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caught bf whacking it to a pic of my bff-and confusion ensues

I suppose how hot your friend was? Also Imagination can go a little nuts with french maid costumes. Maybe try dressing up like that then suprise him in a type of apology
 
drugfukkdrockstar said:
We all can do perverted things, but there is a time and a place and i certainly wouldn't do it knowing my boyfriend could walk in any minute and catch me.

What you are talking about is quite different to what this thread is about. Of course it's harmless to fantasize about whatever and whoever, but in this discussion we are talking about him beating off to her friends picture as soon as she left the room. I find it rude and disgusting. I am aware my boyfriend probably fantasizes about other people here and there rather than just me. It's one thing to know it and understand it due to maturity, but it's another to catch them doing it. If i caught my boyfriend beating off to a picture of a good friend of mine, i think that would cause a huge rift in our relationship. It's a mental image that no one deserves to have IMO.

And if you ask me, asking what your partner thinks about when they masturbate is a bit unfair. That's their fantasy and should be kept to themselves. It only causes issues to talk about it, and i feel that kind of thing should be kept to the individual. I feel everyone has a right to their privacy when it comes to that.
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so her bf has a right to privacy, but since SHE walked in on him, he is rude and disgusting?

this post doesn't make sense. if you truly understood, you wouldn't care as much if you did actually catch him, if you did, that just means you never really understood at all.

everyone's "understanding" until a real life problem comes along lol. although I agree that the mental image may be damaging, but that's no one's fault, it's just an unfortunate occurrence.
 
Beatlebot said:
It was HER dorm. Read the thread before replying. 8)
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UHHHH I know this, that doesn't make a difference, why don't you actually read AND understand my posts before throwing in your two cents. The post I quoted stated that the boyfriend should keep that stuff private, and I replied saying that he WAS trying to keep it private, regardless of where he was beating off.

It's not like he walked into her room while she was there, stuck his dick in her face and began rubbing one out to a picture of her friend. He thought he had a reasonable expectation of privacy while she was gone, and she walked in on him. That's not exactly so bad.

And for a forum that's supposed to have a reasonable and understanding environment, you are quite overbearing on the posters. geesh
 
He thought he had a reasonable expectation of privacy while she was gone, and she walked in on him. That's not exactly so bad.
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Its not bad- just odd. I mean, I really don't ever think about beating off unless I am completely nd utterly alone. To me, thinking your girl has ducked out for twenty minutes is a good time for a wank- thats just odd.
 
He shouldn't be whacking off in your fucking dorm room unless he's stradling you and going for the money-shot. and that's IT!
If you tell your bff that your man was jerking off to her pic, you had better hope she really IS your bff because that COULD make her take a closer look at him.
Just give it some time. I guaran-fucking-tee he's embarrassed about it and is wondering what the hell to do.
 
swilow said:
Its not bad- just odd. I mean, I really don't ever think about beating off unless I am completely nd utterly alone. To me, thinking your girl has ducked out for twenty minutes is a good time for a wank- thats just odd.
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yea totally get you, i can't even beat off if my door's locked if i hear people walking about right outside.
 
And for a forum that's supposed to have a reasonable and understanding environment, you are quite overbearing on the posters. geesh
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This is a reasonable and understanding environment, but I'm also here to ensure that a certain intelligent level of discussion is maintained. You are arguing merely for the sake of arguing. If you wack off in someone else's bedroom when they've just popped out for a few minutes, that is hardly doing it in private.
 
Beatlebot said:
If you wack off in someone else's bedroom when they've just popped out for a few minutes, that is hardly doing it in private.
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I disagree completely. When you are alone in a room, you think you are alone and you have privacy. If she didnt' want him to feel comfortable and private, she should have asked him to leave her room while she left for 20 minutes.

If I were in someone's dorm room alone, I would expect to hear the keys in the door or hear them oustide prior to them re-entering. It's not that they'd have to make their presence known, but you'd think that you'd hear someone coming back into the room. Maybe this chick suspected her boyfriend would do something she wouldn't like and snuck up on him ninja style.
 
OK well, I just don't think you should wack off to pictures of your girlfriend's best friend while you're in your girlfriend's room. I just don't think that's a reasonable thing to do, but you guys go ahead and DO WHAT YOU WANT!

:D :D :D
 
IAmTheWalrus said:
he started apologizing and i started crying. i wouldnt let him touch me, i just kept bawling my eyes out.
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You cried? Then you got mad? How old are you? Yousound manipulative too. Put it into perspective and realize that masturbatino isn't a big deal. I once walked in on a GF masturb ating. She had one of those stupid "celebrity news" magazines on th e bed and it was opened to a pic of Brad Pitt. I laughed like hell when I realized what she was doing. I never caught her again.
 
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Yeah I'm sorry but after reading this thread, I'm pretty sure that him masturbating to pictures of somebody else is the least of your worries


Even over a year, you're depriving the guy of sex! I'm in no way a pervert, and respect women very much. But if I'm dating somebody for over a year, and we're not at least sexually active, then I'm sorry. I'm out. =D
 
*From a guys perspective.

I once was in a 2 year long relationship, and I was extremely attracted to the girl. We had sex all the time, and it was amazing sex.

Even though everything was great, I still masturbated to pictures/videos of other people. Sometimes they were friends of hers(but she has some really hot friends).
The point is, masturbation is just fantasy. You're not doing anything wrong until you manifest those fantasies, or try to in any way. Doesn't matter who it is you're whackin' it to.

I know that as a guy being in that committed relationship, no matter who I was thinking about, it was always just because of how they looked. I didn't LOVE any of the people I would think about while masturbating, I just thought they were hot. And it didn't change how I felt about my s/o either.

I really don't see why this is such a big deal. But that's just me...
 
he sounds like a big-time voyeur. you need to bait him and tease him mercilessly. i suggest flashing for him in change rooms etc and let him take care of the rest. you guys will get along fine, just toughen up a bit. he's probably too weak to carry out a successful cheat, but take no shit if he tries to perpetrate. gl
 
i caught my hubby jacking off to a girls gone wild commercial once. I was disgusted especially since we just had sex about 1/2 hour before that. Didnt speak to him for days...he learned his lesson!!
But to a pic of your friend...thats sooo much harder to deal with, how akward. Personally I would suggest you try to let it go if you love him and he's worth keeping around. We've all done stupid shit like that, now if you think he's doing other stuff like that behind your back you have way more to deal with. But a one-time blunder...if he's worth it put it behind you.
 
Disgusted that your husband was masturbating? You punished him because you just had sex? Perhaps he wasn't satisfied *shrug*
How sad your point of view is. Your poor husband.
 
His behavior isnt weird at all. A lot of guys fantasize or look at pictures about people they know. His only mistake was getting caught.
 
mommyofone said:
i caught my hubby jacking off to a girls gone wild commercial once. I was disgusted especially since we just had sex about 1/2 hour before that. Didnt speak to him for days...he learned his lesson!!
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What lesson? That you have unrealistic and ineffieciently biased expectations for his sexual behaviour?!?
 
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