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Boyfriend and escorts...

If you can't trust your partner they are not worth having around.

He got caught once you gave him another chance he dose it again. Can you really trust him?

and why would he look at prostitute ads to jack off ? With all the porn on the Internet he could look at olympic athletes, yoga stars, lesbians, but he looks at scuzzy prostitute that suk dick for a living ?

He's looking for more the jerk off material. and you have to worry about what STDs you can get from him playing with scuzzy women.
 
^ People like different things. Maybe the idea of a nasty skank turns him on in some way. Just because he's looking and fantasizing doesn't mean he'd do it. You can't know for a fact what his intentions are.

OP, the real issue is the breaking if trust. You have to decide if its worth trying to rebuild that trust. If you don't see yourself with him forever, its probably not.
 
twotoomany said:
Just because he's looking and fantasizing doesn't mean he'd do it.
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In the beginning, she found two posts that her boyfriend created himself on Craigslist. So if he didn't follow through, that's good for her but will never know for sure since he's at it again. This goes beyond looking at adult magazines or porn. We had a roommate in the 80's who was calling 976 numbers (anyone remember these?), that was a nice $400 phone bill. "Oh damn I didn't think it would cost so much, Sorry!" This sort of thing is fantasy.

Planning to meet up with hookers on Craigslist is a different story. They don't display photos either, the person responds to the ad and takes it from there. When you're supposed to be in a monogamous relationship living together and your partner is making plans with hookers it changes the situation. He can apologize and cry all he wants, this says a lot right there and that's because he got caught. I would be upset too. Let him go because he's going to do it anyway.
 
T. Calderone said:
In the beginning, she found two posts that her boyfriend created himself on Craigslist. So if he didn't follow through, that's good for her but will never know for sure since he's at it again. This goes beyond looking at adult magazines or porn. We had a roommate in the 80's who was calling 976 numbers (anyone remember these?), that was a nice $400 phone bill. "Oh damn I didn't think it would cost so much, Sorry!" This sort of thing is fantasy.

Planning to meet up with hookers on Craigslist is a different story. They don't display photos either, the person responds to the ad and takes it from there. When you're supposed to be in a monogamous relationship living together and your partner is making plans with hookers it changes the situation. He can apologize and cry all he wants, this says a lot right there and that's because he got caught. I would be upset too. Let him go because he's going to do it anyway.
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i cant tell if he is genuinely sorry or like u said, sorry that he got caught.

ive been on the fence with breaking up with him the past two days and he keeps pulling the whole "give me another chance, i was stupid and didnt learn, do you really want to throw all of this away"... then im like if you know we have all of "this" to throw away why didn't you think of that when you were on fucking backpage.. ? edit: then he goes on to say despitethe lying, he hasnt really done anything "too big" as in actually cheating

its hard for me to think when are both home. at some moments i think i can forgive him, and other times im just mad. i dont know how im going to find space for myself to just step away from him and think it thru. our lease is up in november and in the meantime i need to wait on at least 2 paychecks before i can afford to move anywhere

apart from the living siutation, tbh, i do have slight fears of finding someone else. not to say that i wont find someone new, but i was in a very shitty place before i met him. and after meeting him, we became best friends as we were dating and i dont normally connect with ppl the way i do with him. i have few very close friends and i find that making friends isnt an easy thing, not that i feel like i need a lot of friends but it's hard for me to feel connected or relate to people in general on a deep level. my bf is someone i feel completely comfortable being myself around, someone i can talk abotu anything with, joke with, be stupid with. trying to imagine life without him is possible but it wouldnt be very fun, and yet, im not feeling very easy or trusting right now about this whole escort thing. sorry im probably being annoying with my indecisiveness, just need to rant
 
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You have a couple months to think about it. Is your name on the lease also? You could have him renew without you being on it, lessons your load in the future if you have to leave. NSA
 
twotoomany said:
^ People like different things. Maybe the idea of a nasty skank turns him on in some way. Just because he's looking and fantasizing doesn't mean he'd do it. You can't know for a fact what his intentions are.
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I don't think you get it, the point isn't whether or not he would really fuck some hooker, the point is that she wasn't happy with him doing it and he chose to continue doing it. that's just disrespect in the purest form. if what you're into upsets your partner, it isn't a good relationship and it needs to end.
 
warpaint said:
do most men grow out of that need for variety?
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In both my opinion and my experience, yes.

It sounds to me like the OP has already sort of made up her mind or knows what she needs to do; she is reluctant to leave her boyfriend because she feels deeply for him, but has lost a certain amount of trust and would be unable to continue on with the relationship without there being a certain amount of resentment there, and so knows that, ultimately, she will be leaving the relationship.

It sucks, and I feel real sorry for OP that it worked out that way.
 
do most men grow out of that need for variety?
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-only if they do it consciously, and instinctively. If the ego/subconscious is fucking around with emotional turmoil and other issues, then it takes a lot longer.

Your fella sounds like he has issues...continue to be his friend, but it sounds like you want something he cannot give right now.
 
nothing unusual, guys look all the time to get more sex, today online world makes stuffs even easier, soooo... it is up to you how would look at this behavior, but most of guys do things like you described...
 
twotoomany said:
^ People like different things. Maybe the idea of a nasty skank turns him on in some way. Just because he's looking and fantasizing doesn't mean he'd do it. You can't know for a fact what his intentions are.
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Looks at ads to hire prostitutes, hmmm. why would someone do that ? To hire a prostitute ?

or those small grainy headless phone pics on caigslist are so hot ?
 
ALL of the advice in this post could never replace your opinion on the matter. Is he trustworthy? Has there been other evidence of misplaced trust?

Clearly it should be your choice in the end... I'm not even too sure how you should take any of the advice here, at all. Are you able to forgive and go on with the relationship after such an episode? There isn't a right or wrong answer, but rather one answer for each and everyone of us.
 
Put your "war paint " on and dump his ass.:X

You deserve to be respected, happy and <3'ed.

There are good men out there, it takes time but I assure you, you will find "the one" that truly makes you happy.

Best of luck!

Oh and fuck him.
 
gr33n3y3z said:
Put your "war paint " on and dump his ass.:X

You deserve to be respected, happy and <3'ed.

There are good men out there, it takes time but I assure you, you will find "the one" that truly makes you happy.

Best of luck!

Oh and fuck him.
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hahaha! The warpaint part made me laugh. Exactly! Greeneyez pretty much summarized it.
 
Maya said:
hahaha! The warpaint part made me laugh. Exactly! Greeneyez pretty much summarized it.
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Have you considered the possibility that this is just a small blip in an otherwise healthy love story? That indeed, this could be the man of her life, that will take care of her forever?

How are you able to give such advice to a couple, when all you've known about them is a few lines?

What's more, what you would do to resolve the situation should it happen to you is not the right thing to do for everybody... To each his own.
 
DragonFly31 said:
Have you considered the possibility that this is just a small blip in an otherwise healthy love story? That indeed, this could be the man of her life, that will take care of her forever?

How are you able to give such advice to a couple, when all you've known about them is a few lines?
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a lot of Warpaint's posts(and threads) have been complaints about her bf
 
DragonFly31 said:
Have you considered the possibility that this is just a small blip in an otherwise healthy love story? That indeed, this could be the man of her life, that will take care of her forever?

How are you able to give such advice to a couple, when all you've known about them is a few lines?

What's more, what you would do to resolve the situation should it happen to you is not the right thing to do for everybody... To each his own.
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I have based my answers from her posts and I can't do anything if you don't like it. The OP has posted this thread to look for advices in the first place. As you have mentioned, it is her decision as to whether she would continue to be with him or not. My advice is from the bottom of my heart as I knew how it felt like to be lied and cheated upon/from personal experience and breaking up from my ex bf was the best thing I have done for myself. Now if the bf is to post his side of the story then I am willing to re-assess my judgement but as for now I stand by my advice.
 
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