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Michael_25

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I'm 225 lbs @ 6'2". I have a 38" waistline. Can you girls tell whether they can see my small gut when I'm wearing a loose-fitting polo shirt? Also, I have a minor case of man boobs. Would both these things steer you clear of a guy with such stats?
 
Women like men of all shapes, colors and sizes. If you are serious about your weight loss and keep it up, your confidence and happiness will atract a woman before your body will.
 
^ Exactly. Self esteem is a positive view of yourself and it should be considered ideal in your mind. and in conjunction with your thoughts it will change your behaviors, feelings and actions.


 
I've noticed in my trek through life that most females aren't as concerned about physical appearance as us men are when we check women out so I wouldn't be overly concerned about a little baby gut or some minute baby boobs.
Your making the effort to try to improve yourself and that's really all u can do. Good luck and god bless bro!
 
NO! If you want to attract a basic bitch who is shallow and is only concerned about appearances, then you might want to do something about it.

I am 29, been called beautiful all my life. I weigh 125. I am attracted to human beings based on who they are not on how they look.

My BF weighs 200, is the hairest dude ever (except for on top of his head!) and when I look at him, I only see who he is on the inside. So cheezy, but one hundred percent true.
 
If you dont want a girl with a belly and large buttocks, you should lose weight. Thin girls are out of your league. The big exception is having a lot of money and being willing to spend on her.
 
flannery oh said:
NO! If you want to attract a basic bitch who is shallow and is only concerned about appearances, then you might want to do something about it.

I am 29, been called beautiful all my life. I weigh 125. I am attracted to human beings based on who they are not on how they look.

My BF weighs 200, is the hairest dude ever (except for on top of his head!) and when I look at him, I only see who he is on the inside. So cheezy, but one hundred percent true.
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So any woman who is attracted to men who are healthy and in good shape is a "basic bitch?" And OP shoud only lose the weight if he wants to attract a shallow partner?

Lol. How ridiculous.

I'm sure that your overweight, hairy and balding boyfriend is a great guy...but he's not everyone's cup of tea. I'm sorry to burst your bubble, but you're no better than anyone else just because you happen to have a conventionally unattractive partner who doesn't take care of himself.
 
Sorry bro I'm not a woman, but I will say this from dealing with my weight from the opposite side of the spectrum, I was always very skinny and underweight, it crippled me, i spent years working out and none of it made a difference to how I felt regardless of my appearance. I'm still on the light side, although in good shape and pretty strong but I'm still not happy with how I look, the thing is I realised this was a reflection of how I felt generally about my life, and I was projecting it onto how I thought I was being perceived by others.

Sorry if this was no help or even annoying, just though I'd give some food for thought.
 
Michael_25 said:
I'm 225 lbs @ 6'2". I have a 38" waistline. Can you girls tell whether they can see my small gut when I'm wearing a loose-fitting polo shirt? Also, I have a minor case of man boobs. Would both these things steer you clear of a guy with such stats?
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I think the most important thing is confidence... But in general, if you want to avoid drawing attention to your man boobs, try a baseballl tee instead of a polo. The v-neck in a polo draws the eyes towards your... um... cleavage. Choose a baseball tee with a darker color over your torso and lighter color to draw eyes towards your shoulders. I have found, that the more beautiful a man is on the inside, the more I can overlook something silly like man boobs. It's just lipstick.
 
It's always good to be healthy. I wouldn't want to be with someone super unhealthy because it could lead to complications in the future and I would NEVER want my partner dealing with that. So keep working out and being fit but don't make it an obsession.

My first boyfriend had a gut. I didn't care. He was a great guy. Really nice, personable, outgoing, confident, interesting, etc. My partner now is super skinny but that isn't something that matters to me either. That is NOT the reason we broke up; there were trust issues, etc. My first boyfriend was honestly a really great guy and I'm sure the woman he ends up with will be awesome as well. This is just saying that it isn't the biggest deal if you have some extra weight. I never even thought of it as a bad thing. It was just part of who he was.

There are SOME people who place a lot of importance on looks. Shallow type people. You can't avoid them. You may get insults from them. Brush them off. There are so many amazing, interesting, unique people out there who will not judge you for just being you!
 
I dunno dude, it seems like you're screwed to be honest...

sorry, but not many women would be interested in a guy who looks like that, in my experience...

perhaps work on your personality, and present that to future probable lovers as your redeeming quality?
 
I'd give it a shot if he was a sweetheart and a gentleman (I'm taken tho) it is very hard to find good, loyal peoppe these days. If you have amazing inner qualities, wife material will see that and understand you can get healthy together. A few lbs is nothing. She can cook for u and make u healthy again! Go start talking to women. Be assertive and practice. What women DONT like is a lack of confidence. The ugliest guy can have the prettiest girl only because he knew he could get her and TRIED! :)
 
16 stone and 6 foot 2 = depending on your muscles you could be hunky or a flabby skinny dude

hard to tell. go to the gym anyway and get fit
 
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