Boyfriend has started acting shady :/ What should I make of all this?

[Jean-Paul]

hmm. that "commitment issues" shit hit close to home. i don't think i have commitment issues, though, but intimacy issues. that is how i always thought of it. completely needing to be able to love the person i had found to love, and completely inept at the task. =[

some addicts, and just people, i have known, are okay with keeping a charade in their lives. they can communicate one reality with someone, and a completely different one with other people. or one reality to others but it's completely contradictory to the objective truth. you just can't trust other people to decide what's happening in your own life. you chose to take the passive role, and wait for him break up with you. what if he just drags you along for the sake of your continuing, superfluous storyline in his life? you can't really think that is dignified? i can understand that headspace where you feel you need validation from someone, unfortunately. it's a very ugly, vulnerable place to be. but somewhere, hopefully you understand that that is not "dignified", but just fucked up.

 

[Lysis]

Well, they come back, and they seem to like you...but they act angry toward you and they are angry with themselves for having problems...they eventually succeed in pushing someone away by doing this even though it is not their intention. It's like they can't have it or can't not have it either. They are a strange bunch.

I just read your other thread! LOL Now I see where you're coming from!

 

[Noodle]

You should consider why you make the choices you do. Being single isn't a bad thing. It forces you to face yourself.

 

[tokenname]

You should consider why you make the choices you do. Being single isn't a bad thing. It forces you to face yourself.

^^this.
you say this is your first relationship you've been in sober.
but addictive/obsessive thinking and behavior tends to stick around for awhile.
you seem to be caught up in a situation going nowhere at least for the moment.
maybe right now would be a fantastic time to engage in the same kind of behavior he is..
which seems to be is focusing on himself..
and finding out who he is and what he wants outside of drugs and relationships.