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caught bf whacking it to a pic of my bff-and confusion ensues

Ok, it may be normal to an extent (like if it was to pictures of 1 or 2 of your friends every once in a while). But jerking off to a picture of every girl you know, every time your alone in a room...that's freaky as hell. That's not by any means normal. How would you feel if your girlfriend masturbated to pictures of your friends constantly??

EDIT: And you're talking like every guy masturbates to pictures of their girlfriend's friends. I had a conversation about this thread with my boyfriend last night and he thinks it's extremely wrong. BTW, we're very open about masturbation and what we think about when we masturbate...he would not be afraid to tell me something like this. He wouldn't want me masturbating to pictures of his friends, so he doesn't do it to me. It's all about respect...obviously something you lack.
 
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Why is everyone assuming that this dude is sure to cheat on the poor girl?

He only did something totally natural, yes, he should have respected her feelings a bit more, but in reality, he obviously didn't think it through, hehe.

He was horny, it was a heat of the moment type thing. I don't think he needs to be demonised for his actions.

Also don't assume he does that all the time, perhaps he made a mistake, feels embarrassed and stupid. And won't ever do it again.
 
LilMamii said:
Ok, it may be normal to an extent (like if it was to pictures of 1 or 2 of your friends every once in a while). But jerking off to a picture of every girl you know, every time your alone in a room...that's freaky as hell. That's not by any means normal. How would you feel if your girlfriend masturbated to pictures of your friends constantly??

EDIT: And you're talking like every guy masturbates to pictures of their girlfriend's friends. I had a conversation about this thread with my boyfriend last night and he thinks it's extremely wrong. BTW, we're very open about masturbation and what we think about when we masturbate...he would not be afraid to tell me something like this. He wouldn't want me masturbating to pictures of his friends, so he doesn't do it to me. It's all about respect...obviously something you lack.
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We guys have nasty minds, they are just fantasies jeez 8(
 
This is where some guys will go wrong when it comes to women. We understand men have their fantasies, and need to release their frustrations, but there is a time and a place. Why is that so hard to understand? Oh i know why - Men are from Mars, and Women are from Venus.

Let's face it, there is always going to be the battle of trying to understand the opposite sex. There are things about women that are 'normal' that a lot of men just can't get their head around, and constantly get pissed off about it.

We all have our needs, that's fine. No one is arguing that! But when you want to actually share you life with someone, a sense of respect has to come into play. He should have bloody just printed off a copy of the friends pic, and gone into the toilet with it. That way, he gets to wank to her pic, and also keep his girlfriends feelings at count.

As much as you guys may wish you could just freely do as you please, even if it means hurting your girlfriends feelings, but you just wanna put it down to a guy thing... that's fine. But just don't get narky when girls don't want to be with you any more due to your self absorbed behaviour. It just doesn't work that way. We are not asking you men to push away your natural instincts and fantasies, but we do ask for a little self control.
 
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Coolio said:
WTF? I jerk off to pictures of my girlfriend's friends constantly. Especially pictures of her and her friends together. I jerk off to pictures of every girl I know that I can find a picture of... especially ex's and girls who I've had crushes on or hugged or kissed before.

I jerk off every time someone leaves the room, also. This is what most men do, at least if you consult my circle of friends. I can't count how many times I've been almost caught jerking off to my girlfriend's friends' MySpace photos in the office at work...
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And you are the type of guy I never want to end up with :p


[I didn't want that to sound as mean as it could, that's just how I feel]
 
i would fantasize about my ex's friends a lot. it's a lot easier and more tangible to imagine yourself with someone you know as opposed to some random porn star or a celebrity. and he's not gonna think of you when he's gettin a little do-it-yourself work done, he actually gets that.
you think of something you can't have, but that's all it is is fantasy and probably all it remains.
you just gotta cut the guy a little slack. it's probably not the first time he's wanked it with one of your friends in his head and probably won't be the last. especially if you don't think you give him enough sex as it is you should be more than happy that you're the only one who actually GETS to have sex with him.
no harm done, he only had sex with his hand.
 
wow, some of these people are really hard on a dude beating off. i'm glad i have a gf who loves chicks as much as i do. she expects me to find them attractive, and even lets me play with them.
i'm just not allowed to have sex with them but i don't mind, sex with my gf's good enough.

edit: and for any girl with hot friends who doesn't think their bf fantasizes about them all the time you got another thing comin.
 
drugfukkdrockstar said:
This is where some guys will go wrong when it comes to women. We understand men have their fantasies, and need to release their frustrations, but there is a time and a place. Why is that so hard to understand? Oh i know why - Men are from Mars, and Women are from Venus.

Let's face it, there is always going to be the battle of trying to understand the opposite sex. There are things about women that are 'normal' that a lot of men just can't get their head around, and constantly get pissed off about it.

We all have our needs, that's fine. No one is arguing that! But when you want to actually share you life with someone, a sense of respect has to come into play. He should have bloody just printed off a copy of the friends pic, and gone into the toilet with it. That way, he gets to wank to her pic, and also keep his girlfriends feelings at count.

As much as you guys may wish you could just freely do as you please, even if it means hurting your girlfriends feelings, but you just wanna put it down to a guy thing... that's fine. But just don't get narky when girls don't want to be with you any more due to your self absorbed behaviour. It just doesn't work that way. We are not asking you men to push away your natural instincts and fantasies, but we do ask for a little self control.
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^Exactly!

I think a lot of people are missing the point here that it's not always about you and your fantasies. Respect of your partner's feelings should first and foremost always be accounted for. When your masturbating to your girlfriends best friend on her computer knowing full well she could walk in at any moment, call me crazy, i just fail to see where the respect comes into play. Even if it is a stupid crush on some picture. Fantasise all you like but is it really that hard to keep your dick in your pants if it avoids hurting the person you love? There is a time and a place and this just isn't it and it's not okay. It is her best friend! I don't know anyone that would honestly be a-okay with that.
 
^I agree wholeheartedly. The issue for me isn't really the whacking part (although i find it a little creepy), it's the guys apparent sense of common decency - to do it in his g/friends room, knowing she may come in... either he's a thoughtless prat or he knew she may find him - an ulterior motive, perhaps?
 
you'd think most guys would be a little desensitized to that kind of shit. like seeing girls dressed like that or pictures a lot. when i see pictures yea i'll think shes lookin good or whatever but i can't imagine getting so hot off of one picture in that situation and having to play with my dingaling....
 
poor fella for gettin caught. hows this any different to going to a strip club you know a chick works at or porn? wanking is wanking.
 
Ummmmmm....because it's her best friend?? I'm sure she wouldn't care about a stripper or some chick in a porn...but her best friend? Cmon now. That's a bit harsh. There's plenty of women to fantasize about, why did he have to choose that one?
 
jam uh weezy said:
you'd think most guys would be a little desensitized to that kind of shit. like seeing girls dressed like that or pictures a lot. when i see pictures yea i'll think shes lookin good or whatever but i can't imagine getting so hot off of one picture in that situation and having to play with my dingaling....
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Haha, that's completely true. Can a guy look at a picture of a pretty girl without having to jack off to it? That just made me lol. ;p
 
When my ex use to leave me hanging, I would masturbate to other women to piss her off, and purposely let her see the women afterwards. Maybe its a sign. I would think he did it on purpose.. If not, he's a complete moron for doing it in your room.
 
Okay look, there's nothing strange about wanking.

But just whipping it out and wanking as soon as your girlfriend leaves the room, over a picture of her best friend? That's weird.

Seriously, that's weird. This guy sounds like he has some issues. He can't keep from jerking off until he's left your room? This isn't your fault, it isn't your 'responsibility' to fuck him often enough that he isn't 'driven' to jerking off over your friend's facebook picture...he sounds weird to me...
 
LilMamii, I'd much prefer my girlfriend was masturbating while fantasizing about my best friends. I've always tried to get her to have 3somes with my friends.

If I heard she was fantasizing about strangers, or about someone I didn't like or found ugly, I'd possibly be a bit disgusted. Hell they're my friends because I think they're attractive mentally and usually physically.
 
aww :(
I can see why you would be upset. at least he could have done it at home, but while he was at your dorm and you had left? was he trying to get caught?

I mean if it happened to me, id laugh and give him shit and tease him. But clearly, your situation is different, and he doesnt seem to be respecting you. Also, if youre already insecure, im sure this will bring up even more insecurities about what he really wants and if he would try to get with your friends.
 
Coolio said:
LilMamii, I'd much prefer my girlfriend was masturbating while fantasizing about my best friends. I've always tried to get her to have 3somes with my friends.

If I heard she was fantasizing about strangers, or about someone I didn't like or found ugly, I'd possibly be a bit disgusted. Hell they're my friends because I think they're attractive mentally and usually physically.
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*shrugs* every relationship is different. My boyfriend would much rather me masturbate over someone I didn't know. I asked him what he thought about me masturbating over pictures of some of his best friends, and he got pissed just at the thought of it. :\
 
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