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can you have a good time without drugs?

Charleston_Car

Charleston_Car

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i haven't had fun without drugs in so long, there's no point in being with friends unless i'm drunk or stoned or on harder drugs i can't talk at all or feel anything good

is this just what life is like because it seems that way sometimes, after you're a kid there's nothing good unless you put shit in your body? i know it's probably just me but just tell me what you think

by the way if you're feeling shitty listen to these since we're in the depressing side here

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8Ao3Z5I6FI8
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zxSDKKyy4Jo
 
Charleston_Car said:
i haven't had fun without drugs in so long, there's no point in being with friends unless i'm drunk or stoned or on harder drugs i can't talk at all or feel anything good
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im going through this right now. i litterally WILL NOT go out to join my crew unless theres ecstasy or weed involved.
 
For a long time, many years in fact - no, I couldnt. If I couldnt get my drug of choice, then I wouldn't socialise.

Anyway, a major heroin drought hit Europe in November 2010 and its still very present at the moment - so when I was forced to get clean I had used the time to get proactive about my depression, which is the reason I used opiates to begin with. Now that I'm making progress in this area I'm finding it easier as the days go on to just enjoy conversations with people again. I mean lets face it, we're not our selves when we're on drugs and the people we meet and interact with arent getting to know the real you, just the drugged you.

Its still tough but its getting noticeably easier - its just the boredom of sobriety thats the killer.
 
I can relate to this, I often have fine just relaxing and enjoying whatever I'm doing. Always some sort of chatter going on inside the head that seems to distract me and keep me worrying about things.

But it's definitely possible to have fun! It may take some time to get in tune with the more subtle pleasures of social interactions (vs. getting high), but they can be very satisfying. For me it's just about letting go and getting into the conversation, rather than thinking about what I'm going to say all the time and trying to analyze what the other people are thinking. Just enjoying the moment without any worries is the way to go :)
 
i can have an OK time without drugs or booze but without them im always thinking "man this would be so much better with some bud or booze or anything!" luckily my friends are like minded and love gettin messed up too %)
 
Absolutely you can. Although I will admit it's tough and takes some getting used to.
All the stuff that I used to do for fun before I did drugs I also did while on drugs. So it's hard to get back into doing things(and enjoying them at least) sober.
You'll see though, all it takes is some time and before you know it you'll forget why you ever associated "drugs" with "fun" to begin with :)
 
this happens to me, it sucks, i mean, being the guy who doesn't leave his house with at least one joint in his pocket it's kind of an appealing idea to me, but i've gone too far, it's not a good sign when you decide whether to go or not to a party after you ask "it's ok to get high there?"
 
Charleston_Car said:
there's no point in being with friends unless i'm drunk or stoned or on harder drugs i can't talk at all or feel anything good
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Yeah man i'm also going through the same thing atm, im just staying at home reading or playing xbox instead of going out, its such a bitch as my entire social network goes out and gets stoned/drunk/high. It's just not the same hanging out sober and there seems to be nothing entertaining to do where I live so meh.

Although after being clean for a week now im starting to find great pleasure in life without drugs again, just the simple thing that I never seemed to notice when high, shopping, reading and going for walks etc.

Hold in there im sure things will get better :)
 
i always used drugs (including alcohol) to just "be" to not over think , over analyze everything and everyone. it loosened me up and i thought i could not be that way w/o it.

but after some practice and realizing the more i think in situations the more it compounds its self. and i get locked in fear and anxiety. so for me i just need to remember to "be" and not sit in my head. and then it is possible to enjoy anything w/o drugs.


in fact, there have been times when i felt like i was messed up when i was completely sober. just because i was able to stay loose like i did when i was using. i hope that made sense lol.
 
I didn't fully know if this was possible until recently. I went out dancing last night (yes, I have a back condition where I deserve a slap just for even doing that) and for the most part I was sober. Had maybe 4 glasses of wine between 9pm-midnight, did a good deal of cocaine...but by the time I got to the club at 2 or so, I was pretty damn sober. One of the others I was with pretty much did the same thing...I had one drink at the club, since the bartender was being an ass about just serving people water (and not charging them $4 for it) so I danced my ass off until after 4am...felt good to just dance. I didn't need to be drunk to dance poorly and not give a shit what anyone thought about it...up until now, I thought "going out" to a bar/club sorta meant "getting trashed" right along with it...and honestly, I've never had as good of a time out doing something like that as I did last night. So...drugs and alcohol are fun, but without them, I had a really freakin' awesome time and I can remember every second of it!

I also have a good deal of friends who use drugs/alcohol in extreme moderation if at all, and recently I've discovered spending time with people who don't need to be intoxicated to have fun is pretty sweet. I haven't felt a single pleasurable emotion, substance related or not, in probably 3-4 months now...quite honestly I'm back to feeling depressed and lousy today. But, this thread sums up what I said to a friend of mine at close to 5am last night "I didn't think I could have a good time being around so many people I don't know while being aware of everything going on around me, that was awesome!"
 
I just moved to a kibbutz in Israel and I'm having the time of my life..<snip>
 
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duneplanet said:
i cant even feel pleasure without drugs so i understand
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same here. i have benzo induced anhedonia and drugs are the only way i can experience mental pleasure. having a good time without drugs is not even a possibility for me. this has actually been driving me to be responsible about my use though, because i know that if i overuse drugs and have to get clean from them ill have to go back to a life with absolutely no pleasure again.
 
I find after being a drug user for so long and especially if you were addicted bad to something that when you quit its impossible to make friends, because all you know is drugs.

I dont know what to talk about all I know is drugs really, so I have nothing to say to anyone besides my girlfriend, so what do I do, well get on bluelight and read about drugs......

Its very lonely even though i have a girlfriend i feel empty inside and just stuck, makes me want to do heroin really bad just to feel that good feeling like how I think normal people feel, happy, confident, no pain in your chest from the overwhelming hoplessness. It was very nice relief when i did it and not to mention I had a bunch of "friends"....
 
Charleston_Car said:
i haven't had fun without drugs in so long, there's no point in being with friends unless i'm drunk or stoned or on harder drugs i can't talk at all or feel anything good
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I use to ponder the same thing, when i realized.. i needed to be effectively brain-damaged in order to enjoy myself around these people, were these friends that unbearable that i felt compelled to be on something in order to enjoy their company?

I began to understand that most of the friends i had met through the drug-scene were caught in a loop of getting messed up but not really 'going anywhere'. I was also caught in this loop for a few years which is probably why i never noticed it until now.

But now that i've stepped back and peered in from the outside, i can see why i struggle to enjoy myself around these people sober.. their lives revolve around been messed up, and little else. There a blast to party with and i still catchup with them at party's and events on occasion, but you wouldn't get anything deeper out of them, which makes interacting while sober unbearable.

Im practically back to sqaure one with friends, since i've removed myself from a large portion of the party/drug scene in order to focus on myself. But as tough as this is, it's given me the chance to seek out people i want to hang-out with sober because their fulfilling there goals and ambitions.

I'm not suggesting you or your friends are in this situation, this is just how it played out for me, i had to go through a period of hardcore drug use with no direction or goal for years before i was able to feel that i genuinely wanted more out of life.
 
I have a job that randoms so all I can do is drink and take addy/xanax. But I usually don't 'go out' oin the weekends unless ima drink. Occccasionally roll
 
I've gotten sick of drugs more times than I can count, put them down and always go back. I tried NA and found it wasn't for me at least not now who knows I could change. It sucks though man when you find yourself to far out there and sick of it but not knowing anything else. All I can say is if you aren't happy then what is the point and if you find you aren't happy and can't quit get some help.

Enjoyed the songs BTW
 
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