I didn't read every detail there but it sounds like you are having an issue with your dad "defeating you." Were you a virgin before you met her? So you did not know her when this happened? How did she meet your dad? I find this story strange.
I've been in two relationships before, so no. When that it said, I've never taken a girls virginity, and so it's painful for me to lose that privilegie. Say what you want, many guys think like that. Yeah, I knew her. I come from a kind of small community where everyone knows everyone. And everyone's attitude to sex is pretty liberal.