StarOceanHouse
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ugly, I'm so glad you are back.
me too
although we've never talked, I was always liked reading your posts, ugly.
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me too
although we've never talked, I was always liked reading your posts, ugly.
I think you are a great wife,but I do wish you would change your name from 'Ugly' to something else as it is so derogatory to yourself.
I personally think that your husband is a lucky man to have you as a lot of women would have skipped by now so there is obviously love there between you and your husband.
I personally think that your husband is a lucky man to have you as a lot of women would have skipped by now so there is obviously love there between you and your husband.
nah, ugly's a poetic moniker for a beautiful soul. it hurts to know other people have to deny parts of themselves to keep a family together. my parents have been married the same amount of time, ugly, and i know my mom has lived the same way for a while now that my dad is in the twilight of his life (even walking can be too strenuous for him). i told her flat-out to leave him many a time because i love her and knew she was unhappy.
maybe i was speaking out of ignorance though. maybe keeping a family alive is reason enough to stay with someone even if sex is no longer part of the bargain. what about all the other good? i think there's something to be said for appreciating all that we have (there's no wealth like family) and accepting the loss of what we can't. i also think it's worth going to a therapist (psychology) just to have someone to talk to about it. maybe if you find a decent one they can help get you past the acceptance part.
maybe i was speaking out of ignorance though. maybe keeping a family alive is reason enough to stay with someone even if sex is no longer part of the bargain. what about all the other good? i think there's something to be said for appreciating all that we have (there's no wealth like family) and accepting the loss of what we can't. i also think it's worth going to a therapist (psychology) just to have someone to talk to about it. maybe if you find a decent one they can help get you past the acceptance part.
_mistresspoppy_
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I went 7 days without sex on a family vacation, and woke up humping the air in tha hotel room bed next to my mother. Not joking. And it seems like the more I have it, the more I need it. I have no desire to live without sex, and I dont think I could live without masturbation at all. I'm female, by the way. I believe sex is empowering and healthy, though my desires can get pretty filthy and degrading if I go too Long without release.
And, "ugly", I feel bad calling you that because you seem like such a devoted and caring person, there has to be some way to work things out with your husband. Would he be open to watching you with another partner in a sexy show that you're putting on for HIM? This way, you're getting release while making your husband feel involved. I'm not sure if you're open to this, but would you take a female partner? There is certain, er, equipment a woman can wear to give you the same intense physical sensation of sex, and this may be less objectionable to your husband. Men tend to be less jealous towards females than other males. You say one night encounters feel hollow. You have the option to take a steady lover, who you could meet on a regular basis. Involve your husband in this relationship, allow him to watch and participate in whatever way he can. These suggestions may seem a little taboo if you or your husband have old school values, but it hope they help. Best of luck!
And, "ugly", I feel bad calling you that because you seem like such a devoted and caring person, there has to be some way to work things out with your husband. Would he be open to watching you with another partner in a sexy show that you're putting on for HIM? This way, you're getting release while making your husband feel involved. I'm not sure if you're open to this, but would you take a female partner? There is certain, er, equipment a woman can wear to give you the same intense physical sensation of sex, and this may be less objectionable to your husband. Men tend to be less jealous towards females than other males. You say one night encounters feel hollow. You have the option to take a steady lover, who you could meet on a regular basis. Involve your husband in this relationship, allow him to watch and participate in whatever way he can. These suggestions may seem a little taboo if you or your husband have old school values, but it hope they help. Best of luck!
Thank you mistress. I appreciate you concern and your suggestions. Lately he hasn't had even a notion, not even a glancing thought, about me or us. His pain has been bad all week. Every time I've seen him, he's been sleeping/passed out. I don't really care right now because I've thrown myself headlong into a new career path and the amount of memorization I have to do is taking up every spare minute of my time.
I'm in a pharmacy program. WHAT??? A Bluelighter working in a pharmacy? Yes. It might seem incongruous, but after reading these boards the last five or so years, I already have a fairly good working knowledge of many substances.
I'm in a pharmacy program. WHAT??? A Bluelighter working in a pharmacy? Yes. It might seem incongruous, but after reading these boards the last five or so years, I already have a fairly good working knowledge of many substances.