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C18H13ClFN3

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I’ve been seeing someone who was a heavy drug user ( clean … mostly for several years, but he does use some benzoes ) but I have an interesting problem
He is pretty upset with any medications I take … to a point of making me feel bad for taking them . For instance . I suffer from migraines . When we first started dating , I was only on acute med for pain , but since have been prescribed topomax for prevention . Very low dose . He is adamant on how this will harm me long term and that I am better off doing just about anything else but this … back it up with research . I can tell he cares , but truth is I suffered for years and don’t enjoy being in pain . I totally agree! Topimax is harmful . But migraines are bloody painful .
Is this typical for recovering addicts ??
 
Oh heck yeah. There's always these people who ran into trouble, got out of it, 'saw the light' and are now convinced anything and everything is basically the devil's pick 'n mix that will destroy your health / get you addicted etc. They're a pain in the butt. But if you are concerned about your current medication' s side effects, maybe consult with your doctor about switching to something else.
 
Just and update… we are (were..??) planning to move in together in a month , but seriously , as idiotic as it seems , this issue might be the reason I end up walking away .
I know … it’s lame , but I seem unable to talk through it . 😰
 
C18H13ClFN3 said:
Just and update… we are (were..??) planning to move in together in a month , but seriously , as idiotic as it seems , this issue might be the reason I end up walking away .
I know … it’s lame , but I seem unable to talk through it . 😰
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How are you doing? People with that ‘all drugs are bad’ attitude aren’t likely to change & it’s really insufferable. What if you ever want kids and he won’t let you treat the kids because ‘all drugs are bad’? Think through all of the possible consequences that can come from his attitude.
 
C18H13ClFN3 said:
Just and update… we are (were..??) planning to move in together in a month , but seriously , as idiotic as it seems , this issue might be the reason I end up walking away .
I know … it’s lame , but I seem unable to talk through it . 😰
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Maybe you can talk it out? What exactly is his case anyway? To rescue you from addiction? Topamax has no addiction potential. Simple as that. Also you could make it clear that while his accomplishments are respectable, he is not a doctor and he is interfering with your patient doctor relationship which is none of his business. I mean, especially in the US, I can kinda understand skepticism regarding overprescription of meds but we aren't talking about a pill mill prescribing you oxycontin.

Oh and btw, he is denying you your migraine prevention while he himself is messing around with quite addictive substances if he uses benzos. I would def bring that up next time he makes demands about your medication. Benzo abuse can lead to horrible, long lasting withdrawals and are notoriously hard to kick.
 
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sHR00m said:
Maybe you can talk it out? What exactly is his case anyway? To rescue you from addiction? Topamax has no addiction potential. Simple as that. Also you could make it clear that while his accomplishments are respectable, he is not a doctor and he is interfering with your patient doctor relationship which is none of his business. I mean, especially in the US, I can kinda understand skepticism regarding overprescription of meds but we aren't talking about a pill mill prescribing you oxycontin.

Oh and btw, he is denying you your migraine prevention while he himself is messing around with quite addictive substances if he uses benzos. I would def bring that up next time he makes demands about your medication. Benzo abuse can lead to horrible, long lasting withdrawals and are notoriously hard to kick.
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talking with people like that is usually like pidgeons playing chess...
 
Gosh this is probably how my kids feel about me. I need to consider this. But addiction runs in our family and all three of my children struggle with self control when it comes to something they want or that provides instant stimulation. I’m sure he just cares and he is scared cause he doesn’t want the same thing to happen to you. But tell him he’s underestimating you by assuming you’ll make the same mistakes that he did and that he’s undermining your pain. Bless your heart! I hope yall can come to better terms about this in a way that gives yall peace❤️
 
fairnymph said:
How are you doing? People with that ‘all drugs are bad’ attitude aren’t likely to change & it’s really insufferable. What if you ever want kids and he won’t let you treat the kids because ‘all drugs are bad’? Think through all of the possible consequences that can come from his attitude.
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Yeah very hard to change a square that you are dating/in love with. BUT there is success, I was able to introduce weed as a normal everyday thing(she understands now and partakes) then we dived into the world of psychedelics.
 
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