Any tips on how to give good head op?
Well, since you asked. :D
In no particular order...
~You are the director.Yes, it would seem that the person doing the sucking is the submissive, but you have control. Remember that.
~Learn to read body language, and ask questions. Most anyone can give passable head, but to give out-of-this-world head, you need to be in tune with your partner's reactions. If you switch to something that elicits a 'meh" response, go to something else. If you find something that makes his breathing fucked up, or his toes curl, keep doing it, dont stop.
~ Watch the teeth. Few men like teeth or pain. that said...
~ Go hard and slow, not light and fast. Make every move deliberate. Many men see porno and think that's the way it's done (light and fast). some men might like it this way, but the ones i've come across like it more heavy and slow (they probably dont even know they like it like that)
~ Use your hands! sucking dick is hard work; take off some of that jaw work with your hands. Your hands can grip tighter than your mouth possibly could. Even if you dont use your hands on his dick, put them on his hips, caress his ass. Remember, you are in control. DO NOT SIT THERE WITH YOUR HANDS IN YOUR LAP!!
~ this is probably #1 (so much for no particular order): BE ENTHUSIASTIC! This is hard if you're timid, or had a bad experience, but once you give a blowjob that takes a man off his feet, this becomes MUCH easier. It's human nature to like what you're good at, or great at. Dont just give a blowjob, give him a BJ that he'll be talking about 30 years later with his buddies ("Hey, when I was in college, there was this ONE chick who gave AWESOME head...). and yes, guys do remember shit like this, and talk about it.
~ For me, I think about what *I* would like, then give it to my partner. I try to put myself in their shoes.
~ some guys are very sensitive to certain things. me, I HATE sloppy BJs (with drool running down my balls) and hate slurping sounds (it is a HUGE turn off). also HATE to have my balls played with. the next guy might find the exact opposite appealing. Ask him before hand if there is anything to avoid.
~ A fair number of guys like deepthroat. If you cant do it, no problem: use your hand to take up some of the shaft length and use your mouth on the head. You dont gag, and he feels pressure/stimulation on the entire length of his dick. Win-win lol.
~ If he asks for something you feel is "freaky", like a finger up his ass, or to jerk it like you're trying to rip it off his body, then do it. shit, you've already got a dick in your mouth and balls on your chin, might as well, right?
~ This probably would be #2 if I were ordering this list: when he is about to come, DO NOT STOP!! Many an otherwise acceptable/awesome/perfect BJ has been utterly ruined by this. cum in your mouth isnt the end of the world; that's what mouthwash (or swallowing) is for. dont try to get cute or change technique at the last seconds; you got him this far by doing good/right, dont fuck it up in the last seconds. You can even spit it out after w/o offense; most guys, after they bust a nut, dont care what you do. Sorry if that offends, but it's true.
~ Some men like eye contact, others are 'meh', and some close their eyes. In my experiences, those that close their eyes are enjoying it the most.
~ Male orgasms vary WILDLY. Some you wouldnt know came at all except there's a small amount of semen, some cum like crazy, others are loud, still some go into a trance like or seizure like state. It's a bit deflating to give what you think is a killer BJ to see someone barely react, but it happens.
~ strive for giving the best head imaginable. You wont always be able to pull it off, but my motto is "If you're gonna do it, try to be the best at it".
~ For me, the best oral sensation is suction. I have found this the case with my partners as well. Lips and tongue LOOK hot (in a porno), and if looks are huge to your partner, this may do it for him. But what if you're both in a dark room? No one is gonna see that stuff. Make it FEEL good, not LOOK good.
~ Take a break. You dont have to have him in your mouth the whole time. *remember use your hands*. You can take those moments to ask if he likes it, or talk dirty to him ("You like having your dick in my mouth, dont cha?). Most men dont get to hear dirty talk. for some, it is distracting, for many others, it can be HIGHLY erotic.
~ Dont be fake. If you hate giving head, better probably to bypass it altogether. dont fake moans or say shit like "ooh, your dick is soooo big" if he's average. guys do know this shit, and unless his self esteem is completely fucked, they arent going to buy it. iow, dont sound like a cheap whore or pornstar.