Clubbing Alone???

[college_dropout]

Is it the done thing?

Do you ever go out or have you ever gone out clubbing on your lonesome??? And I'm not really directing this to all the travellers where you're forced to go out and mix with people. This is more for those who make the conscious choice to go out to new places by themselves to meet new people. When I was at college there was an America guy from LA who was an absolute socialite. Rich as shit and always going out to random places by himself just to meet new people. He loved it and said you can have the best nights of your life with complete strangers.

Just curious to find out what are people's thoughts. I've been to a rave before on my own which was fantastic because at a rave you can just walk around and chat to strangers for hours. I love it

 

[androoo]

Is it the done thing?

Do you ever go out or have you ever gone out clubbing on your lonesome??? And I'm not really directing this to all the travellers where you're forced to go out and mix with people. This is more for those who make the conscious choice to go out to new places by themselves to meet new people. When I was at college there was an America guy from LA who was an absolute socialite. Rich as shit and always going out to random places by himself just to meet new people. He loved it and said you can have the best nights of your life with complete strangers.

Just curious to find out what are people's thoughts. I've been to a rave before on my own which was fantastic because at a rave you can just walk around and chat to strangers for hours. I love it

I first started going to raves by myself.. it always ended with me meeting loads of new people, so the next few raves after that meant that i was never alone
it depends what sort of a person you are i suppose, i always went out with the intention of talking complete shite to people and having a laugh.
there must be some people who go out who just want to spend the night dancing by themselves and not waffling crap to people

 

[xcidium]

I went clubbing a fair bit by my lonesome when I first came to Perth. I had shitloads of fun. The only thing that got annoying was the fact that whenever you were chatting with someone, you'd be yelling in each others ear because the music was too god-damn loud.


Fun Memories
- Chatting to a random and being offered lines of Coke
- Having said line of coke and then making out with his (girl) friend for the rest of the night.
- Being abducted by a group of randoms and going to the Casino. Pretty funny when you've only just met the people.

Weird Memories
- Finding myself in a club that I didn't recognize. I still to this day don't know where I was, how I got there, or how to get back there.
- Having a cop lecture and question me for 15mins accusing me of selling drugs in the parking lot of a club. I wasn't even at the club, or the carpark. I think he just noticed that I was munted and by myself so thought he could wig me out.


It's fun, but it does get old quick.


oh and

Is it the done thing?

Who cares?

 

[Nicstar]

I sometimes go out alone to go and dance all night, purely because nobody else is up for it, and I get bored with sitting around pubs all the time, sitting there drinking and having the same conversations every night.

Its better if its really busy, cos then you can wander around, talk to people here there and everywhere. Its also better if everyone else there is a bit on the trashy side of things, cos they are more likely to be a bit more receptive to the loneseome stranger.

However its also harder to do this being female. You get hit on by a lot of guys, real sleazy types thinking you're there to pick up. Thus if I go out alone, I tend not to drink so I don't lose my sense of judgement. What I usually tend to do is join my mates at hte pub first, then when we talk about something stupid for the billionth time, leave and head to a club I know will be busy. And not drink anymore for the evening, sober up as I dance! Chances are, I usually run into faces I recognise anyway.

It is way harder going to a new club on your own, most definitely. I have this theory that if, as a female, you arrive and are on your own, and look as if you really don't know the venue that well, you are prime target for those sleazy types. If you know the venue, it shows, you're more confident and less likely to be intercepted by sleazy types. If you're with someone else/others, and don't know the venue, then its not a real issue either.

Sometimes I go out with friends, and once we're all there, I wish they weren't, cos all I want to do is hit the dance floor by myself, but have them dragging me here there and everywhere to chat and to bond and such crap. And if I manage the dancing thing, they come by every 5 minutes "just to check" if I'm ok.

ARGH!

 

[taita]

I used to always go out by myself... yeah i know, no friends but it was a few years ago and things have changed attitude wise with the clubbing masses. I'd like to think it could still be done?! Like the nike add says... Just do it :D
As androoo said... If they can handle who you are then all is well.. Too bad if they cant

 

[NickyJ]

I used to go clubbing alone. And I'd still do it if the need ever arised. I go out for the music and to dance. If I wanted to see a DJ and none of my friends wanted to go with me I'd just go by myself.

These days I know shit loads of people in the scene from the times I used to go out by myself. So even if I was to out by myself I run into old part time friends anyway :D

 

[Raz]

If I wanna just go out and dance, I will happily head out on my own.....mostly these days though I'm more into heading out because I specifically want to hang out with my friends rather than anything to do with the actual venue itself...

 

[mymymymysharona]

haha im a chick.. and i wanted to go find this guy i hooked up with the week before, before i was quickly swept away without getting contacts... and so my mates weren't available to go that week... so i thought fuck it and went myself...
it's not tooo bad but it's depressing seeing how many sleazes are out there, cos when you're sober you're like 'ewwwww' at their antics, when ur drunk u seem to take it more as compliments and fall for it.

hahah my night was spent running away from clingers by goin 'to the bathroom' and never returning, and rummaging thru the crowd tryin to find my mystery man... i ended up asking about 5 different people if they were there the week before but no such luck...

fate sucks at times.. well, lack of that is.. haha

but yeh. plus side- u get to do what u want, don't needa watch out for people. down side- u dont get to drink and if ur like me, u become extremely realistic and pessimistic of the culture.. hahaha but i still wanna go haha.

 

[NickyJ]

^ You don't get to drink? You're strange.

 

[mymymymysharona]

^^ dude if u wanna drink and drive that's fine with me. but i'd rather live a little longer... plus i live like 40 mins from city.

 

[gher]

I used to do it all the time, before I met my current crew. I still do go out by myself but depending on the event, I'd invariably end up bumping into someone I know. I have to go to a different city in order to go out and know absolutely no one.

It is way harder going to a new club on your own, most definitely.

I actually find it easier to go to new clubs on my own because usually no one I know wants to go. However I think the best way to experience big festivals and events is to go by yourself or ditch your friends.

 

[Donny Don't]

I've never actually gone clubbing alone, but there's plenty of times where i've lost my friends soon after getting in the and not met up with them again until closing time.

 

[IXinX]

I don't think i've gone alone to clubs. I have met friends in pubs/clubs and gone with them after a few drinks to a club event somewhere. Usually end up alone though about after 10 minutes though. Recently the music scene and MUSIC itself has been great, so i've been enjoying it whilst im here.

It would be harder if u were a girl but if you go to the right events, or sometimes know the right ppl you would find the right crowd. Doofs n raves can be ok for that...
But i haven't gone to them since i was 19-20.

Besides there are lots of ppl around that know me or i them sometimes without one or the other not remembering. Happens lots 8)

 

[hoptis]

I've spent a lot of time clubbing and a fair amount of that alone. I usually know people at venues; not as many these days as in years gone by but still enough to keep me amused.

Not sure how much longer I'll be able to keep doing it as less and less of my friends are and I don't seem to be making many new ones these days... lol.

 

[lady grey]

ive never gone out by myself but at events i usually always end up wandering off on my own for a few hours.. Ive ended up meeting some awesome people doing that..

 

[potato]

Going out alone is great if the music is good, or if you can be pretty sure to meet cool people and find new friends. I've done it heaps - i dont think going to a nightclub to see an act that i really wanna see is any different to going to a concert to see a band i really wanna see - and the later i woudl do without hesitation.

I've even been out on my lonesome here in Tokyo- i headed out by myself within 2 weeks of arriving here, when i still spoke crap-all of the language. i still had a ball. If you wanna go out you should never feel held back cos you have no one to go with.

 

[MDPVagrant]

Do you ever go out or have you ever gone out clubbing on your lonesome???

I used to do it all the time back in the 80s... go to dance clubs alone. It's a great encouragement to meet new people, instead of sticking in a clique with friends.

 

[stephaniesomewhere]

......i dont think going to a nightclub to see an act that i really wanna see is any different to going to a concert to see a band i really wanna see - and the later i woudl do without hesitation...... .

really important point!!
I wouldn't have managed to see half the stuff which I have loved if I had of only gone to "see a band" which for some reason is socially more acceptable than going to a club to see a dj...maybe cause clubs are viewed as pick up places, which is unfortunate if you like music that is only going to be done in them.
yay for people that are brave enoiugh to go to see what they want to!

 

[zephyr]

I've spent a lot of time clubbing and a fair amount of that alone. I usually know people at venues; not as many these days as in years gone by but still enough to keep me amused.

Not sure how much longer I'll be able to keep doing it as less and less of my friends are and I don't seem to be making many new ones these days... lol.

you're a doll- lets go out and have fun soon!

 

[NickyJ]

^^ dude if u wanna drink and drive that's fine with me. but i'd rather live a little longer... plus i live like 40 mins from city.

Suck shit for living out in the sticks :D