretty much anyone who works to make sure law is obeyed and whatnot) Yes I do drugs and you know what I dont think I'm doing anything wrong. Why? Cuz I keep my shit together, I still get straight As and all that mess. I dont get out of line with my parents(my mom at least, my dad finds me cussing him out amusing...and when I hit him he hits me back, while laughing his ass off... oh well) Being female (and pregnant at one point, I miscarried) causes me to think what if my kids smoke weed or do other drugs and pretty much all I can think of is "as long as they do it responsibly" I dont think I'd have a problem with my children doing drugs as long as they are mature enough to do it(basically if my kid's 12 and wanting to smoke weed I'd have to think about it, if he was 16 then I'd probably say go for it) and they keep up whatever they need to (jobs, school, whatever)
And telling a teenager that they cannot see a friend for the fact that that friend does drugs most likely will not work. My mom actually tried to threaten me with this (my boy's older brother ended up getting arrested for meth and pot posession and she found out, she's the type to belive if one child is doing it all of them are...only she failed to realize my boy's older brother is almost 30) and I pretty much told her to fuck off cuz I've known him for the longest and I found her saying that was disrespectful while he has never been anything but respectful to her and her home. I mean he's like model teenager, undercover pothead. I'm just the bitch, I offend pretty much everyone who gets in my face. The only way we (we being me and my mom, me and my dad have like no respect for each other only neither of us care cuz it's actually pretty funny) learned to trust each other is by being honest and not asking/saying stupid shit. Once that happens we tend to have a screaming match...these are rare...
 
My mom searched my room once and found my bong. I moved out a month later to live with my dad, I will not be Nazied in my own house. Now, she's just so anxious to see me that she could care less what I am on.
 
I never actually took drugs till after my mum died (and my dad's never been in the picture to begin with) so I guess the point's moot.
However, I'm still the baby of the family, so until recently have lied to my siblings about it cause my sister's VERY conservative and wouldn't get it. My brother used to be a hardcore pothead, but I'm not sure what his experience of other drugs has been so I've always avoided the topic around him because he can be pretty intolerant and have MASSIVE double standards when he wants to.
This week though I had a bit of an experience which resulted in my sister carting me off to the doctor to get me put on antidepressants and I had to tell him my drug history while she was in the room. She was shocked when she found out I've had a few joints and nearly had a fit when I told her about my more regular use of speed and ecstacy. And I didn't even mention the K or GBH..
The sad thing is she is freaked because of her absolute lack of knowledge about drugs and drug culture, and she's convinced that I'm dicing with death every time I do anything...which is why I never wanted to tell her in the first place.
And the FUNNY thing is that both she and my doctor were telling me that I should stick to just getting drunk or that I should take up smoking as healthier alternatives. WTF?? LOL
--Raz--
 
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