One Thousand Words
Bluelighter
Betas gotta bet
Have you ever wanted your Boyfriend, Fiance, Husband to be your protector, body guard, be over protective of you, worried about you, like if you got attacked by someone and your partner found out, wouldn't you want your partner to go after them and kick their ass for hurting you, but yet your partner refuses to do that, because it was your battle to be fought, not theirs to be fought? Wouldn't you want that type of guy that wants to protect you and be your body guard etc.
Like me, I like going to concerts, and I will go into the mosh pit, where people push you around and have fun. And I was thinking if I went to a concert and into the mosh pit, my Boyfriend has told me, he won't go into the mosh pit with me, nor will he be on the side lines watching over me, to make sure I am alright. He rather be in the back, and if I get hurt in the mosh pit, thats my own fault. He is not going to battle my fights and go and kick the guys ass for hurting me, etc. To me, hearing him say that hurts me. I thought any man would want to protect their women.
But what do you think?
Yeah it sounds like a dream-come-true thing to me as well. If your boyfriend wants to run around the playboy mansion in his underwear while girls chased him and wanted you to shove them out of the way for him that wouldn't be fun would it? Or maybe it will to you.it sounds more like you want to get hurt in the pit so that your guy defends you to fulfill some weird fantasy of yours
Well, theres a big unknown in this dilemma. Just how far away does he live from you? And just how far away does his friends live from him?
If you have a long distance relationship, and his friends are local, then this is understandable from his viewpoint. That's one of the many downsides of a long distance relationship and among the many reasons I don't think they work.
If however you are all relatively close. And you're just as close to him as they are. Then I agree. Relationships come before friends. Hr should make an effort to spend time with you even if it means sacrificing some time with his friends. Ideally if he can he should incorporate you in with his friends. But if that's not viable. Then I agree you should come first. That my belief on the matter. Love stands at a higher priority than friendship. Ideally you shouldn't have to sacrifice one for the other. But if it came down to it. Then that's when it's time to decide just how serious and how much you love your significant other.
How old are you? But if its a long distance relationship it may just be something you have to deal with because you may always feel this way without accessibility to her like they have. But if she cares, she should also prioritize you especially when it comes time to see eachother. I can tell you now you cant make someone care, so if shes being nonchalant or not showing she cares or generally not showing effort. Than you need to distance yourself because ur emotionally involved.
Whether u understand this response or not, its going to be one of the most helpful.
P.S. this knowledge is from experience lol...trying to save u the pain I once felt
Him and I are both 28 years old. I have dealt with, him and I last hung out last week on Monday, since then he's hung out with his friends a handful of times between now and our last hang out, and that hurts me that he can hang with his friends more than me. I don't like waiting, while he says he can go out and have fun and I am at home waiting.
What do you do if your boyfriend or girlfriend, rather hang out with their friends, more than hang out with you, and never make time for you? Like you live far apart, and you always hear that they are hanging with their friends, and then you have to wait to hang out with them, and that could take from a week to a month, but yet they tell you they hang with their friends every other day, if not every single day. How would you feel if your partner did this to you?
you are talking about your boyfriend here right?When they themselves admit that they will never change but they expect you to change?
you both sound pretty unreasonable to me. perhaps you would be better apart?My Boyfriend to me straight out he will never change, but I have to change.