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Difficulties in finding a girlfriend

Im cool with these people
Im talking from a girly perspective,i mean,they are bitchez and care only about appearence

This remark is not exactly the way you want to think about women. Women can smell this kinda shit on a guy. You need to go in with the attitude that women are awesome and beautiful, be positive. How old are you btw? With your age we can kinda put where you should go and how you should act more into perspective.
 
I've actually never had a girlfriend and the longest i've ever had sex with the same girl was for 2 weeks. I've only had sex 20 times in my life and I like to think i'm confident but sometimes it just doesn't work out.
 
Im cool with these people
Im talking from a girly perspective,i mean,they are bitchez and care only about appearence

Maybe it's your attitude? Just the few posts I've read I could conclude that you're racist and misogynistic. Not saying you are but you come across that way. If you're like that at all in real life women will pick up on it.

This remark is not exactly the way you want to think about women. Women can smell this kinda shit on a guy. You need to go in with the attitude that women are awesome and beautiful, be positive. How old are you btw? With your age we can kinda put where you should go and how you should act more into perspective.

Yup.
 
attitude can make up for a not so great appearance. There are guys who aren't conventionally attractive, but because of how they carry themselves, how they talk/act/treat people, they're incredibly sexy and people are drawn to them.

On the other hand, if you're a hateful sort of a person, that will show through, and most people won't be interested. I don't care how hot a guy is - seriously, I don't care if he's Brad Pitt reincarnated - if he's an asshole, he can get to steppin.
 
Yeah, pretty sure that this could be your problem right here. The vast majority of women out there are in fact not bitches, and know that appearance makes up a small part of the whole package. Get some confidence in yourself, and give women some credit and you will most likely find someone.


exactly- a bad attitude is very unnattractive indeed and i can pick it up easily from your body language and demeanour
 
I'm having the same problem.
Been sick for 11 years, and finally moving forward in terms of health and finances. In some ways it's like I've been in a social-life coma.
My health is still shitty/below average compared to a regular man, and I have significant body-image issues. I was a popular 23 year old guy, and an athlete, when I became ill. My friends have all moved 11 years into the future (obviously). I have no girlfriends and no friends. Very easy to let this fact frustrate me, even while I slowly and steadily advance in my business ventures. I refuse to live like this anymore.
After the holidays in January I will at least get a girlfriend (I'm starting out with very low standards like disease-free and good hygiene)...

Was going to start a new thread, but this one was already along the same lines. Any advice would be appreciated.
 
What were you sick with and why are you starting out with low standards? IMO having a girlfriend just for the sake of having a girlfriend is kind of pointless. Why not try to find someone you actually like?
 
What were you sick with and why are you starting out with low standards? IMO having a girlfriend just for the sake of having a girlfriend is kind of pointless. Why not try to find someone you actually like?

Heart problems that required 2 major open-heart surgeries. At this point, not having a girlfriend has become a mental/emotional pain, as well as just missing out on something nice in life.
 
Damn that sucks... I get that you want a girlfriend and I'm not saying you shouldn't start looking, I'm just saying I don't think you need to put a date on it. I mean you want someone that you like right? I'd just give it some time. Unless you're just looking for sex of course.
 
This remark is not exactly the way you want to think about women. Women can smell this kinda shit on a guy. You need to go in with the attitude that women are awesome and beautiful, be positive. How old are you btw? With your age we can kinda put where you should go and how you should act more into perspective.

Yea, a good personality can goes a long way. I find guys that are funny and outgoing to be more attractive than guys that are "handsome". If you can make me laugh, ill give you a chance. If your really desperate, try out dating sites like saucy or sweet at http://www.freedatinghelper.com/reviews/saucy-sweet/ and see what you think. I think you would like it.
 
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Dude you won't be so worried about getting girls once all your focus is on getting high off heroin. Plus it ruins your sex drive and appetite for it. If you become a junkie like you so want to do, you either don't care much about getting some tail, or you will last 20 seconds. I'm glad I didn't develop my opiate habit until I was in my mid 20s, because since the addiction I'd rather sit home with a g of dope than hit the bars and find a girl. Also no girls want to date some dude whos hooked on dope and has zero money. The only junkies who girls like are dealers or rich pricks who give them drugs. I tell you if this is your concerns now, just wait until your strung out on heroin, then you can't even break one off with a hooker because you are too poor.
 
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