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Describe your love life:)

SLR... you're among the first to know that...

my guy of almost 6 months and I have decided to shack up. :) I haven't even posted it on FB yet! (And no, he is NOT a Bluelighter ;))

He has a better apartment than me, and I travel often, so we decided I'll give up my place (roommate was driving me NUTS anyways, so I was shopping around), and he needs to be close to his work and his kids from his previous marriage, who will be staying with us 3x/week. The kids love me as well. He asked them if they wanted me to live here and they said they would be happy if I did. :) His ex-wife is even alright with it. I think she appreciates that I genuinely do care about the kidlets. She's dating someone new as well.

It is going to be a HUGE adjustment. We almost split last week from a nasty misunderstanding, but we decided to stay the course. We knew we wanted to live together, we just did not realize it would be so soon. It was nice to wake up next to him this morning knowing we would be having dinner together with the kidlets tonight. Overall, it is probably the most stable and happy relationship I have ever had. We genuinely make better people out of each other. We spend so much time together anyway... it just seemed like the natural next step.

The lease ends in March, so we'll be shopping for a bigger place then (this one's only a 2 br). We're each saving about $500/mo as a result. It's a pretty damn cool situation if you ask me. :) :) :) Yay!
 
^ hey, j.

that's great news. congratulations.

i'll be moving to the east coast in about 6 weeks to live with my girlfriend in boston so my lovelife's great :)

alasdair
 
My current g/f, of about a year and things are going AWESOME. Im a druggie, when we first started dating I was the drug abuse stereo-type. doing them every 2-3 days, blow k e all that. We always had fights about it. I didn't want to change who I was, but I was willing to slow down my usage by tuns ( use to be a weekly to bi-weekly mdma user, in thye first year of us dating, i did it only twice ). So I was trying, but she started asking what it was like and so forth and we started doing mdma together after carefully explaining the good/bad about it and the whole 10-yards, she started to have a different perspective on drugs. Now shes my drug partner now, but we keep it responsible. Sex was always good or ok, now its mind boggling good, anal play, what ever, shes always down and I fucking love it!
 
Intoxicating, confusing and a whole new experience..

The boy have e been on and off for almost two years with him holding me at arms length for the first 12 months or so.. His reasoning was his break ups have a history of being nasty and he didn't want to drive me away..

But then at the start of the year we both admitted that we can't stay away from each other as much as we try, and the on and off nature of what we had was too emotionally taxing for me.. so we decided to give it a go..

We've also taken another turn firm the norm in the fact that we are both polyamorus and I'm very much a submissive masochist and he has embraced his dominate side and we've lived as owner and pet since Febuary..

Its been one hell of a ride, me going on aropax for anxiety and then having to go off it cold turkey after it made me manic and much more unstable and then learning to deal with paranoid anxiety and add unmedicated..

That being said i've never been on such a joyus rollercoster full of surprises and growth.

Owner was a crystal addict and has been off the gear for the better part of 6 years, was a heroin addict in my misguided youth and then later fell to the lure of the meth pipe myself..

This year I've finally gotten to the point where I prefer to have a quiet night on the couch than go out and stay up for days or go on wild tripping adventure.

After five years of wanting to do nothing than to put myself into altered states to escape reality I want nothing more than to spend as much time with two feet firmly planted in reality with him
 
Currently having a weekend with one of my friends, fucking a fair amount...kinda waiting to see what happens with a few other females though - I'm focussing on other things though, things will work out by themselves and I'll be a lucky dog to wind up with any of the 3 females I've really got on my mind.
 
Someone once told me i was a single parent in a married relationship, i guess that just about sums me up...
 
Mariposa said:
SLR... you're among the first to know that...

my guy of almost 6 months and I have decided to shack up. :) I haven't even posted it on FB yet! (And no, he is NOT a Bluelighter ;))

He has a better apartment than me, and I travel often, so we decided I'll give up my place (roommate was driving me NUTS anyways, so I was shopping around), and he needs to be close to his work and his kids from his previous marriage, who will be staying with us 3x/week. The kids love me as well. He asked them if they wanted me to live here and they said they would be happy if I did. :) His ex-wife is even alright with it. I think she appreciates that I genuinely do care about the kidlets. She's dating someone new as well.

It is going to be a HUGE adjustment. We almost split last week from a nasty misunderstanding, but we decided to stay the course. We knew we wanted to live together, we just did not realize it would be so soon. It was nice to wake up next to him this morning knowing we would be having dinner together with the kidlets tonight. Overall, it is probably the most stable and happy relationship I have ever had. We genuinely make better people out of each other. We spend so much time together anyway... it just seemed like the natural next step.

The lease ends in March, so we'll be shopping for a bigger place then (this one's only a 2 br). We're each saving about $500/mo as a result. It's a pretty damn cool situation if you ask me. :) :) :) Yay!
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Well, fuck me right and properly for having jumped the gun. The pressure was too much. The situation was supposed to be that way, but it didn't work. It was WAY too soon. A comment his ex made about "wanting him to pull up a couch next to her and relax" because she was lonely that her 'boyfriend' wouldn't text her back, did NOT sit well with me. Although I know nothing is at all likely to happen between those two... these people are grownups, and they need to act that way.

I am sad to say that it did not work. He must have his own mental health as his priority, as must I. I feel worst of all for the children, who I will miss dearly. I thought the Universe was finally working correctly in that I had what I thought was a happy family handed to me. I thought I had a supportive and equal partner with the bonus of two great kidlets. I was wrong.

If I were a person of faith, I'd be praying for the well-being of the two boys. I wanted stability. I knocked off my travel schedule for him, because he would not travel with me. I got exhausted of trying to maintain that for all of them in addition to putting up money. I did the absolute best I could. My now former partner was diagnosed bipolar and an addict in 2007. He is also a compulsive gambler. I do not judge. Assuredly, I have my flaws. My flaws are many. But I cannot be in a relationship with this man.

I am glad I got out of it in time with my bank account and my sanity intact. Of course, I am very sad. I will miss the children. I would adopt them if I could. I am grateful to have the support of the people who want nothing more than to see me happy. I know the pain will pass in time. I got rid of an inept jackass. I hope only that the children will grow up to be better than their parents. I really, really will miss them. They brought light into my life.

So, yes, I am single - I am not interested in dating, sex, or anything of that sort. I'm going to concentrate on my career, my family, my friends, my hobbies, and if I sleep alone, at least I'm not with an inept jackass.
 
Have a fantastic first month with someone, then at the "getting to know you phase" things inevitability fall apart, I sabotage the relationship and find another partner to have a good month with. In the past 4 months I've dated 7 different girls, kind of would like some stability in my love life but I guess it's just not for me at this time.
 
Mariposa said:
I am sad to say that it did not work. He must have his own mental health as his priority, as must I. I feel worst of all for the children, who I will miss dearly. I thought the Universe was finally working correctly in that I had what I thought was a happy family handed to me. I thought I had a supportive and equal partner with the bonus of two great kidlets. I was wrong.

If I were a person of faith, I'd be praying for the well-being of the two boys. I wanted stability. I knocked off my travel schedule for him, because he would not travel with me. I got exhausted of trying to maintain that for all of them in addition to putting up money. I did the absolute best I could. My now former partner was diagnosed bipolar and an addict in 2007. He is also a compulsive gambler. I do not judge. Assuredly, I have my flaws. My flaws are many. But I cannot be in a relationship with this man.


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Mari. this is not said as a 'pat on the head cliche' but any guy would be lucky to have you. Seriously, your attitude; on line anyway, your motivation and integrity are flooring!(ya we all are multi-flawed!) He obviously isnt the right guy for you...there must be someone more compatible in life, who can work with you. Am not being patronising here; fair fucks to you for holding it together and I hope if you invest in someone again; it will be in someone who is worthy of that. <3
 
None existent.

I've only had sex with one girl, we lost our virginity's to each other. We had sex several times, but when we broke up she went on to make fun of me and say how bad I was in the sack due to my lack of experience. We never communicated, and she never told me what she liked so how I was going to learn anything? Ever since then I've been scared to get sexually close to another women. My last girlfriend broke up with me cause I was scared to have sex with her. I wouldn't even let her touch me sexually. Last time I had sex was over 6 years ago. My last girlfriend was 3 years ago. I feel very lonely, and like nobody is interested in me. Any girl I like or show interest in end up being Bisexual and 'not interested in men right now' or they just act flirty but never show any real interest in spending time with me. I've given up on trying to find love. I'm a loner, and don't see myself dating anybody anytime soon. I can barely talk to a girl without getting nervous and awkward. It really bothers me sometimes to think of how my friends look at me. I'm sure they see me as having 'no game' or any skills. I'm fairly certain I'm not going to find anybody anytime soon.
 
^ get out of your normal routine
do something to boost your self esteem
get it in your head that girls would be lucky to be with you
do not be afraid of rejection
most of all, stop thinking about old girlfriends

there are girls that would be interested in you if you were willing to put yourself out there
 
Care said:
^ get out of your normal routine
do something to boost your self esteem
get it in your head that girls would be lucky to be with you
do not be afraid of rejection
most of all, stop thinking about old girlfriends

there are girls that would be interested in you if you were willing to put yourself out there
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I really don't think about old girlfriends, it's just insecurities that they carved in to me that make it hard to get close to a new girl. I'm flirty, and I'd like to think I'm not too bad looking. I'm in decent shape, though I'm a little lanky I still have a fairly decent body, though not muscular or fat, I'm just average. I have a great personality I'm told. I'm loving, and caring and I like to show girls how to have a good time, and I always make sure they feel safe around me, but nobody seems to show interest. Girls that I find myself interested in, are usually a little younger, and while I flirt with them and get it out there that I like them, it never seems to get past that. I'm just not very good at talking to women I guess. I'm usually always thinking "Why would this person want to get close to me?" and that tends to mess up my flow. I like for the girl to make a move as well. I'll always make the first move, letting them know I like them but they never respond back. I guess I'm just bad at this sorta thing. Ha, as my friends would probably say, I guess I have no 'game' when it comes to women.
 
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