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Describe your love life:)
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Jblazingphoenix100
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Pretty sweet - I got sex on tap from 3 gals, and snuggle time from 2 of them too...which is always great. One of them doesn't kiss so I think I will only have sex with her when I'm really not getting anything else for a while (that's REALLY whorish not to kiss), but I got my eye on one target in particular, who is making me run some good game before she lets me into her world. Which I respect so much - I love her cheeky smile and her flashing eyes, as she tells me "all the best girls are harder to get", before asking my friend (after I'd left) what I was like etc... I'm so fucking in there if I play my cards right.
Mystril
Greenlighter
ahahaaa Gold from billyswifey! Best be getting billy's arse (or a toyboy of suitable persuasion) back in the saddle
I'm really not sure. I'm seeing this guy. Well, in other words, we hang out a couple of days a week, he stays over etc etc. It's been going on like this for 2 months now. He's the first guy I've been with since I had my heart broken about 8 months ago.
I still don't know how I feel about this guy. I'm quite aware of the fact that I keep him at a practical-non-committal distance away - I've even had the talk with him to say...Lets just keep this casual and easy...no heavy stuff. No labels. No expectations. Sometimes I do that because I've become a creature of habit; never fully committing to anyone - since a long term break-up 5 years ago - yet still managing to have long pseudo-relationships over the last few years under the same conditions.
I always thought I got into these weird <insert whatever non-relationship label here> because I was exhausted from said long term relationship and because with the last few guys (bar heartbreak guy) I never thought I would fall in love with them...they weren't where the road was supposed to end. Perhaps I'm subconciously keeping my options open...waiting for the proverbial right guy to manifest - as horrifically cliched that sounds.
I would like to be able to offer more of myself to the guy I'm seeing now...but I fear it will just end in a serious case resentment on my part. I think I've picked up some weird relationship behaviour from my collective dating history...I can't remember the last time I felt entirely happy and content with someone - that selfless love type of feeling...And after being so blatantly rejected by heartbreak guy, my confidence - although never high to begin with - has taken a further nose dive.
I still don't know how I feel about this guy. I'm quite aware of the fact that I keep him at a practical-non-committal distance away - I've even had the talk with him to say...Lets just keep this casual and easy...no heavy stuff. No labels. No expectations. Sometimes I do that because I've become a creature of habit; never fully committing to anyone - since a long term break-up 5 years ago - yet still managing to have long pseudo-relationships over the last few years under the same conditions.
I always thought I got into these weird <insert whatever non-relationship label here> because I was exhausted from said long term relationship and because with the last few guys (bar heartbreak guy) I never thought I would fall in love with them...they weren't where the road was supposed to end. Perhaps I'm subconciously keeping my options open...waiting for the proverbial right guy to manifest - as horrifically cliched that sounds.
I would like to be able to offer more of myself to the guy I'm seeing now...but I fear it will just end in a serious case resentment on my part. I think I've picked up some weird relationship behaviour from my collective dating history...I can't remember the last time I felt entirely happy and content with someone - that selfless love type of feeling...And after being so blatantly rejected by heartbreak guy, my confidence - although never high to begin with - has taken a further nose dive.
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Perpetual Indulgence
Bluelighter
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guarded
Perpetual Indulgence
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I am guarded optimist.
hyroller
Bluelighter
If I were hyroller's beau, I would never have to hand polish my own trailer hitch from time to time I'm sure.
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LOL. Well, it did take us 3 months to get to here! Seeing as he was practically a jesuit for the better part of 3 years, i.e. no women and minimal self-gratification (god only knows how he managed to suppress his testosterone for so long, despite being busy with work etc)... getting down to business (up until late) has been a mostly uphill battle! Oh and in addition to not having sex or seldom ever simulating it, his primary mode of transport was a pushbike!! which - as mami's thread a few months ago brought to light - is utterly DETRIMENTAL to penis blood flow
one failed attempt with viagra, a 4x10mg cialis prescription (not enough IMO
) and many frustrated encounters later, we are about 85% of the way there. but it's been a long, long road, rest assured. lol blue valentine
Bluelighter
Surprisingly optimistic...even though just the other day, my first foray into the world of dating after being widowed was destroyed when HIS WIFE (who I had NO idea about) called me and filled me in about their marriage and 3 small children...bounced back, though, and already had a new improved guy ask me out and he seems more my type, honest hopefully...not gonna give up yet...plus, I have a good fuck buddy so my physical needs are met, I just want to meet someone I have a connection with. So yeah...can't get me down yet 
double ewe
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going very well. we've been together over a year now, and i've never had a relationship that was still getting better at this point. feels like we've learned to harness our crazy for good, without letting it turn into conflict nearly as often.
hyroller
Bluelighter
Just wanted to share with the rest of Bluelight/SLR that I am now officially betrothed to be married to my life long love 
Mystril
Greenlighter
Well .. a lovelife can't get much better than that - 'gratz hyroller
Always nice to hear these stories - and especially for a fellow Aussie!
Always nice to hear these stories - and especially for a fellow Aussie!
Me and my fiancee (wooooo) couldn't be going better. We both function on very similair brain levels and have nearly identical interests in many aspects of life. When speaking about childhood she often mentions the exact same silly childish stuff that you think of when your young, exactly as i thought of it. We both smoke grass on a daily basis and both hate alcohol and stims while both loving psy and relaxing drugs. We like the same glitch hop / ambient music and its safe to say i have never connceted with anyone as much as with this girl. It is my first serious relationship due to most girls seeing me as some kind of loner junkie as I do not like popular music or want to go out clubbing or give 2 shits about facebook, meaning it is the first relationship that will actually go somewere. We are never apart (both unemployed haha) and spend every single day together and in the 5 6 months we have been going out there has not been one day were I haven't seen her. This girl is antastic and the sexiest piece of ass ever and has seriously changed my life in the most positive of ways. I no longer want to abuse every single drug and want to have more of a future, get my own place and get my life sorted. She also helped with my marijuana use and I no longer get as panicky if I cant get any green one evening. We have had some beatiful times with just me and her taking aMT and just talking for over 8 - 10 hours. I really have no idea why i wrote all this but seriously, i love this girl and knew from the first month that i wanted to be with her forever. Great sex as well ha
rangrz
Bluelighter
that sir, made me laugh so hard I think I broke a rib.
Since love life and sex life are not to me equal values, I will go with love.
Currently romantically (and sexually) involved with a a drop dead gorgeous, Cambridge educated physician. She makes me laugh and truly helps me remember to ask myself "why so serious?" I've not known her for super long, but we have an amazing bond and I look forward to each minute I spend with her. We never fight. Despite the fact we often talk on fairly intelligence and open for holy war type of subjects. Downside: She is a bit of hipster and has a Macbook. (That I stuck NetBSD onto one day much to her dismay :D )
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One of my long term friends, whom I love deeply and have known since I was teen. We are not sexually involved, but sex is not the be all end all of love. She offers to me someone who will always listen to me bitch and moan and about X, and cuddle me while I do so. Will cook me something nommy and make me eat it, even if its 0430 on a weekend day and I just barged in while on a tweak binge.
My on/off fling/kink play partner. Oh lawrdy...I dunno what to call what what we have...but love is part of it. I've known her also for years, and have bloody will been hunched behind a rock while timmy taliban took potshots at us with a PKM. We fight and bitch all the time, but we know we love each other and will be close to each other until one of us finally gets a little too close to a JDAM.
Then there is my bipolar, suicidal, batshit insane friend who loves me to death, and despite knowing she is not going to lead me anywhere good, I love her too.
Rangrz is loved, in his own, typically weird rangrzesque way.
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nAON
Bluelight Crew
something like this
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Vaya
Bluelight Crew
ashstorm
Bluelighter
New and exciting. Being in his arms is heaven.
The feelings are intense and exciting nothing feels un-natural or pressured..
His touch inflames me and I've never felt more complete in my life
The feelings are intense and exciting nothing feels un-natural or pressured..
His touch inflames me and I've never felt more complete in my life
Mariposa
Bluelight Crew
It's a clusterfuck.
I've stayed somewhat involved with my bipolar compulsive gambling pot addict ex. We've remained the best of friends. He has a lot on his plate right now. We both say we don't want a relationship, but the one we have is very important to both of us. We're also neighbors (sort of) so we see each other most days per week. I've stayed involved with his kids, who would like to know when I will be Daddy's girlfriend again. We only did the ex-sex thing once. It was blindingly hot.
And then there is Zoolander, my more-than-friend, less-than-relationship. I'm taking him to the airport today so he can go to Bumfuck, Idaho for Thanksgiving. I won't see him for 11 days... it's going to go by quickly, I know, but even aside from the romantic aspect of things, I'll miss his company. I will be there to pick him up when he returns.
Both of them make me laugh in different ways. They know about each other but I have instituted a "don't ask, don't tell" policy about my separate involvements. Oddly, neither has assumed anything. One older professional man, one younger tradesman (carpenter). I'm going to have to make up my mind about one, the other, neither, or both. I dunno what to do.
In the meantime, I have two hot, sweet very close friends who give me kisses and who each love me in their own respective ways. Obviously I am taking major precautions, physically and emotionally. I'll sort it all out when Zoolander and I get to know each other better and the ex is less manic. I'm certainly open to meeting new dudes in the meantime who have fewer problems than these two fools.
Being single doesn't suit me. It's one thing to have a warm body to snuggle (Zoolander is the clear winner there - the ex is not the touchy-feely type unless sex is involved) but it's another thing to have a boyfriend. With each, people assume we're a couple. I've been the one to tell folks we encounter socially, almost as a snap, that I'm not ex or Zoolander's girlfriend. Again, I should meet new dudes who aren't fools. I should also stop being one myself.
I need to make up my damned mind. Ex would be happy for me that I found a dude my own age who does not have kids/bankruptcy/bipolar. Zoolander would be happy that I reconciled with ex that isn't on felony probation (Zoolander is, which is why he is always broke) and we'd stay friends for sure.
And before anyone mentions threesomes, I'm not aroused by M/M/F threesomes and neither would they be. Both men are of the hetero type. I like seeing men kiss but not these two and not beyond that.
I suppose I am well and properly spoiled for choice.
I've stayed somewhat involved with my bipolar compulsive gambling pot addict ex. We've remained the best of friends. He has a lot on his plate right now. We both say we don't want a relationship, but the one we have is very important to both of us. We're also neighbors (sort of) so we see each other most days per week. I've stayed involved with his kids, who would like to know when I will be Daddy's girlfriend again. We only did the ex-sex thing once. It was blindingly hot.
And then there is Zoolander, my more-than-friend, less-than-relationship. I'm taking him to the airport today so he can go to Bumfuck, Idaho for Thanksgiving. I won't see him for 11 days... it's going to go by quickly, I know, but even aside from the romantic aspect of things, I'll miss his company. I will be there to pick him up when he returns.
Both of them make me laugh in different ways. They know about each other but I have instituted a "don't ask, don't tell" policy about my separate involvements. Oddly, neither has assumed anything. One older professional man, one younger tradesman (carpenter). I'm going to have to make up my mind about one, the other, neither, or both. I dunno what to do.
In the meantime, I have two hot, sweet very close friends who give me kisses and who each love me in their own respective ways. Obviously I am taking major precautions, physically and emotionally. I'll sort it all out when Zoolander and I get to know each other better and the ex is less manic. I'm certainly open to meeting new dudes in the meantime who have fewer problems than these two fools.
Being single doesn't suit me. It's one thing to have a warm body to snuggle (Zoolander is the clear winner there - the ex is not the touchy-feely type unless sex is involved) but it's another thing to have a boyfriend. With each, people assume we're a couple. I've been the one to tell folks we encounter socially, almost as a snap, that I'm not ex or Zoolander's girlfriend. Again, I should meet new dudes who aren't fools. I should also stop being one myself.
I need to make up my damned mind. Ex would be happy for me that I found a dude my own age who does not have kids/bankruptcy/bipolar. Zoolander would be happy that I reconciled with ex that isn't on felony probation (Zoolander is, which is why he is always broke) and we'd stay friends for sure.
And before anyone mentions threesomes, I'm not aroused by M/M/F threesomes and neither would they be. Both men are of the hetero type. I like seeing men kiss but not these two and not beyond that.
I suppose I am well and properly spoiled for choice.
Vaya
Bluelight Crew
Although I'm far and away from your colorful description, I quite enjoyed reading this. May we all find such thorough happiness in our lives
Congratulations, ashstorm
~ vaya