Don't know if I can take much more...

[nuttynutskin]

Alright, I'm gonna try to respond to this the best I can...

You are letting this woman control you. Hypothetically so, you follow her around like a lost little puppy dog.

That's your opinion but I don't quite see it like that.

She's never been honest with you from the start.

How so?

You barely see each other, and you cancelled a flight you booked because she said "she wasn't ready" to see you. Then you talk about moving in together.... and you say without warning, out of the blue she says she interested in someone else. So you then cancelled your plans to move there, because why would you move there if she's interested in someone else.

You got the order mixed up... We were talking about me moving there within a year after her last visit which was last summer. That's when things went downhill shortly after, and she said she was interested in someone else. All of this was before I had booked another flight. As far as the flight, I booked it unbeknownst to her during the said bad period we were going through thinking in my warped mind it would solve everything, so I can't really blame her for that. As far as the guy she was interested in she later told me (just recently) that she just saw him for a week but they had nothing in common.

Well, here's the bigger question: why would she be opening the door of possibility to dating other men, if she's making plans to move in with you..... (and yes I understand this was last year)

Well disregarding your mix up with the order of events she told me she basically didn't see things progressing which may have been a fair assumption. Also keep in mind I was drinking heavily during this time and my drinking had caused problems for us in the past. I can't even remember a lot of events and phone calls from that time period.

MOVE ON! You are grasping and hanging on to the idea of a relationship... when there was really not one there to begin with.

Again that's your opinion. Despite our ups and downs I've never met a woman I cared more about, but I don't really feel a need to try to convince you that if your mind is already made up.

Share your time with someone who will appreciate you. Not with someone who is using you when she has no one else.

She appreciates me and has put up with way more than most people would. No one's perfect, and despite hurting each other I've never felt used by her.

I'm not trying to be an asshole here or anything... but mark my words... I see another cancelled trip in the future.

No, thanks for the positive support. Really.

 

[iLoveYouWithaKnife]

That's your opinion but I don't quite see it like that.

Again that's your opinion.

And that's exactly what you are looking for when you post your situation on a message board, and continue to bump the same thread over a 7 month period.

No, thanks for the positive support. Really.

You're sarcasm is unwarranted. I am telling you what I see, through your explanation of events.
And all it is, is her doggin you and you running back when she's ready. It's selfish of her.
And if you want to defend her behavior, that's fine too- but you shouldn't make a contrary thread titled "I don't know how much more I can take..."
Good luck.

 

[nuttynutskin]

The only reason I kept updating this was because even tho things changed for the better I didn't think it warranted making a whole other thread about it. But whatever, you're just making a bunch of brash statements but not even bothering to get the order of events right or elaborate like when you say "She's never been honest with me from the start." I'm fine with you having a different opinion on the matter but I don't see the need to be so negative. Either way I think this thread has run it's course. While we've had our ups and downs things are good now and I think I'll just reserve anything else I have to say to a blog.

So mods if you could be so kind to close this soap opera. lol