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Drugs and Family

I feelnbad strongly ablut all the topics mentioned in the headline and always try to discuss this stuff with my family not only so they underdtand it more and see the different sides of drug use, but also in hopes they will understand me and be more accepting of me as a person and my life style choices.

It really depends the person you can lay down all the facts you want but they will feel how they want to about it and they have the right to take it how ever they want to.
My tip would be dont force it onto them. Some people are interested or will get more into it but woth people like my mom they dont understand and get upset when ots addressed no matter the approach or how calm of a convo it is.

Balancing respect and passion are probably the wisest words I ve read in this thread.
 
I would wait until you are out of the house to have really in depth conversations with them, so they can't have an emotional flip-switch and kick you out. Most people are very hard to sway when it comes to opinions of such matters. It helps to have the national attitude assist you and perhaps wait for a pivotal point in time--a change in laws maybe--to bring up the subject.

I'm about to fall asleep since I just read a 400pg book in one sitting (do not recommend) but I think there is another thread that exists about talking to family about drugs. Seyer would probably be able to find it in about 5 seconds. If you read that thread I am sure there will be more helpful information/perspectives from other posters in your shoes.
 
honestly I have known multiple friends who have made a big deal about either smoking pot or about discussing the hypocrisy of the drug prohibition in general when they talk to their parents about drug use...and, all of them have relationships that are more strained than they were before, in my opinion. My parents know that I have experimented with MJ in the past, but that's it, I don't see any reason to elaborate on topics that I already know my parents don't give a fuck about since they're teetotalers anyway. That being said, I feel you though, it sucks that they can't understand, and I definitely understand that uncomfortable vibe you're talking about...
 
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SirTophamHat said:
I think there is another thread that exists about talking to family about drugs. Seyer would probably be able to find it in about 5 seconds.
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Its more of just a general thread about the relationship between drug users and their families. Also, you could find it in 5 seconds just like me by looking at the DC Directory
 
Drugs and your family

What attitude does your family have towards drugs?

My family are pretty liberal and laid back. My parents smoke (cannabis) quite a lot, I remember my dad joking that I should try some to lighten up a bit when I was younger. They were hippies back in the day so I'm sure they've tried their fair share. If I ever said to them I take drugs (hypothetically, of course) I doubt they'd really be concerned as long as it wasn't anything like H, crack or meth and it wasn't getting me into trouble.

My siblings have also been through phases of experimentation I'm sure, I could quite comfortably discuss these things with them without any shame or getting lectured. I'm an adult who makes my own decisions and they'd understand this.

I don't touch anything of course, but that's what I think my family would be like.

You guys?
 
I drink and do pills/weed/everything with my mom.

My dad hates it and hates her for it.
 
I used to (for YEARS) get high every single day with my dad. (We were both heavy opiate addicts) Although my DOC was IV hareon, he loved his norcos (I like them as well) but us popping 30-45 a day each reallllllly got expensive, and after 3-4 years of daily use of those doses, we got on subs. Never been happier.. We live in a brand new house in a new neighborhood, (Not dicksizing) but rent alone is $1800, not including ALL the other bills. He, himself blew at least a few hundred G's on norcos / green beans alone (Well, to support our habits, he supported mine, I supported his, although it was like a drop of water in the ocean to how much he spent vs me). At the end we were getting title loans on our cars, bank loans ect JUST to buy pills. He always paid the bills, though, he would never fuck around n miss a payment on anything. But goddamn it got ugly.. Real ugly.
 
Whenever I come home from school, my parents and I smoke weed together every night. My parents know everything that I've done (except a few pills…not sure how they'd feel about that) and I'm always very honest with them about everything. They've done their fair share of everything (pills, speed, LSD, coke, LOTS of acid) so they're supportive and understanding. I've even hung out with them while tripping haha.
 
How did your parents deal with your drug use?
Incredibly poorly, calling my doctors and PERMANENTLY FUCKING ME OVER on things I seriously needed. When I say permanently what I really mean is what the fuck do I do now, especially regarding pain management.


How would you deal with your kids drug use?
With respect to the whole principle of not doing the wrongs your parents did to you, I would try to get as much information about the incident(s) as possible and as much information about the use(usage) as possible and try to explain things, not punish arbitrarily or stupidly.

How do you feel about parents who use when they have kids at home?
Hard to say exactly, as a kid I was abhorred by my friend's mother drinking while driving and then just chilling in her room presumably drinking but now? Depends on the functionality. Each situation would require a different response. Meth/crack/heroin? Fuck no. Alcohol? Moderation. Cannabis? Moderation. Psychadelics? No, not unless a lot of precautions were taken in advance.


For those who arent a parent yet but someday will be:
How has using drugs swayed your judgement as to how you would view your childs use if they were to start using? Or has your use swayed your judgement at all?
Drugs/pharmaceuticals are powerful and invaluable tools, but can so easily negatively influence if not destroy what children work so hard to achieve (eg High School GPA and extracurriculars, college is so much more important than I think people necessarily realize). I guess failure is a necessity to society and nothing propagates failure like certain drugs, especially in quantity, but it's impossible to know enough. Drug by drug factfinding would/will be in order.

How would/do you feel about younger siblings drug use?
Too much too young but I didn't exactly positively contribute to the scene and he's fine now.

Did your older siblings influence your decision to begin using drugs?

Do you discuss drugs, prohibition, etc with your family?
I want to but the stigma is overwhelming. I do plan on addressing my mom and dad independently someday and trying to address my most severe grievances with them largely regarding drugs/pharmaceuticals but have to be prepared for a total abandonment/disownment if it goes sour. Brother? Not anymore, one thing stims teaches you is that you need to learn to shut the fuck up and keep shit to yourself, but I would in an ideal world like to.
 
My parents know nothing of my drug use other than busting me for marijuana once years ago. They freaked the fuck out as they are extremely anti-drug. I've successfully kept everything hidden from them since I moved out.

My only sibling is 13 years younger than me. If she starts using drugs now at 13, I'd slap her silly. (No not literally, but I would freak out on her.) I didn't start using drugs until I was 18, not even alcohol. I don't think young developing brains should be subject to psychoactive substances, and I'm very happy I did not experiment with drugs in high school. Also, I have a good career now which affords me plenty of free time and resources to explore drugs, primarily psychedelics, which may not have been possible if I got high too much at a young age.

Even though I'm very drug friendly, I'd want to shield my little sister from all drugs until she's 18 or 19, and then I would have a nice long discussion with her about her interest in drugs. I'd be perfectly OK if she has zero interest, but if she does want to experiment when she's older and has some career goals, I'd certainly help her source good quality supplies as well as show her all the resources she should study to stay safe.

I feel this is a pretty healthy stance for older siblings and parents to take. 15 years olds should not be doing drugs, but if you're 18, 19 and have genuine interest, let them do it safely. Being open like that makes them open up to you about their use as well so you won't be blindsided by a secret addiction forming.

I wish my parents were more knowledgeable and more open about drugs, but changing the minds of people their age is damn near impossible.
 
This summer my mother actually went to a four day music festival with my sister and I. My sister thought it was funny to buy her a ticket. She camped with my friends and I who did numerous of drugs. However, we all agreed that whatever happens on the mountain stays on the mountain. My mom really only came because she wanted to experience being on spiritual land, see the beautiful stars free from light pollution, she loves nature (we were in a mountain), and so she could be with her daugters. Lol, my mom who was always strongly against drugs was eating edibles with us, and drinking. When we did other drugs she seemed kind of like "wtf did I get myself into" especially when we were tripping. Yet, over the course of the festy she got a lot more calm and LOL I ENDED UP ROLLING WITH MY MOM. We decided to do it and figured it would be a good bounding experience. I don't know how we got her to do it. My gay friend bought her moonrocks and convinced her into doing it.

It was so weird, but fucking awesome. Who can say they went to a edm festival with their mom and rolled lol
I still can't believe that happened

/My dad (her ex) thinks we all just smoked weed

And to think I was always getting in trouble by her when I was doing this shit in the past.

Now hard drugs like heroin are still a no no and always will be.
 
Because I love my family, I can tell you that they could count on one hand the number of times they have even seen me with a drink in my hand. I don't like to be a display of silliness because I don't want them to be ashamed of me. I have gone to gatherings with my children's friends parents and they're wasted or acting stupid or passing around something or another, I don't perticipate in that. On another note I know of parents that have been getting their kids high on weed since age 15 I think it's weird to party with your kid they act immature enough why throw them back a few years ? I don't like that I think it's a boundary parents should never cross no matter what age. Once I let my kids sneak a taste of rum we were making rum cake they hated it ;) they don't drink now.
 
To be honest from my perspective a parent is supposed to be a statement of everything good and strong and right a role model. A parent won't want to participate because they want their children to be healthy that's why we feed our children the vegetables and teach them to brush and floss. Being keen on something of potential danger is probably not on any parents list I bet your gonna change your mind when your sister turns 18 mine is 14 years younger I said the same thing until it got there she's 18 and I would still slap the shit out of her for doing drugs
Zeeman said:
My parents know nothing of my drug use other than busting me for marijuana once years ago. They freaked the fuck out as they are extremely anti-drug. I've successfully kept everything hidden from them since I moved out.

My only sibling is 13 years younger than me. If she starts using drugs now at 13, I'd slap her silly. (No not literally, but I would freak out on her.) I didn't start using drugs until I was 18, not even alcohol. I don't think young developing brains should be subject to psychoactive substances, and I'm very happy I did not experiment with drugs in high school. Also, I have a good career now which affords me plenty of free time and resources to explore drugs, primarily psychedelics, which may not have been possible if I got high too much at a young age.

Even though I'm very drug friendly, I'd want to shield my little sister from all drugs until she's 18 or 19, and then I would have a nice long discussion with her about her interest in drugs. I'd be perfectly OK if she has zero interest, but if she does want to experiment when she's older and has some career goals, I'd certainly help her source good quality supplies as well as show her all the resources she should study to stay safe.

I feel this is a pretty healthy stance for older siblings and parents to take. 15 years olds should not be doing drugs, but if you're 18, 19 and have genuine interest, let them do it safely. Being open like that makes them open up to you about their use as well so you won't be blindsided by a secret addiction forming.

I wish my parents were more knowledgeable and more open about drugs, but changing the minds of people their age is damn near impossible.
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When I was a kid my mom would bring cocaine from out of the country and weed. I remember a wine glass she had full of it on her dresser my Dad did speed and weed they were "hippies" I guess I wasn't aware of much then about what they did it took becoming an adult to put all that together the thing I couldn't stand was the smell of weed maybe because it was stashed all over the place.
 
soMETHingactIVe said:
To be honest from my perspective a parent is supposed to be a statement of everything good and strong and right a role model. A parent won't want to participate because they want their children to be healthy that's why we feed our children the vegetables and teach them to brush and floss. Being keen on something of potential danger is probably not on any parents list I bet your gonna change your mind when your sister turns 18 mine is 14 years younger I said the same thing until it got there she's 18 and I would still slap the shit out of her for doing drugs
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Perhaps. If the choice were up to me, I'd definitely prefer my sister to never use drugs. However, if she decides that she wants to explore them, I think guiding her with my knowledge of drugs will minimize the risks she's taking. Chances are, if I'm staunchly against her from experimenting but she's set on doing so, she'll still go ahead and experiment but hide it from me just like I do to my parents now, and she'll make many more mistakes on the way. I've certainly made a few whoppers in my early days of drug use that I wouldn't want anyone to repeat.
 
How did your parents deal with your drug use?

They found out when I was a teenager and they didn't like it but they would cover for me to my school for example. Now that I am older I think they thought that it was all a big phase... which in many ways it was.

How would you deal with your kids drug use?

If I had kids I would teach them that drugs are something they should avoid. I would try to encourage them to exercise and engage in sports. I think people who are health conscious tend to experiment maybe a bit less.

How do you feel about parents who use when they have kids at home?

I don't feel any kind of way. My mom has rx for things that are perfectly legal. She is using drugs at home but in societies eyes she is not. I am fine with it, and I wouldn't be a hypocrite by saying that it's not okay for a parent to smoke weed in front of their kid. I wouldn't advocate going on drug binges. As long as the child is taken care of.

Did your older siblings influence your decision to begin using drugs?

No. My sister once smoked weed outside. Felt so guilty about it she cried to me to forgive her for being a bad influence. I was like... really? You smoked some weed? Who cares? I don't think I said that because she was too emotional. She didn't know I was already using pills.

Do you discuss drugs, prohibition, etc with your family?

My Dad once told me that if you could use heroin on Saturday but lead a normal life the rest of the week that it would be fine. But he said, most of the world cannot do that and there lies the problem. He's right. I am now a heroin addict. I did it for the first time when I was 13. He didn't know I had tried it when he told me that. I didn't become addicted until 10 years later after resuming use again...and then again... and again... and again. My plan was to just use on the weekends. It didn't work out too good.

My family found out after a bag was found in the vicinity of our house. They knew it had to be mine basically and I was harassed into confessing. Some good came of it actually. My parents frantically put me on the insurance... I hadn't had any previously. They payed the yearly deductible and got me in to a really nice detox center. The best part was that they actually started showing me some love and affection after all these years. My mother even called me crying that she was a wreak thinking I was going to die. While I was waiting for the insurance to kick in I told them I was on suboxone maintenance when I was really maintaining on the D. My mother found out and found the stash. Instead of flushing it she gave it back to me and told me that she knew I would just go out and buy more to not be sick and that she never thought she'd do something like that in her life but that she thought she was makin the right decision. I was so grateful to her for that.
 
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