Couples that drink together, stay together

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I guess if you're both blacked out you can't remember abusing each other. =D

Couples that drink together, stay together

James Vincent Thursday 28 November 2013


Couples where only one member drank heavily had a 50 per cent divorce rate; for couples where both drank heavily or neither did this rate fell to 30 per cent

Researchers from the University of Buffalo have studied 634 couples through their first nine years of marriage, finding that the divorce rate was significantly higher when only one person in each couple was a heavy drinker.

Surprisingly, if both partners drank equally heavy than their chances of splitting up were no higher than couples that didn’t drink at all.

“Our results indicate that it is the difference between the couple’s drinking habits, rather than the drinking itself, that leads to marital dissatisfaction, separation and divorce,” said Kenneth Leonard, PhD, RIA director and lead author of the study.

The researchers found that during the nine year study, couples where only one member drank heavily got divorced 50 per cent of the time. By comparison, the rate of separation for all other couples (when both partners drank, or did not drink, equal amounts) was 30 per cent.

“Heavy drinking spouses may be more tolerant of negative experiences related to alcohol due to their own drinking habits,” said Leonard.

Or not even remember. =D

Although he also noted that whilst heavy drinkers stayed together, their drinking would certainly affect other aspects of family life: “While two heavy drinkers may not divorce, they may create a particularly bad climate for their children.”

For the purpose of the study “heavy drinking” was defined as drinking more than six drinks in a night or drinking until intoxicated. The study, which was co-authored by Gregory Homish and Philip Smith, two PhD students from the university, also took into account other factors that could have affected the marriages, including substance abuse and depression.

The researchers also found that divorce rates were slightly higher when the sole heavy drinker was a woman, but that there was not enough evidence to constitute a significant finding. Leonard suggested that this might be because heavy drinking by women goes against perceived gender roles, and therefore might lead to more conflict.

The findings will appear in the December issue of the Pscyhology journal and was supported by the US’s National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism.

Leonard hopes that the study will “be helpful to marriage therapists and mental health practitioners, who can explore whether a difference in drinking habits is causing conflicts between couples seeking help.”

“This research provides solid evidence to bolster the commonplace notion that heavy drinking by one partner can lead to divorce,” he said. “Although some people might think that’s a likely outcome, there was surprisingly little data to back up that claim until now.”

http://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/couples-that-drink-together-stay-together-8970424.html
 
I wonder if this applies to couples that share poly substances or share d.o.c.s

“Heavy drinking spouses may be more tolerant of negative experiences related to alcohol due to their own drinking habits,” said Leonard.

Not so sure on this one. I've been shitty but its never cool when my chick acts up. Or vice versa
 
Perhaps it's attributable to the fact that drunk people like to fuck, like a LOT. Always has been so, in my relationships. haha.
 
i seriously consider the fact that i hardly ever drank together with my last girlfriend a reason for the relationship not going that well. but only due to the fact that i have trouble being honest, and sharing thoughts and desires and such, when sober. but since i'm probably not the only person who has trouble sharing his emotions and what not, i guess this could be a reason for the outcome of the study.
 
Well it kind of makes sense, using a substance together can be a bonding experience and more bonding means a more solid relationship. But then again anything can be a bonding experience, they may as well have done a study on the divorce rates of couples who play checkers regularly.
 
I think any truth from that article basically comes down to if you're both drunk you're both probably going to be loud and annoying and not really notice. If only person is the drunk it's not necessarily that fun for the sober person. I've seen this first hand in bars. Like OMG these people are annoying. But once I start drinking I'm probably just as bad lol. Kind of embarrassing if you think about it.
 
How about this for a plausible explanation: Staying together causes people to drink heavily. When you're drinking heavily, who wants to bother with a divorce?
 
Well that sheds light on the secret to my parents still being together. I think its the frequent drunk fights they get into that allow them to vent once in a while and not build up the aggression to some overly dramatic ending.

I will say this, if a girl don't drink or get fucked up on something then a relationship with me is most likely doomed. I cannot relate to someone who isn't at least somewhere near as messed up as myself.
 
haha ^^ sadly this is probably true for me in some way too.

but in fairness if someone is a heavy drinker and you arent and you dont divorce them you are probably a bit fucked up. I mean really, who in their right mind would stay married to some drunken asshole for 10 years?
 
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