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Bluelight Singles thread "Living without justification" Part 2

im probly one of the worst closers in history. picked up over 50chix last year. my mates have better stats. but cant seem to get my ding dong much attention. :X
 
amateur dropper said:
im probly one of the worst closers in history. picked up over 50chix last year. my mates have better stats. but cant seem to get my ding dong much attention. :X
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Asking her to suck your "ding dong" might have been your biggest problem. ;)
 
Arrgh, after 9 months of happiness I have yet again being put up for grabs on the meat market. My girlie is soon off to work in the UK for 2 years after the bosses at her old job were treating her like shit. I would go too, but I am over 30 and thus too old. This is dream of hers, so I can't hold her back. Needless to say it has left me in quite a mess. Despite my age, this is the first time I've ever split up with someone this way and it hurts like no other split ever has because we clicked from the word go right up until the end.
 
^^ as tiesto says "love will come again"

i came out of a 3 and a 1/2 year relationship last august - first big split and you know what? i got over it! sure it hurt bad .... but you move on and now im happier than i have been in a long long long time

just remember - "its not how you fall over, its the way you pick yourself up that counts"
 
haha Oh Jesus I just had a horrible self realisation.

I was just about to write something about cliche's not helping and people can wallow in their own self indulgent juices if they so wish without having smiley happy people going, 'ohhh buck up champion!'

... and then I realised that I was princess_kitti a few years ago but I have somehow morphed into the cynical miss_apple. =D

I wonder what happened to her. Bet she got married. ;) This place just isn't the same without her and vurt flirting constantly. <3
 
up all night said:
I wonder what happened to her. Bet she got married. ;) This place just isn't the same without her and vurt flirting constantly. <3
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Let me guess, in the words forum? That place is purpose-built for flirtation.
 
up all night said:
haha Oh Jesus I just had a horrible self realisation.

I was just about to write something about cliche's not helping and people can wallow in their own self indulgent juices if they so wish without having smiley happy people going, 'ohhh buck up champion!'

... and then I realised that I was princess_kitti a few years ago but I have somehow morphed into the cynical miss_apple. =D

I wonder what happened to her. Bet she got married. ;) This place just isn't the same without her and vurt flirting constantly. <3
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its never too late to go back =D

i don't think i could ever be cynical .... its just not in my nature

and anyway i think its a waste of time wallowing .... think of everything you miss out on!!! like shopping ..... i love shopping =D

and i don't know about anyone else - but i get hell bored of wallowing after about 10 mins ... i mean, life is meant to be fun - where's the fun in moping?!

also, other people are attracted to happy joyful people .... if you wallow you are destined to be stuck in the singles thread for time immemorial haha
 
potato said:
Let me guess, in the words forum? That place is purpose-built for flirtation.
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Nah in the singles thread. It was awesome. She'd write all this really cynical shit and then giggle like a girl when vurt posted something. heheh <3 vurt.

As for being attracted to happy people, I can categorically state that I have never dated or been attracted to someone who is unendingly happy. I like the dwellers and mopers, the angst-ridden contingent of modern society as I have this fucked up belief that they are inherantly more interesting than transparently happy people.

It has not worked for me so far. ;)
 
Life is about being interesting!

Maintaining a constant state of happiness is too much hard work.

I'm attracted to neither happy or depressed people, but rather people who are somewhat interesting. Whether they be a happy interesting or depressive interesting.

Although so far I've mainly found myself with depressive interesting. And I'm just reading UAN's post again and realise that I'm echoing her. How original... :p
 
Are you kidding me?! depressives send me up the wall!!!

and id like to strongly debate the above stated fact that just cos your happy doesn't mean your interesting ... i for one know and love many happy interesting people that can chat for hours

i've had a few depressives and i find them unendingly boring .... how can someone sooooooo negative be interesting? i just don't think its possible. they don't bring anything to anyone else's lives cos they are so self obsessed with their own insignificant issues

and being happy is easy - smiling takes less muscles than frowning ... and once you learn to let things slide - life is beautiful and uncomplicated :D
 
I know mapples got into a long term relationship with a pretty well known sydney interneter from another website although im not sure if they are still together or not. so there's still hope for you yarnsta.
 
princess_kitti: Who said they liked depressed people?

edit: Sorry didn't explain myself very well. I don't like people who are all, 'oh woe is me the world hates me. You broke my life and now I'm going to kill myself.' Well, not people who are like that all the time, anyway. However, I personally can't relate to people who are never like that. Sometimes life can be truly shitty and I think it's perfectly healthy to recognise both the good and the bad. The people who I know who always seem happy usually have some deep-seated issues that they refuse to deal with.

leecie: ITM... where true love is found.
 
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I'm not saying that happy people can't be interesting - sure, they can.

As I've said many times before to whoever cares to listen, I LOVE a sense of mystery. As you mentioned, life can be uncomplicated... but if things get too predictable... I get BORED.

So definately complex!
 
princess_kitti said:
Are you kidding me?! depressives send me up the wall!!!

and id like to strongly debate the above stated fact that just cos your happy doesn't mean your interesting ... i for one know and love many happy interesting people that can chat for hours

i've had a few depressives and i find them unendingly boring .... how can someone sooooooo negative be interesting? i just don't think its possible. they don't bring anything to anyone else's lives cos they are so self obsessed with their own insignificant issues

and being happy is easy - smiling takes less muscles than frowning ... and once you learn to let things slide - life is beautiful and uncomplicated :D
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I'll take the other coin of the argument for this one...

Happy people, that is people that are happy all the time, so much so that they are always smiling (it actually seems to be their only facial expression) drive me insane. No one can be happy all the time, and to project such an image is a lie. I'm not saying that happiness isn't possible most of the time, that's fine, but those people that seem to be happy all the time obviously are lying to themselves and everyone around them. I'd rather go for the depressive type, because although they are self-centred, they are at least honest.

Happy people are more boring, why? Because "chatting" is boring, talking is interesting, about semi-real things rather than bullshit fillers.
 
word up to depressives being interesting.

frustrating, yes
infuriating, yes
do you head in, oh yes

but yeah, they're definitely interesting ;)

happy people fall into 2 categories for me

1. they're faking - they use faux-happiness as a crutch because for whatever reason they don't want to express the "darker" sides of their personality

2. 'truly' happy people - yes they exist, yes they can still be interesting, but to methey will always lack a certain depth that people who have experienced true misery (even shallow, self indulgent misery *cough* :p) know. yes, this is probably partly due to my own misconceptions - but hey, do i really care?

moreover, people so intent on being positive (fuck, i am loathe to type this as i realise i sound like an interminable wanker 8)) just refuse to, or don't understand it when i suddenly feel like not leaving the house for 3 weeks because i'm in a "bad mood". the forced cajoling and "positive" spins get old VERY quickly.

in saying that, i like to think of myself as a realist erring on the side of cynical - so that's not to say i've not been guilty of finding those elusive silver linings once in a while. :)
 
I'd like to think of myself as a reasonably happy person.

In the sense that yes, I smile, yes I laugh - chances are if you're out with me, I'm probably having a good time.

I have a happy demeanor...

HOWEVER, if something upsets me, I find it hard to tell myself "Oh it's all good. Smile. Smile. Smile"

or "Just think of the benefits this misery will provide for the future. Quick smile, you're happy again"

I'll *consider* those things, of course. But at that time, they're unlikely to make me happy.

Same would go for my partner. I'd absolutely *hate* to be with a partner who couldn't empathies my hardship and just say "that sucks" from time to time - yet instead happily ramble on about 'why it's all going to turn out for the best'.
 
Mary Poppins said:
happy people fall into 2 categories for me

1. they're faking - they use faux-happiness as a crutch because for whatever reason they don't want to express the "darker" sides of their personality...
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i wouldn't say faking mp, i think it's just a case of choosing which part you want to focus on. why focus on the negative things that will get you down? that's not to say you're pretending there's not negatice aspects to life, but why concentrate on them if they can't be changed?
 
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