Beatlebot said:
Sure. Sometimes people take it upon themselves to do something they would not otherwise do. It's their own decision to do so.
If I love someone, I don't try to manipulate them into doing something they wouldn't want to do. For example...
Me - "Honey, I'd really like to fuck you with a strap-on."
My bf - "Ah, no sweetie, I don't really want to do that."
Me - "Sometimes, a MAN OR WOMAN decides to do something that HE OR SHE wouldn't otherwise do because HE OR SHE cares about the happiness of someone other than HIMSELF OR HERSELF."
Perhaps I should clarify my position.
No one said anything about manipulation.
If my girlfriend chooses to never swallow my love gravy, despite knowing how much utility she WOULD be adding to my experience, I don't manipulate her into doing so . . .
. . . rather, I make a mental note that she is not particularly generous in this regard ASSUMING that the reason she decides to never swallow is the fact that she doesn't care for the taste of semen.
Because in my life experience, if all unpleasant things were assigned a point value between one (1) and one-hundred (100) [with (1) representing a very minor annoynace and (100) representing excruciating physical or emotional pain] . . .
. . . almost everyone I have ever encountered would agree that tasting something they dislike for a minute or two would rate somewhere between a 1 out of 100 and 10 out of 100.
Tops.
The decision to swallow or not to swallow, like every decision in life, is a balancing test.
And, if I truly *love* someone (e.g., my parents, my girlfriend, my best friends), that means that I value their happiness almost as much as I value my own.
Which means that if I was willing to endure (let's say), something with 10 unpleasant points so that *I* could experience a much longer, much better orgasm, then I ought to be willing to endure the same 10 unpleasant points if by doing so, I could give *HIM OR HER* a much longer, much better orgasm.
On the other hand, in your example, your boyfriend is being asked to engage in an activity that many many many people (reasonably or unreasonably) would rate as having 50 or 70, or maybe even 90 unpleasant points TO THEM.
If your boyfriend is one of those people, then unless your life or your health or your safety was at stake, it would be asking an awful lot to expect him to endure a 50 or 70 or 90 unpleasant-point event just so that you could be more satisfied sexually.
If, by some chance, my girlfriend had issues OTHER THAN THE TASTE OF MY DELICIOUS SEMEN that made the act of swallowing it a 50 to 90 unpleasant-point event TO HER, then I would *NOT* make my earlier-mentioned mental note of "not particularly generous" and would instead make a mental note of "has unusual cum-swallowing issues."
Fortunately for me, my generous cum-guzzling girlfriend has given me no reason to make either mental note.
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