So, I have had this much younger housemate for over a year (she is only 20), let's call her M, and while things have generally have been pretty good, with her keeping to herself and generally paying her portion of bills on time, the last few months have turned into a downward slide. For one thing, she moved a friend of hers into her room, without informing anyone else in the house that this girl was going to be living here. I had let the bills slide a couple months and finally added them up two months ago with each person's portion clearly written out, and M wrote a nasty "WTF" and other assorted negativities on it. She then only gave me about $35 of the $140 that the bill total was.
Since I didn't want the bills to slide anymore I compiled the bills again for this month, and split it 6 ways, every bill clearly noted, and put a deadline on it for two weeks from when I had written it. I saw M look at this with no remark. Her friend paid for her own portion of the bills before the due date, as well as the other housemates. A week past the due date I found out from her friend that M had thought her friend had paid for both of their portions so I sent a text about hoping there wasn't a misunderstanding and informed her what her new bill total was.
This ensued a complete shitstorm of literally 50 deranged texts from M in an hour's period all proclaiming what a surprise it was, who the fuck am I to tell her this, that she should move because its so expensive to live here (its not), she's hardly ever here, so on and so forth. Her mom sent me a check so bills are fine now, but she told me that night that if I didn't "want to get hurt" I am not to talk to her about bills before noon. It is nearly laughable that she actually threatened me considering she weighs about 40 pounds less than me, and is half a foot shorter, so I have little fear from her. She's just a huge shit talker.
The other housemates want me to kick her out, but I would like to have a sit-down to tell how unacceptable it was for her to throw a tantrum over something that is a fact of being a grownup and living away from mommy and daddy and most especially for threatening me with violence. They would be present for this conversation. Unfortunately I don't know how to go about it without her screaming over everybody (her method of being dominant over others). I just want to have a rational discussion.
Oh, BTW, it sounds like an abusive relationship between M and her friend. M will send multiple texts asking her what she is doing if she comes up to chat for more than five minutes. M tells this friend that M is the only one who cares about her. I think M actually expects her friend to pay for everything! And there was a the ten hour shower that occurred a couple weeks ago when M gave herself alcohol poisoning and was vomiting all night, and her way of covering it up was to leave the shower running the entire time. That water bill is going to be outrageous~!
Anyhow...any tips on dealing with crazy angry people?
Since I didn't want the bills to slide anymore I compiled the bills again for this month, and split it 6 ways, every bill clearly noted, and put a deadline on it for two weeks from when I had written it. I saw M look at this with no remark. Her friend paid for her own portion of the bills before the due date, as well as the other housemates. A week past the due date I found out from her friend that M had thought her friend had paid for both of their portions so I sent a text about hoping there wasn't a misunderstanding and informed her what her new bill total was.
This ensued a complete shitstorm of literally 50 deranged texts from M in an hour's period all proclaiming what a surprise it was, who the fuck am I to tell her this, that she should move because its so expensive to live here (its not), she's hardly ever here, so on and so forth. Her mom sent me a check so bills are fine now, but she told me that night that if I didn't "want to get hurt" I am not to talk to her about bills before noon. It is nearly laughable that she actually threatened me considering she weighs about 40 pounds less than me, and is half a foot shorter, so I have little fear from her. She's just a huge shit talker.
The other housemates want me to kick her out, but I would like to have a sit-down to tell how unacceptable it was for her to throw a tantrum over something that is a fact of being a grownup and living away from mommy and daddy and most especially for threatening me with violence. They would be present for this conversation. Unfortunately I don't know how to go about it without her screaming over everybody (her method of being dominant over others). I just want to have a rational discussion.
Oh, BTW, it sounds like an abusive relationship between M and her friend. M will send multiple texts asking her what she is doing if she comes up to chat for more than five minutes. M tells this friend that M is the only one who cares about her. I think M actually expects her friend to pay for everything! And there was a the ten hour shower that occurred a couple weeks ago when M gave herself alcohol poisoning and was vomiting all night, and her way of covering it up was to leave the shower running the entire time. That water bill is going to be outrageous~!
Anyhow...any tips on dealing with crazy angry people?