Chance Missed or Relationship Saved

[nekointheclouds]

This minus the shitty person part cuz we just humans afterall

Also

If you can't be with the one you love
Honey love the one you're with

You are right bb, we are all human and we all make mistakes, one mistake doesnt automatically make you a shitty person. But it would be a very shitty thing to do to the person you love.


And to the OP: I totally understand that long-distance relationships are very hard to do and it takes a strong relationship to survive. I have had a few in the past myself so I know how hard it can be to not only lack the sex, but also just not having the intimacy with someone, the being able to hang out and talk face to face or watch a movie together. Being able to visit every once in a awhile helps but what also helps is just having an idea of when you two will be able to be together again. Some how knowing how long you have to wait as opposed to an indefinite long distance thing makes it much easier to be strong. Its like you have a goal you are working towards.

If your current SO is overseas getting her PHD do you know how long it will take?

 

[samnslumberland]

Because of her breakup, Tamia's been going on about how she'd be willing to just make out with random dudes if it "felt right" and it wasn't too pre-conceived--think of it as plausible deniability. So last Dec. 25, after we'd drunk and smoked a few, Tamia starts talking about how she needs somebody to make out with.

This right here says it all to me. There is no romantic connection between you and Tamia; she's looking for a rebound and will settle on anybody that she feels comfortable enough to hook up with (aka you, when you were both drunk and high). Good news is, she didn't overtly come onto you, so she isn't showing complete disregard for your current relationship. I'd say it's safe to continue being her friend and spending time with her since you've somewhat established your boundaries, and it sounds like she wants nothing more than friendship from you. Bottom line is, you did the right thing and this has been a good life lesson for you that speaks volumes to the love that you have for Audrey.