Disrespect

So, I started out the morning early in order to get out to the Welfare Office to he;p a dude out that had relapsed and came back. I knew him from before and I wanted to give him a hand. His girl had just left and he asked if he could walk with me to stay clean.

Our plan was to go to the Welfare Office, swing by his dentists, drop off a prescription to get filled, pick up his girl who wanted to come home and pick up some job applications.

My alarm clock went off and about 2 minutes later my phone rang. My upstairs neighbor told me she needed to go to the hospital. I left immediately, dropped her off at the hospital for whatever petty symptom she was complaining about. After that I dropped her husband off to Drug Court.

I then picked up the dude had relapsed. Well, we ran all our errands and on the way home shit got fucked up. We went to the pharmacy and he had his girlfriend run in to pick up his prescription. It was taking a while for her to come back out. Dude then said that he was going to the grocery store next door for a second and wanted me to pick him up there after his girl came out of the store.

Ummmmmmm, dude didn't have any money so what does he need at the grocery store? He came back shortly and then went into the pharmacy to see what was taking his girl so long.

Check this part out... I see two police cars pull up to the paharmacy. They walk in but stare at me sitting in the car.

Dude's girl comes out of the pharmacy and he follows. He hops in the car and says 'Go, go, go!'

FUCK THAT!

I stayed exactly where I was. The police came out, asked him to step out of the car and they handcuff him. They go through his girl's pockets and take him around the corner out of site.

To make this short, dude had a prescription for 15 Vicodins. HE FUCKIN' WROTE 35 OVER THE 15 so that he could get 20 more. Stupid motherfucker.

Anyway, everyone in the car was questioned, they checked for warrants and asked me to step out of the car.

The cop was a dickhead to me but I was pretty calm. He said that if dude got in the car that I would be facing charges as well.

I got a lecture on hanging out with drug addicts and the cop is gonna send me a ticket for having a kid in the car without being in a car seat.

I was tryin' to help this dude out and he 'dope-fiended' me. I thought he respected me more than that than to drag me into his drug seeking bullshit.

Fuck him! I was ALWAYS there for him and he fucked me over. He's facing time now (don't know how much). Apparently he was released from prison early last time and is on probation so, now they may add the time that he didn't serve onto this new sentence.

I always thought he acted kinda odd. Most of us do when we start comin' around NA. I should have listened to my instincts.

Lesson learned. The motherfucker disrespected me. He placed my future career as an EMT in danger, he intended to bring drugs in my car and he put me in a spot where I could have gotten locked up for just 'helping out'.

I gotta be more aware and not automatically assume that EVERYONE in NA is looking to recover.

This is probably written poorly but I'm exhausted, a little stressed and betrayed at the moment so... I dunno

 

Wow, that's scary. I'm really glad that you didn't get in too much trouble though. You definitely did the right thing by not listening to him when he told you to go and by staying calm.

Your heart was definitely in the right place by trying to help out someone who you thought was in need. Hopefully karma will kick that douche's ass.

 

It's written pretty well man, and you have every right to be pissed. I mean FFS, the guy was making you an unwitting accomplice to a felony. That's unexcusable. Yet at the same time, when you have a gorilla on your back, you generally don't think in terms of proper behaviour, but rather in terms of 'what does it take to put this goddamn gorilla to sleep for a few hours?' It doesn't excuse what he did, but it helps to see things from the other side, if only hypothetically.

Besides, if it came to it you'd be able to fight any charges that came of this. It's your word vs. the cop's, and you must have more than a few IRL character references/witnesses who would back you up.

 

Whoa.
New Years might be a good time to decide to let go of toxic people in your life OD
You are always out to be the helping hand, a good guy- You are always doing for others.....do for yourself for a bit!!
Keep your head up-
and if I were you I'd tell that guy to fuck off.

 

spork - thank you for saying that my heart was in the right place, it truly was. I truly believe in karma BUT I honestly don't want it to fuck him over too bad. I want people to get clean (if that is what they truly want). Maybe being in jail will be the answer for him? Maybe this is just another wake up call and even though you can get drugs in prison perhaps prison will keep him clean (at first). I DO want to deliver consequences to him personally but I'm learning that these things aren't up to me. He'll get appropriate consequences (hopefully in a balanced, lesson learned type of way) so yeah, I guess I do want karma to kick in

Dave - i can definitely see it from his view. We get high by any means necessary. I just thought he respected me but as I look back at his behaviors throughout the time I've known him, he is completely self-centered and self-serving. I also have learned that he physically abused his girlfriend many times. THAT is unacceptable to me (even though it is none of my business). You DON'T control others by ANY means as far as I'm concerned (but, this is just my opinion)

ocean- I think I just need to learn balance in this area. When people first start getting clean in NA (newcomers) they are confused, angry, and still hang on to past behaviors. They NEED people to reach out to them and say 'yo, I get it, you remind me of me and if you wanna honestly put the drugs down, WE can help it not be as hard as it can be but ultimately YOU need to do the work'. I NEED to be there for the new guy because it helps me as well. Also, people with significant clean time are stand offish to the newcomer and this is unacceptable to me. I do think that many times I do things are for the wrong reasons (ie I want people to like me, it fulls that fuckin' ego that I really DO NOT wnat to have anymore, etc)

This was an eye-opener but... as I click 'Post Now' I will be picking up two newcomers to hit a meeting in what they call 'The Badlands' of Philly. 12 Steppers NEED to reach out to others in pain and who need support and guidance so that they realize that they don't ever need to use again. If they choose a 12 Step option then cool deal but if they find something else that works, cool deal as well.