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DATING a WOMAN who was a MAN

I'd be pissed that they weren't up-front with me. That's just not cool.

That said, a violent act is completely uncalled for. It speaks volumes about your *own* insecurities that you should feel the need to take vicious revenge.
 
Yuck. No thanks. I'd like to think I could get over it, but I really doubt that I ever could.
 
The Monkey Mantra said:
That said, a violent act is completely uncalled for. It speaks volumes about your *own* insecurities that you should feel the need to take vicious revenge.
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Sadly, in Asia (where many losers go to have easy sex - no offense to the non-losers who travelled there!), at least in Japan and through stories told to me by travellers in Thailand, "lady-boys" are very common, and so is violence against them.

The problem is that the violence occurs after the lady-boy is discovered to be such, usually by their own admission (after the act). Had it not been discovered, the loser would have thought he just scored a night with yet another "asian slut" (or whatever title they use for the women they sleep with) or two. Some Asian men are so femme that you can easily mistake them for slightly masculine women (who are still nontheless more feminine than western women!).

That being said, it pays to be honest (on both sides, I guess).

So the question to you is, what if you had never found out?

And for those who think it makes you gay: I am gay and I don't find any vaginas (or boobs) sexually arousing, be the real or synthetic. So trannies actually don't attract me.
 
Whatever. I'd be upset that they weren't honest and upfront with me in the first place, and that's what would bother me most.
 
OK this thread can live, but I don't want to see anymore garbage about acting out violently here. It's not big and it's not clever. In SLR, we're a bit above all that.
 
My last girlfriend was intersex and when i met her i didnt know. She was pre-op and during the relationship was getting the money together. I didnt mind that she was intersex or the fact that she was embarrassed. The reason why we didnt end up working was because we werent compatible as people. I think its pretty much impossible to say 'you wouldnt date a pre/post op trans' because i never thought that i would date someone who was intersex. It just happens.

On a side note, it makes me sick how people discriminate against transg. A few years ago i was walking to the train station and four youths grabbed a shopping trolley and pushed it into a trans man and started yelling 'freak!'. Seriously, whats the deal with that. Not impressed.
 
The problem is that the violence occurs after the lady-boy is discovered to be such, usually by their own admission (after the act). Had it not been discovered, the loser would have thought he just scored a night with yet another "asian slut" (or whatever title they use for the women they sleep with) or two. Some Asian men are so femme that you can easily mistake them for slightly masculine women (who are still nontheless more feminine than western women!).
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I thought ladyboys were the ones who still had their dicks attached? Or are you talking about tourists getting blowjobs and then after their done...

"Hey, take a look at this!" =D

To answer the question, naw I couldn't date a girl who used to be a man. Whoever said they are still a man was right; they just got fake bits attached which doesn't really do it for me.
 
psychetool said:
Yuck. No thanks. I'd like to think I could get over it, but I really doubt that I ever could.
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Same here. As much as I think of myself as a good person....I find this completely undoable.
 
so what about some ladies opinions here
howd u react to ur partner if he use to be a woman?

wait..is it possible for a woman to have a sex change and have a working penis?
 
I'd be fine with it.

I would be a bit peeved if we were in a LTR and she told me years later when I'd already known all along, or suspected/figured it out early on in the relationship and asked her about it and she lied, and then said "Well I'm not sure if I could trust you. So that's why I didn't tell the truth."
 
I'm not trying to be clever or big, but violence wouldn't be off the table if I found out. Not telling someone you used to be the other sex is the ultimate betrayal.
 
Chaos23 said:
I wouldn't be able to be with them. Just because you have a surgery doesn't make you a woman. You are a man with a fake vagina and implants.

Just my opinion, but whatever floats your boat...
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ya, i would be scarred for life if I found out i fucked a man with fake junk. i'm pretty sure i would be able to tell.....maybe? dunno what fake vagina looks like.
 
As far as a relationship is concerned. It's even worse than cheating. I don't care how many operations someone has had, if they were born a dude, they will always be a dude. It's just too traumatic to put someone else through the confusion and pain of that trickery.

Like jam uh weezy said, he would be "scarred for life".
 
Mariposa said:
Wow, Methacontin, to be devil's advocate here: you'd sleep with a prostitute before you'd sleep with a transgendered person?

Judgmental much? :) I seem to recall you're from Ft. Lauderdale... there's this really great place off Federal that's called "The Copa". You should try it out... the drinks are strong :)
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LOL I would MUCH rather sleep with a prostitute than a transgendered person, Iam 100% straight and like only women sexually. The idea of being with a person of the same sex just turn me off. Although Seeing 2 beautiful women together is a wonderful site, It's just not MY thing to ever be with a dude. :)
 
I am not saying it's right, but violence is actually a pretty common reaction to something like this. It's not trying to be big, or manly - it's actually common for straight males to get aggressive when they get mislead into a situation like this. In their eyes, it may mean they are not as much of a man. And they will then have this dark secret of the fact they fucked another bloke who pretended to be a woman.

Something like this could really fuck with a guys head.
 
drugfukkdrockstar said:
I am not saying it's right, but violence is actually a pretty common reaction to something like this. It's not trying to be big, or manly - it's actually common for straight males to get aggressive when they get mislead into a situation like this. In their eyes, it may mean they are not as much of a man. And they will then have this dark secret of the fact they fucked another bloke who pretended to be a woman.

Something like this could really fuck with a guys head.
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I agree, but I also disagree. Post-op does not make a transgendered person their past sex, except genetically.
 
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