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TDS Don't know what to do... Am I sick?

AnrBjotk

AnrBjotk

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Cancer??? (The irony of a suicidal junkie getting cancer...)

Not sure if this fits here, but, I need some support.

About two weeks ago something happened. I was taking the bus to see my girlfriend - who I see in the weekends, because she lives in another city - and I suddenly had a terrible urge to pee. I naturally thought I had to go, no big deal, just annoying. When I arrived I urinated. End of.
But then it happened the next week too. This time I had made sure to pee twice before going.
It happened a third time, this time I still had the urge to pee once I had gone.

I assumed UTI.
But it doesn't fit. No pain during urination, and, often I don't actually have to go once I get to a bathroom.

Now it has happened three or four times. Always when one a long bus ride, when far away from bathrooms and usually when with other people.
Sounds psychological, right?
Except, I have had a lot less anxiety lately. I never get anxious on public transport, and the last time I got it - during class - it made no sense, since I have finally gotten over the worst of my social anxiety there.

Naturally my mind wanders to bladder cancer. Diabetes. Yes, I eat a LOT of sugar, so diabetes is not crazy. Nor is bladder cancer - no cancer at all in my family, but I have a condition which apparently makes me more prone to that type of cancer.

Anyway. I'm waiting for results from urine test.

But in the meanwhile it's killing me.
I DON'T wanna be "that" guy who has to avoid public spaces or need to be near a toilet at all times. I'm a guy, btw.
My shrink can't see me until two weeks and meanwhile I feel humiliated and scared. Scared from the pain that comes with this, and afraid of what deadly illness I may have.

Support? Been there? Is my subconscious telling me something? Is it separation anxiety from the lack of social anxiety lately? A subconscious need to be sick? What?

Help.... Please...
 
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Firstly, relax <3 Chances are so slim that it's cancer. Remain calm while you wait for the results. I know that can be a lot easier said than done, but worrying won't change the outcome will it? All it's gonna do is make you more anxious, which is possibly what has given you this symptom in the first place!

How old are you? Have you had your prostate checked? What else did your GP say when you went there for the urine test?
 
It could be any number of things from physical conditions to mental ones. This happened to my grandfather in the early stages of his Motor Neuron Disease and it was found that his bladder and stomach had malformed, both developing a 'pocket' that would fill with a cup of water leading him to believe he wasn't hungry/needed to go to the toilet all the time. Not trying to scare you, but it the closest I can come to relating to your situation.
 
If you are not experiencing extreme thirst along with the desire to urinate then this wont be diabetes.

If you are young then I would go to a physician as you most likely have a urinary tract infection. This symptom is something I would see physician about as soon you can as it indicates something you will need some assistance with. But, I would bet that it is just a infection.
 
Whilst UTIs are accompanied by painful urination the majority of the time, sometimes they present without the pain symptom. So as neversickanymore said, it is most likely just an infection.

To reiterate though, stressing over it is likely to just make your symptoms worse, so please try to relax. You're not going to die <3
 
n3ophy7e said:
Firstly, relax <3 Chances are so slim that it's cancer. Remain calm while you wait for the results. I know that can be a lot easier said than done, but worrying won't change the outcome will it? All it's gonna do is make you more anxious, which is possibly what has given you this symptom in the first place!

How old are you? Have you had your prostate checked? What else did your GP say when you went there for the urine test?
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My doc didn't check my prostate. Didn't look at anything. He was so "busy" he just gave me a glass to fill and told me to leave...
I've had these pains in my prostate once or twice a year for seven years. No idea what it is. Could be related....
 
Go back and see your doctor again. Tell them precisely what your concerns are. Don't beat around the bush. Be prepared for him to check your prostate gland, and perhaps a blood test. But please, just relax. I have been a hypochondriac my whole life and I can tell you it gets you nowhere! It only adds to your stress, which is clearly reasonably high already. So just try to chill, go back and see the doctor again asap and get some more conclusive testing done <3
 
n3ophy7e said:
Go back and see your doctor again. Tell them precisely what your concerns are. Don't beat around the bush. Be prepared for him to check your prostate gland, and perhaps a blood test. But please, just relax. I have been a hypochondriac my whole life and I can tell you it gets you nowhere! It only adds to your stress, which is clearly reasonably high already. So just try to chill, go back and see the doctor again asap and get some more conclusive testing done <3
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Hopefully, the urine test should have been checked by today.

I keep reading about symptoms. I AM a hypochondriac. Have I lost weight recently? Oh, yes, a lot. Symptom? Or just because I've been working hard and eating less?
Is there blood in my urine? It IS more orange lately. But is that because I haven't been drinking enough water? Maybe.
Who knows.
I'm overdue for cancer. Been expecting it for years now...
 
The urine tests came back negative. No traces of anything. Nothing.
Bladder cancer would show up on urine tests, right? There's be blood, right?

Guess it IS psychological, then... Which is sort of more worrying. Maybe with the test, I'll be able to get the message to my brain.
 
No, a urine test alone won't test for cancer. But please stop worrying that you have cancer because you very likely don't have it.

Maybe go back to the doctor if you're still having the symptoms. If not, relax and don't worry about it :)
 
Well, my overactive mind just hit the jackpot. "They found something." Different location, same general area. The joke is I haven't had the balls to see a doctor after two months of pain.
The girl - I was sent to some lab company who do the dirty work - said she saw "irregularities". I'm thinking she was too pussy to come out and tell me I was dying, and sent me to a specialist to tell me I'm dying.

"They found something". That's how it starts, right? The three words that will haunt me through the next weeks I have left to live...
They found something.
They found something.
Not nothing, something. Some thing.
An irregularity, an anomaly. Something that ain't supposed to be there. Like cancer.
An unwelcome guest in my scrotum.
 
Mate, please try to relax. There are SO many other things that it can be other than cancer. Stop freaking yourself out with the C word! And even in the absolute worst case scenario it does turn out to be cancer, it can be treated. We live in a fantastic time of medical technology and expertise. Don't stress <3

Have you got a friend or family member you can talk to about your concerns? The best thing for hypochondriacs is to talk to other people about your concerns, because having an objective perspective will help to alleviate your concerns. If you just ruminate the same stories you're telling yourself in your head over and over, you amplify them over time and in the space of two weeks you will have convinced yourself that you're dying, without ANY evidence of that at all. Know what I mean?
 
n3ophy7e said:
Mate, please try to relax. There are SO many other things that it can be other than cancer. Stop freaking yourself out with the C word! And even in the absolute worst case scenario it does turn out to be cancer, it can be treated. We live in a fantastic time of medical technology and expertise. Don't stress <3

Have you got a friend or family member you can talk to about your concerns? The best thing for hypochondriacs is to talk to other people about your concerns, because having an objective perspective will help to alleviate your concerns. If you just ruminate the same stories you're telling yourself in your head over and over, you amplify them over time and in the space of two weeks you will have convinced yourself that you're dying, without ANY evidence of that at all. Know what I mean?
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I talk to my girlfriend about it.
But not my family. I'm not close to my siblings and I can't tell my parents. They are both in their seventies with poor health - and my mom is going through a depression - it would kill them to know. They already worried sick over the former urine-problem, I can just imagine how much "something" is gonna freak them out. No. Can't do that.

I don't know what to do to NOT think about it. I'm paralyzed with fear right now.
 
Captain.Heroin said:
There's nothing to be afraid of.
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Shows what you know! (Sorry)
First "something", now "cancer". Yup. Cancer was mentioned. It coould be cancer and it cooould not be. And a screw up on the lab results mean I have to wait for a referral and even then it will take two-three weeks before I get a test to confirm. Testicular cancer.
I've spent so much time worrying about it and now... there it is.
I didn't say a word. He mentioned it.
The bastard mentioned the c-word.
 
Something similar happened to me recently, as in, this summer that just passed. They threw the Cancer word out there in my case, too, but after a few more ultrasounds and a couple of simple blood tests it was just a cyst on my ovary that resolved itself in ~5 weeks. My most worrysome symptom was constant bleeding, as if I was having one long period for a couple months. I put it off b/c I was SO SCARED I would find out the worst, or, for me, 2nd worst - hysterectomy. Turned out it wasn't even the cyst causing the bleeding, but my birth control. I was on high alert for weeks over this issue and it turned out to be a very simple fix. Take it easy. :)
 
blue1995 said:
Something similar happened to me recently, as in, this summer that just passed. They threw the Cancer word out there in my case, too, but after a few more ultrasounds and a couple of simple blood tests it was just a cyst on my ovary that resolved itself in ~5 weeks. My most worrysome symptom was constant bleeding, as if I was having one long period for a couple months. I put it off b/c I was SO SCARED I would find out the worst, or, for me, 2nd worst - hysterectomy. Turned out it wasn't even the cyst causing the bleeding, but my birth control. I was on high alert for weeks over this issue and it turned out to be a very simple fix. Take it easy. :)
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I really wish that is the case here too. They mentioned calcium, and that might be cancer or might not be. Nobody knows.

I just don't know what to feel right now... you know? Should I freak out? Not care? Ignore/repress? There is no answer.

I'm scared. I've started praying again - first time since I was 8 - and making deals with God. "If it isn't cancer, then I'll..." Bargaining. Pleading. Keep thinking I was SO close to making a life for myself.

I haven't even grasped the concept of death yet.
 
Dude, please relax. The only thing creating this panic is YOU. Not the prospect of cancer, not the mention of "something", YOU. YOU are creating this panic. You are in control of how you react to everything. You're only creating this horrible feeling inside on your own. No-one else is doing this to you. So please, just take a breath, and relax <3

Doctors are legally obliged to mention cancer if something abnormal shows up in tests, so it's still highly likely that it's nothing.

EVEN IF it's cancer, that doesn't mean instant death. I personally know MANY cancer survivors, including prostate and testicular cancers, and including my younger brother (25 years old) who just had a massive brain tumour (8 cubic centimetres/3 cubic inches) removed and he is recovering so well.

Please just relax about it. You're not dying. You're only telling yourself that you're dying, and that is making you feel like shit, isn't it?? So......stop telling yourself you're dying.

Take care, and let us know how you go <3
 
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