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Deleting Me Off This and That
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Lysis
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Then you focus on something that interests you to take your mind off of it. As time passes, it will matter less. You'll find someone new and you'll wonder why you ever bothered with a guy who played games and didn't want to be with you in the first place.
Well him and I talked this morning, he did not deleted the photos of us, he put them on private because when I told him we were taking this break I told him to think about being single so he thought think of being single, so remove the photos so you don't have to think of her. I didn't want him to go that far. Just THINK in your mind and what it would be like to feel like being single again.
Our chat ended up being that both of us, felt happy, calmer, relaxed, when we weren't talking to each other, we felt more free. Both of us then realized that we aren't meant to be by the looks of it. But both of us love and care for each other a lot and we are going to keep talking and get this all sorted out once and for all.
soundsystem00
Bluelighter
move on. when a relationship turns into mind games ( going from personal experience only ) it never works in the end. the mind games work temporarily but always ends the same. if it has come to that, bail.
pofacedhoe
Bluelight Crew
this is very childish. he's not into you, if you fight every day dont you think thats time to move on?
i'd move on
i'd move on
Erikmen
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Precisely.
As I was reading the thread I felt like saying it's not healthy and even malicious when the relationship turns into games like that. Perhaps it's time for you to put an end on tiring situations where you feel bad about yourself afterwards.
Either that or you toughen up with him and honestly tell him how this can work.
I suggest you be honest but firm. This is making you suffer after all.
Jabberwocky
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Why are you so hung up on this guy? Did he take your virginity?
Is there a right way or a wrong way to break up?
We have all experience a break up, but is there a right way to do it and then the wrong way to do it? Which way is the best way?
I know I have had break ups happen over text, email, online messengers, social media messages and over the phone. Never have experienced it in person.
I think breaking up in person is the best option, but then again you don't know what that person may do or how they will react, they could go crazy and bring out a knife or gun or casually walk away, get in the car and run you down, or things could be easy and you just part ways nothing bad happening at all.
What about you guys, what experiences have you had? Which way do you think is the best way?
We have all experience a break up, but is there a right way to do it and then the wrong way to do it? Which way is the best way?
I know I have had break ups happen over text, email, online messengers, social media messages and over the phone. Never have experienced it in person.
I think breaking up in person is the best option, but then again you don't know what that person may do or how they will react, they could go crazy and bring out a knife or gun or casually walk away, get in the car and run you down, or things could be easy and you just part ways nothing bad happening at all.
What about you guys, what experiences have you had? Which way do you think is the best way?
the subject of breaking up has been covered extensively in slr. but a lot of good threads have been purged. here is one: How to end a long relationship?
consensus seems to be that you need to be sure of your course of action (i.e. if you plan to break up, you need to be sure that's what you want). once you've decided that you want to break up:
- do it soon
- keep it brief
- make it clear
- don't try to sugar-coat it
generally speaking, there's no way to break up with somebody and not hurt them and you need to understand that going into it. good luck.
speaking more personally, breaking up with somebody by phone or text is just weaksauce. do it in person.
alasdair
consensus seems to be that you need to be sure of your course of action (i.e. if you plan to break up, you need to be sure that's what you want). once you've decided that you want to break up:
- do it soon
- keep it brief
- make it clear
- don't try to sugar-coat it
generally speaking, there's no way to break up with somebody and not hurt them and you need to understand that going into it. good luck.
speaking more personally, breaking up with somebody by phone or text is just weaksauce. do it in person.
alasdair
Pretty_Diamonds
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Um, wtf..?? Lol. Okay, I don't think those would ever happen....
I've broken up with guys in person. Usually, it's not out of nowhere, you know, I'd slowly let them know over time that I'm not happy with the relationship. Then, I'll ask to take a break, some time apart to gather my thoughts. Then, I'll ask to meet them, somewhere we can talk for a bit, like a couple hours. Ill sit down with them and talk about our relationship, just a summary of everything we've been through. The good, and the bad. When I get to the bad, I'll just let them know x,y,z happened and I think or feel etc about it... making it hard to move forward in the relationship. & I'll thank them and tell them how much I still care and love them as a person and that I've enjoyed ALL of our time together and I'm a better person because of it. I also will let them know that if they ever need anything, to just let me know, I will try hard to be there for them because I do care about them.
This has always worked well. We left on great terms, didn't really keep in contact, but still, no hard feelings.
No he did not. I am not doing that until marriage. He treats me well we just have our disagreements like any other couple. He fits the type of guy I am looking for fitting what I want in a guy and being single and trying to find a new guy will be difficult meeting what I am looking for.
Sorry but this guy is done with you.
Your crying and begging was the worst thing you could have done.
If you both however decide to continue this relationship after Friday, I can guarantee it won't last long.
Do yourself a favour - forget him and move on before he hurts you more than he already has.
Good Luck.
Your crying and begging was the worst thing you could have done.
If you both however decide to continue this relationship after Friday, I can guarantee it won't last long.
Do yourself a favour - forget him and move on before he hurts you more than he already has.
Good Luck.
Mysterie
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i think theres heaps of people out there that we can connect with on a deep level, there isn't any one person that can fit with us where we both learn and grow through eachother.
its easy to get caught up the idea that someone is special and the only person you want to be with, but things disappear all the time, whats left but ourselves to make us happy?
be well.
its easy to get caught up the idea that someone is special and the only person you want to be with, but things disappear all the time, whats left but ourselves to make us happy?
be well.
Yeah, i agree.
And it is often impossible to get a good perspective on how unhappy someone is making you while you are still in a relationship with them.
This kind of thing can be a (very unpleasant) learning experience. One day you will probably look back on this and wonder what made this guy (and your relationship with him) seem so special.
But in the meantime, please look after yourself.
Look after your heart, and try not to give your love to people who don't deserve it
And it is often impossible to get a good perspective on how unhappy someone is making you while you are still in a relationship with them.
This kind of thing can be a (very unpleasant) learning experience. One day you will probably look back on this and wonder what made this guy (and your relationship with him) seem so special.
But in the meantime, please look after yourself.
Look after your heart, and try not to give your love to people who don't deserve it
jammin83
Bluelighter
Sounds like a slow death to me.
willy33
Bluelighter
Make it decisive. I mean, if you are serious, break up and that's that. Preferably no interaction after that. I had a girl "break up" with me once but we were still seeing each other every now and again for about 6 months. It didn't help. Made me confused and, in the end, resentful.