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Can a One Night Stand Turn Into a Relationship?

Beat It

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Here's the background: So I just moved into a new city last week and I've been meeting a lot of new people. A guy that I met in my apartment complex invited me to a party so I went. I was a little bummed when I first got to the party because I just got out of a long term relationship and I wasn't feeling all that great about myself. After a few drinks I started to relax a little and started to mingle.

The situation: Later in the night, I hit it off with a girl there and we ended up hooking up. The funny thing is that we later found out we both not only lived in the same apartment complex but on the same floor! We went home together and she stayed at my place and overall I had a lot of fun with her. But, when we woke up she was acting like a completely different person. She left without really saying anything and I felt like the magic was gone. I mean we didn't sleep very much and it was earlier in the morning so I felt just about the same way. So, later that day, we ended up running into each other and we talked for a little but we didn't talk much about the night. I keep thinking about her though, I mean I've hooked up with people before and it was meaningless and I didn't give it a thought the next day but I now I can't stop thinking about this girl. Hah I feel like a weirdo.

My Thoughts: Normally if I end up hooking up with a girl, I'm like great! No string attached just having fun. Now I feel like I want to peruse this girl but I don't exactly know how. I was thinking maybe play it cool for a couple of days and ask her out next week but I don't know. I have NO IDEA how she feels. She texted me and was being friendly but I don't know if thats just because she knows we are going to run into each other and doesn't want it to be awkward. I guess that's part of the problem. With her living on the same floor, it could either make for a really fun relationship or an awkward situation where we try to avoid each other. I've been out of the game for so long I'm not really sure how to approach the situation.
 
sure it can... Man, don`t worry about rules of how long to wait and shit like that... Text or call her, see her in the hall or what ever, say something about going out and see where it goes... You won`t know unless you do something.
 
Yes, it can. I used to sell pot and my Fiance was my "fiend.." 5 years later we are more in love than anything in this world. I wouldn't give her up for anything. So yes, 1 night stands can turn into love. "Love at first sight."
 
Yeahh, I should ask her. She's really cool. We talked for hours that night. I just want to know how she feels... but I get so nervous around her lol.
 
Just go for it!!! :) :)
My boyfriend and I started out by mostly just sleeping together and 2+ years later and we're in love, living together, :)
 
^^ :) Okay. I'll let you guys know how it goes. I'm thinking about how to ask her.
 
Beat It, like others have said, just go for it. Just think that you'll drive yourself crazy if you don't try at least. :) You never know, and it could turn out to at least be a fun time for a while, even if it doesn't turn into the picket fence, 2.2 kids and 50 years together. :)
 
Yep, both ex husband and current bf :) she might be worried you think she's an easy lay or whatever, so I reckon you should take her for dinner - it'll make her feel more special and show your definitely not only after sex. Good luck!!
 
I like lola's dinner idea. Do something "datish" for her. Don't just invite her over again where you two will probably get high/drunk and have sex. It'll make her feel used again (if that is what she is feeling). Take her out.
 
"Can a one night stand turn into a relationship?"

Well technically no, it can't. If it's a one-night stand, then it's left at just that, one night. No more. If you have a date, lunch, or a second night with her, then it graduates from "one night" to "one night and a date" and so on. That changes the definition altogether.

So for everyone here who is now in, or were in relationships starting with one night of sex, it cannot fit the description of a one-night stand, as you have had multiple nights together with said person. Apologies for offtopicedness...that is all.
 
^^^ Thanks bro... Well we will see what will happen. We've talked a couple more times but I dunno. She's been really nice but I'm not so sure she feels the same well. We hung out once but I wouldn't say it was really a date. She's awesome. She's really easy to talk to and there's definitely some chemistry there... At least enough to be friends. I asked her to go out with me a couple of times but she's been legitimately sick. (I know a few of you will roll your eyes 8)). I'm just gonna play it cool for now. Don't want to freak her out. Disapointed but ohhh well, there's plenty of girls out there.
 
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