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dating a murder suspect.

Lysis: Tell me again how someone acquitted, on the grounds of physical evidence, of murder is any more likely to kill you in an argument than an arbitrary random person? Perhaps some stats to show your arguments soundness would be cool.
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Stats have nothing to do with my attitude towards self-preservation. I don't care about stats. You'll never find me settling for political correctness when it's my person in danger. Too many fish in the see to get involved with someone who admitted to killing his sister on FB.

You either did it and I don't want anything to do with a killer or you're an heartless idiot for "joking" about it on your FB..someone I also want nothing to do with.
 
pofacedhoe said:
either way self preservation says steer clear and i am
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Yes, that's the other thing. Your gut is telling you to stay away, so to me, there is something there that's giving you a red flag. The whole dating game is never black and white, and maybe he is innocent, but you might be on to something when you say he reminds you of a sociopath. It just seems weird to me that someone would "joke" or whatever it was about killing his sister when A) he's a suspect and B) it was his SISTER who got violently killed.

So, between him being a suspect and your part about your gut says something is wrong, I think you made the right decision.
 
@Lysis: Unlike the other poster I made a ref to, I actually like you and respect you, so pls don't take my comment there as an attempt at being a troll towards you.... Fair enough on your viewpoint, I was only trying to point out that with so little solid fact about this situation, it is hard to determine exactly what, if any, threat this fellow may pose.
 
Lysis said:
Yes, that's the other thing. Your gut is telling you to stay away, so to me, there is something there that's giving you a red flag. The whole dating game is never black and white, and maybe he is innocent, but you might be on to something when you say he reminds you of a sociopath. It just seems weird to me that someone would "joke" or whatever it was about killing his sister when A) he's a suspect and B) it was his SISTER who got violently killed.

So, between him being a suspect and your part about your gut says something is wrong, I think you made the right decision.
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he didn't joke about it to me, there was just an newspaper report online about a year ago which claimed he had confessed on facebook. i dont know the details of what happened or how true any part of it is. what really put me off was the talk of marriage and shit on a first date. even in jest. in retrospection, not a wise move for him
 
this is too fucking surreal. i need to be a lot higher to formulate anything regarding this
 
its everyday standard. dont pretend like these things slip by you as you can find a thread but just dont pull it...
 
nah- i just let it fizzle away and since then have met someone younger/more attractive/not dodgy/ that i like and am seeing how that plays out.
 
I think my man rangrz has been holding it down all on his own, but again, I'd just like to reiterate that there have been countless examples of innocent people "confessing," sometimes quite convincingly and in great detail, to crimes that they did not commit; the individuals most susceptible to this sort of thing are, well, those eager to please authority figures -- cops, detectives and the like.

In other words, when a cop goes in to interrogate a man and he's already convinced that this is the guy, as is often the case, well, after eight hours of "you did it! you did it! you did it!" ... you might be surprised to find that the suspect, under great stress and despite his being innocent, is now confessing to the crime.

It's sick, and it's for this reason (amongst others) that I'm against the death penalty. But I suppose that's a discussion for another thread..
 
Eyes On the Roll said:
I know for a fact this guy has sociopathic traits.
For the info you've given me, I can assess that he did kill his sister.
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This standard of reasoning is what saw an innocent Lindy Chamberland in jail for several years when a dingo took her baby. People just KNEW.

Sorry but you KNOW nothing. There was never enough information given here to support any opinion but not guilty as the OP hasnt given any details of evidence worth anything EXCEPT the evidence that he was acquitted in a court of law.

The 'confession' on Facebook was from his hacked account by the way, his dad did it. Quite often in these cases, and there was on recently here, a family member will form a view of the accused to be guilty and will make the utmost effort to get them convicted.

As for not dating anyone with baggage, "let those without sin cast the first stone." The fact that you've associated dated a potential murderer makes either your judgement suspect or that you're lying for attention and sympathy or you're actually a murderer and we should be wary of dating you because of guilt by association or guilt by implication or guilt by baggage or association with baggage.

See how stupid that is?

What if his sister died of cancer? He'd still have baggage. Would you refuse to date anyone who has suffered loss? Lysis BF died that sounds like it gives her baggage therefore we should all ostracize her?

So if you'd date someone whose sister died of cancer which causes of death are unacceptable/acceptable to you? Obviously anyone whose known anyone whose been murdered ever.
 
Welcome to the club. While not dating a murder suspect, my taste in men seem to be getting worse and worse with time. They always seem to get arrested for things like assault/drugs, etc. I guess because I have fallen for so many guys like that now I associate those feelings with them. But somehow you have to draw the limit.
 
Ninae said:
Welcome to the club. While not dating a murder suspect, my taste in men seem to be getting worse and worse with time. They always seem to get arrested for things like assault/drugs, etc. I guess because I have fallen for so many guys like that now I associate those feelings with them. But somehow you have to draw the limit.
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Welcome to why I thought I could mod this forum. LOL I've made so many dumb mistakes. Don't hate on yourself. You're not alone. LOL I hope some of my really stupid, asinine mistakes can help some other people. At least some good could come of my idiotic man mistakes. :)
 
dating people with baggage is fine, but in this instance it was impossible to veryify the facts and at the early stage of a first date wasn't worth all the possible hassle.

anyway i'm seeing someone younger, better looking with a personality that i find much more interesting and funny
 
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