dont if i turn my fiance on or not?!?

[Disraeli_Beers]

Congratulations on the child! I don't want to throw medical diagnosis around like heads in an opium den but have you considered postpartum depression? Apparently is relatively common,

Approximately one in seven women was identified with and treated for depression during 39 weeks before through 39 weeks after pregnancy, and more than half of these women had recurring indicators for depression.

Clinically identified maternal depression before, during, and after pregnancies ending in live births.

Not to mention that the amount of sex fluctuates in a long term relationship, I'm sure a child often adds to that. Maybe make it all about her? Take you time and make her feel sexy, kiss her entire body and then go down on her for an hour. Best advice I've ever given!

 

[Beachcat]

I will put in a different perspective... After I gave birth and stayed home with a baby/toddler all day, by the end of the day I was so sick of being "touched" all the time. Your personal space becomes nil...there is always someone clutching, grabbing, crying, spitting up etc on you. That plus true lack of sleep drove my desire down. Or, sometimes I just wanted to get laid without all of the petting/touching that usually comes first.

IMO, the best way to get a new mom in the mood would be either to come home from work and totally relieve her of all baby duties for a while, or get her away from the babe for a night or weekend. Then, she may be able to enjoy connecting physically again.

 

[dnb2012]

Firstly thank you disralie babe.
I do try and make it all about her. But sometimes its hard coz I enjoy it when she comes to me. And beachcat you've quite litrally said what she says to me! I understand how she feels after having the baby all day because I have had him alot as well. Understand he's hard work for her and she just wants to chill in bed. My main worry is when we do have sex is she turned on? I used to be able to tell with her breathing but now I can't n worrys me if its me (chances are I no its not). See I can't let baby go for the weekend because I am very attached to him my self. But saying that you have now gave me an idea ;-)