Do 'rents share use history?

[Dynamic_Coins]

Basically what i'm looking to get at in this thread is wether or not people think most parents are honest in regards to their history with drugs to their kids. What I want to kinda avoid is comments like "when i'm a parent..." because its very difficult to guess what we'll do in the future.
Rather, I'm curious if people think their parents (especially the ones that say 'drugs are evil, don't touch them') honestly abstained from drugs in their youth. Statistically, it would seem improbable that the # of parents could possibly not have tried various drugs. Does it make sense for parents to have tried many drugs but still hide that fact to their kids? So what does everyone think?
(feel free to move me to social...OD is just more fun)

 

[PhreeX]

Both my parents were about as sober as you can get... neither of them did anything illegal, but my mom smoked (tobacco) once and my dad consumed alcohol when he was only 19... so I would say they didn't take the same path I have chosen... on the other hand, NEITHER ever gave me shit for my drug use... I mean, I always got the "thats not good for you, stop using" - but never a serious threat or anything...
I will make damn sure my kids avoid drugs like marijuana, lsd, and cocaine - and only use drugs that I can benifit from when I dip into their stash...
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[aschapm]

last time i shroomed i wondered the same thing. but i think it takes a certain level of understanding and trust for a parent to tell their child they did drugs. i just recently found out that my parents made pot brownies about 15 years ago, but they were reluctant to talk about it.
i think that because drugs aren't publicly well understood parents don't want their children doing them at all, mostly because of safety concerns. it's a legitimate fear, but it's mainly a huge trust issue.

 

[*kell*]

My mother was all anti-drugs & telling me that she never touched them( I knew she was lying as i found her pot stash when I was 12), that was until she realised where I was at. She fessed up that she'd done acid,speed, coke & pot, she was pretty cool about it, she was more worried about me drinking alcohol than smoking pot for which i give her huge credit.
So she's pretty liberal, but I would never tell her about the extent of my drug use, I kind of feel like the roles are reversed in that sense, like I have to protect her from knowing,It would relly fuck her up.I've forgotten the question..lol.um YES I think most parents probably do lie about their past experience, I probably would, unless, like my mother I saw my kid doing the same shit I did/do.She always told me that even pot leads to 'harder' drugs, of course she was right, she always is.
I have a few friends that had jukie parents,parents that didn't hide it from them, everyone of those friends are sevearly fucked up & have ended up going the same way.

 

[wilson]

Quote from my dad: "I've NEVER seen any pills or bags containing illegal drugs! Once I saw someone buying something which I think was drugs, but that's all!"

 

[kaleigh_k]

My parents really weren't into the drugs scene. Although they were in their early 20's in the 60's, dad was more of the crew cut type and mom was a secratary. No free love, electric cool-aid acid test from them.
Dad is an alcoholic mind you. I spent much time in sleezy bars as a child. He would drop mom off for groceries and take me "out" for the afternoon. My perception of being an adult was severly affected.
They insisted that drugs were bad, but I knew that some of dad's friends did blow or speed balls as was propolar in the 70's. but not your father, honey. He's against drugs.
Dad encouraged drinking, by taking me to dinner and doing the 3 bottle of wine thing. I look back and think about how disgusting it must have appreared to those waiters getting us shit faced when I'm only like 15 or 16. I shutter at the thought.
They both freaked when a dime bag fell outa my pocket on to their bed as I was checking out my look in the full legth mirror. That is the only time I got it and I got it good. The first hit sent me flying about 8 feet. For some pot. imagine the stupidity of it all.
Now that I'm all grown up, I am open about my own use of cannabis and I generally condone alcohol. I am surely an alcoholic. I cannot have 1. My joke in college was let's go out for a beer or 10. Because of this jaded perception and my genetic attraction to alcohol, I spent about 3 years drunk. RahRahRah - the lost college years. I didn't consider I drank when I only had a 6 pack a night. For what ever god given reasons I re-evaluated the situation and through lots of meetings stopped the pattern. I now drink occasionally, but I managed to stop the cycle.
That's not to say that I'm clean and sober. But I try to maintain the control.
I am reluctant to be completely open to my kids. I think it wiser to have them be a bit older. I wouldn't want my 12 year old doing coke, for ex. Smoke a joint, have a few beers in your friends basement... But if you set the bar too low, the nature of a teenager is to piss off the parents... They'll be straight into IV coz everything else is mainsteam ( GAWD, my mother does e.... as he rolls his eyes)
Jeez. sorry. I am running on today. Have a good one...
k.

 

[gnrm23]

my dad was a WWII vet... sorta beat era... smoked wild green picked by the railroad tracks... hung out at the jazz clubs (after hours, even... sole cornflake in a bowl of raisins, sometimes... ) ...ran with a wild crowd for a while... went to college on the GI bill, got his shit together...
said he didn't think it was a good idea getting stoned... bore witness to the 'gateway' effect --- most of his buddies he ran with ended up with "bad habits" like heroin addiction, or going to the big house for whatever crimes they decided to get involved with...
(my dad's morphine addiction came courtesy US army air corps --- plane crash in south america after the war (2 survivors from his B17 crew lived in the andes crash...) ; dad & radio op made it to the hospital & dad's knee was smashed to jelly --- morph every day until knee was knit --- then cold fukn turkey withdrawal & he had to learn to walk again... so to this day he is very leery of ingesting narcos 'cause he fears the "hook" of opiates...)
so anyway, he knows that my kid bro & i have been into ganja (& maybe some other stuff) but thinks it is "playing with fire" or some such... (& my kid bro is in mid-30s & i am pushing 50...)
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as to my kids & my/their "bad habits" --- well, that's another story for another time... but i do have a copy of weil & rosen: from chocolate to morphine & i suggest to them if they are intersted in drug-altered states of consciousness, that book would be a great place to start researching the subject...
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[[u.k neuronauticals inc]]

my mum used to be a heroin addict,my dad died from heroin overdose (thats what made my mum quit),and while i was living with her and for the last 15 years my mum has been selling cannabis,however she still tried to steer me clear from more serious drugs,and has always been honest about the drugs shes used (which is all of them).

 

[Rollingrrl]

My parents were big smokers up until 5 years ago. Course I started smoking about a 3 years ago. They pretended not to know anything about it but eventually smoked with my friends and I. My dad made us several awesome pipes out of bamboo. He's given me money for acid before and let me have rolling parties at my house. Both parents buy alcohol all the time for me. I'm 18. They know my drug use: beans, coke, weed, acid etc. My mom's done crack and Dad did all kinds of shit. But for some reason the only drug they really fuss at me for doing is beans! Huh? Did I miss something?
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[thinctwo]

hmm... my parents told me about acid before i knew what it was. dad shared some trip stories. theyre not heads now; my dad works for a fortune 500 company and moms a housekeeper. but theyve both told me about smokin green - the first pipe i had i stole from my mom - trippin cid and shrooms, and my dad even admitted he did meth.
but i think its good. although they knew what to look for in me, but were understanding. i mean, damn, they were searching my room before i had any user friends or inclination to doing anything.
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[pulpananda]

my mom parties and has told me about things she has done. we are pretty open about it all . but my dad doesn't at all and condemns any such thing(they are divorced). what he doesn't know is when he's lecturing me, my mom is telling me his stories of when he was younger. it might be wrong on her part, but it's funny. i think it is good that we are open about it because, duh, i get to do it without hiding it, but also it helps keep me out of trouble. more importantly, when you are open with your kids and they know they can be open with you, you get closer and start being open about more things and it really just creates a more honest, easygoing realtionship.

 

[theLoneRadikal]

My mom is super-sober...she claims to have had most of a glass of wine once...but never felt anything from it.
My DAD, tho...well, when I was about 2 I got to visit him in rehab thanks to fifteen years of a cocaine addiction...he was arrested for pot in high school he "used to live off of acid" and has smoked meth, and continues to hide his addiction to tobacco which he was completely unable to hide.
Both of them are drug nazis...
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[PhreeX]

What do you do *AS* a parent? I mean, I would like to think I could be open with my kids, but honestly, I wouldn't want them to do half the shit that I did.. so perhaps a good story about how drugs killed their grandpa? Or maybe a story about how they are fatally alergic to THC, cocaine, amphetamines, opiates, and all other abusable drugs... shit, I wouldn't get any sleep if I even THOUGHT that my son or daughter was out doing ANY of the things I did... if I knew my kid was a responsible user, thats one thing... but on the path to "responsible use" there are road-blocks such as "tweaking for days straight then shooting illegal guns into bushes because you think ninjas are hiding in them" ...
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[phuKrd]

My parents kept the entire realm of drugs completely away from me while I was growing up. Even while they were growing marijuana in the green house! Off I go to college, without having experimented at all and with the mindset that "drugs are bad mmkay". I come back from college for a visit and I find my brother and his friends smoking a joint with my parents. All of a sudden it is okay. My brother at 16 and me at 18, my parents opened up to us. In his younger years, my dad tried everything. His favorite drug during that time was LSD. Then he had a bad trip and found himself in jail - didn't do it again after that. My mom on the other hand has only done weed and mushrooms. Now, we openly talk about "natural" drugs, because those are the ones they feel comfortable talking about. We frequently smoke up with them and do the occasional mushroom trip with them. It is understood that I experiment with nearly everything, but not talked about. My parents often make uneducated stereotypes and comments on "chemical" drugs and how bad they are. Overall, I am happy that my parents are so openminded - despite the occasional comment here and there. Now, my favorite drug is LSD (closely ranked among a variety of others)-maybe it runs in the family!Soon I hope to reintroduce it to my dad and take a little trip with him. Weed & mush actually brought my family way closer together. Being stoned with my parents encouraged conversation that wouldn't normally have come about.

 

[jerzeezfinest]

Both my parents had their fare share of partying back in their day--they were Dead Heads, serious pot-heads and users of psychedelics, along with a pretty bad coke habbit that lasted a few years when I was young.
Now--my mom is an alcoholic, but abstains from illegal substances and my dad is an alcoholic and still smokes pot, trips occasionally.
They are OK with my smoking weed and using acid/shrooms but forbid me from any other "chemicals"...lol.
My mom is a little sketchy when we talk about drugs, she never gives me the full story--she always leaves shit out. My dad is very honest and tells me everything straight out. I'm half glad they've both been users, and half really pissed off; glad because they understand why i do the things i do, and pissed off b/c they always kno when i'm fukd up n what i'm on =o)
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