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CrimsonShadows

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Dunno if this is the right forum for this thread, but I was wondering if anyone has lived through a successful relationship while being into hard drugs (most noteably opiates?)
I've had a few relationships that fluorished because of drugs, but they all ended horribly - either because one of us stopped using drugs or from other ridiculous shit.

Most presently I'm addicted to heroin, tapering off onto kratom, and my girlfriend's coming in today on a plane from Montrèal to stay with me. She doesn't do the drugs I do, and right now I'm a little bit more worried about being able to score so I'm not sick when she gets here, than I am about her actually getting here. So, already, there's a huge issue.

I was wondering if anyone's ever been through this situation, or the situation from the perspective of the sober boyfriend/girlfriend, and if they could share any tips on managing a life this way?
 
Nope. never.
& All the junkie couples I've seen - Well, all they do is argue and fight. If they're not fighting, they're nodded out.
 
Was looking for more positive insight. That's a shame, but that does seem to be the way she goes for the mostpart; that's why I'm asking about relationships in which only one person is on drugs.
 
Oh! Alright..
Well, I don't have much experience with that, nor do I know many couples like that.
I'd imagine it COULD work. Possibly. If the S/O doesn't find out about the others drug use..
Either, she'll accept your drug use, & stay with you. Break up with you. Or become addicted herself.

It's impossible to tell what would happen. You know your girl alot better than I do.
How do you think she would take it if you came clean?
 
Me and my girl used to use together all the time.
its had its ups and downs we've both cleaned up and got back into use.
she usually is the one not trying to be with me and it has nothing to do with the drugs and I believe more her mental health but shit can be good for awhile.
I loved our doped up sex that would last all night. P rolly the best relationship I had lol.

Coming clean wouldn't be the worst idea^^
Secrets and shit like that are what ruin the bond not the drug use..
 
I've done the running partner/girlfriend thing. It was a lot of fun and a lot of misery. Getting high with her was fun, scheming with her was sometimes fun, like TRGB, the endlessly long dope sex sessions were mostly fun....
Divvying up hard earned bags was not fun, huge fights started over someone thinking they got less than the other was awful, having the person you "love" call you sick, crying and miserable and having to find a way to remedy that is pretty taxing and horrible.
So, yeah. Good parts and bad parts. I'd say the bad outweighed the good.

I've also done the "hide your addiction from her" thing. It's A LOT of effort for not much reward.
Plus there's the whole constantly lying thing. Which neither her nor I enjoyed. I really, really regret doing that. Not only because she's a former addict and I was putting her in danger, but because of the lying. But, probably more so than anything, because my attention wasn't where it should have been. Dope was far, far more important to me than she was. And that is bullshit.

So, good luck to you, OP. I'm sure you can pull it off. How you end up feeling about yourself is another thing. The main reason why I say that is you wrote that you're already concerned about being well when she's around, so your attention isn't divided. That part gets harder and harder and more and more taxing.
 
95Land said:
I've done the running partner/girlfriend thing. It was a lot of fun and a lot of misery. Getting high with her was fun, scheming with her was sometimes fun, like TRGB, the endlessly long dope sex sessions were mostly fun....
Divvying up hard earned bags was not fun, huge fights started over someone thinking they got less than the other was awful, having the person you "love" call you sick, crying and miserable and having to find a way to remedy that is pretty taxing and horrible.
So, yeah. Good parts and bad parts. I'd say the bad outweighed the good.

I've also done the "hide your addiction from her" thing. It's A LOT of effort for not much reward.
Plus there's the whole constantly lying thing. Which neither her nor I enjoyed. I really, really regret doing that. Not only because she's a former addict and I was putting her in danger, but because of the lying. But, probably more so than anything, because my attention wasn't where it should have been. Dope was far, far more important to me than she was. And that is bullshit.

So, good luck to you, OP. I'm sure you can pull it off. How you end up feeling about yourself is another thing. The main reason why I say that is you wrote that you're already concerned about being well when she's around, so your attention isn't divided. That part gets harder and harder and more and more taxing.
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Good post
 
I dunno where the whole idea of "secrets" came from :P I've never had to hide my drug use from a girlfriend. First day so far's been pretty good - picked up a couple points of down (intentionally blew the last of my money to make sure I wouldn't end up buying more.) Taking a day off work so I'll have a 3 day weekend and can detox myself from opiates -bought a few ounces of ashwagandha, hops, damiana, catnip and passionflower to make some nice brews for those three days, got a bottle of l-theanine to help with anxiety... and I've' got a huge package of kratom coming in the mail to maintain myself at work.

So, things are looking up (though hopefully I'm not being overly optimistic due to being high)
Thanks for sharing opinions and stories!
 
CrimsonShadows said:
I dunno where the whole idea of "secrets" came from :P I've never had to hide my drug use from a girlfriend.
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Your original post lacked some info and kinda made it sound like you may be hiding it from her. Or, lacking some info, didn't clarify whether you were hiding it from her or not. Just saying. Good luck with the detox.
 
I don't think it works very well unless both parties are on the same page. Meaning both are addicted, or both are using but not frequently, or both are in recovery, etc. When you share the same point in life it's not that impossible. When you're at different points, difficulty increases. I'm not an expert on the topic.

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I pulled this off a little over a year ago. I had a moderate IV heroin habit when I met this smoking hot girl at the bar I worked at. The first night we hang out my old dealer hit me up saying he was back around, and so he came through to drop me off some dope when I was wasted with her. So he called me saying he was outside and I was going to have her come in the car for the deal playing it off like I was getting weed for someone, but luckily my dealer told me to have her wait outside.

So I get in the car and he was just getting back from copping his weight, and he took a card I had and scooped some dope in it out of the huge pile he had on his lap. I went back to drinking with her after that, got completely hammered, and woke up in her bed the next morning with a fat gram of dope in my pocket. I did the dope for the next few days until we went out again, and I remember being in bed with her when she asked what the mark was on my arm, but it was at the end of the night so I don't think she remembered that the next day.

After that I basically started living with her, and scoring became too difficult around her so I just stopped. I guess living and sleeping with such a hottie made the kick pretty easy, but the bad part was not being able to last long in bed after that. Her room was so hot though that my night sweats weren't suspicious, and I guess my Valium script made it bare able too. The real issue was when I got arrested in the city for possession. My phone was off for a few days so she knew something was up so when I finally got out after pleading out to a violation I made up a story about making a wrong turn into a bad neighborhood and being brought in after some reverse racial profiling which resulted in drugs being planted on me.

I guess she was gullible but she also said that she would know if I was on heroin and she could tell I wasn't. What helped my case was that when we went out after that and ran into some of my friends they knew what happened and what I told her so they said to me that they heard I got locked up on bullshit charges after getting stuff planted on me.

Like I said though I kicked when I first started staying with her, and only used maybe once a week during our relationship. We stayed together for 3 months before just going out separate ways, having nothing to do with drugs. My main problem was that after we broke up I turned right back to dope and went even harder than before, which brought me nowhere fast.
 
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