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manboychef
Bluelighter
Anyone sent a PM to her to make sure she is alright? I know for myself when I would relapse after talking myself into quitting I would be embarrassed by it. I know now that the feeling of embarrassment is just my addiction making it easier for me to slip back into old habits instead of getting the help I need.
Jabberwocky
Frumious Bandersnatch
She's good. We've been keeping in touch, although I owe her a massage. She's hanging in there and doing her best. Still moving in the right direction for sure, and I am as confident as I can be. Very genuine and cool person, and has more than just good intentions for herself. Just a little tired of BL I believe is all. I can totally understand that. Spending a little time away is certainly not a bad thing given the circumstances.
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Stargazer
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She owes me a message...
I think of her often...I hear you manboy about the embarrassment. I struggle with guilt...once when I was either in active addiction or just clean...neversickanymore told me to just throw away the guilt. I needed to hear that. He also was kind enough to share his story of how he got clean. And while I was in that dungeon cell naked in agony, I thought of him and his story...and kept repeating in my mind "he made it ....it can be done"
BL can get overwhelming...Thanks for the update toothpastedog. If you remember, please tell her I was asking for her and to PM me when she can. Thankyou.
I think of her often...I hear you manboy about the embarrassment. I struggle with guilt...once when I was either in active addiction or just clean...neversickanymore told me to just throw away the guilt. I needed to hear that. He also was kind enough to share his story of how he got clean. And while I was in that dungeon cell naked in agony, I thought of him and his story...and kept repeating in my mind "he made it ....it can be done"BL can get overwhelming...Thanks for the update toothpastedog. If you remember, please tell her I was asking for her and to PM me when she can. Thankyou.
manboychef
Bluelighter
Righton! Yeah guilt sidetracked me a number of times. I still feel guilty now about things that I have done, but I realize (actually nsa helped me with this as well) that I can't do anything about it now but apologize and if they don't accept the apology that is their problem.
Stargazer
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I really needed to hear the simple statement to throw away the guilt...now. It has no place. When we have children, guilt takes on an even stronger meaning. My daughter just clung to me crying when I first saw her after jail....I didn't realize how devastating it was for her. We have a great relationship....we're very close (manboy, this is golden, it came "full circle" for me...I had to be patient)
If I remain crippled w guilt I cant be the strong mom that guides her. That's what she needs. We discussed everything. Got it all out in the open and moved forward. Sorry for getting off topic-I just think it's important to share this stuff...to let others know there is hope and light. Non matter how much of a bang of job was done.
If I remain crippled w guilt I cant be the strong mom that guides her. That's what she needs. We discussed everything. Got it all out in the open and moved forward. Sorry for getting off topic-I just think it's important to share this stuff...to let others know there is hope and light. Non matter how much of a bang of job was done.