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Bluelight Singles thread "Living without justification" Part 2

KRC - i'm not sure if i'm somewhat misinterpreting your post, or something along those lines, but i must say i completely baulked when i read the second half of it.

like you say - looks are important, and i am not about to deny that there needs to be some element of physical attraction for any lasting r/ship, connection whatever.

what concerns me is the part where you wrote that if you were arguing with someone "goodlooking/attractive" you'd be able to reconcile anything they said that you disagreed with because they were attractive????????

I'm sorry but i find this mode of thinking completely foreign. I have dated guys who I have found very attractive, and others who though I've obviously been attracted TO them, I wouldn't have thought were so physically attractive.

I can HONESTLY never say that I have been so blown away by someone's physical features to be able to dismiss arguments or fights or anything else that comes part and parcel in a relationship. Sure - you need that physical element for spark and whatnot but are you completely serious that it matters to you more what your partner looks like rather than who they are???????? :\

I am completely bemused as to someone who seems to have a modicum of intelligence would place physical features so highly in the criteria of someone they'd date....
 
what concerns me is the part where you wrote that if you were arguing with someone "goodlooking/attractive" you'd be able to reconcile anything they said that you disagreed with because they were attractive????????
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^^ I did this when i was younger, ill admit...


haha..


Its so stupid..


and weak
 
Mary Poppins said:
what concerns me is the part where you wrote that if you were arguing with someone "goodlooking/attractive" you'd be able to reconcile anything they said that you disagreed with because they were attractive????????

I'm sorry but i find this mode of thinking completely foreign. I have dated guys who I have found very attractive, and others who though I've obviously been attracted TO them, I wouldn't have thought were so physically attractive.

I can HONESTLY never say that I have been so blown away by someone's physical features to be able to dismiss arguments or fights or anything else that comes part and parcel in a relationship. Sure - you need that physical element for spark and whatnot but are you completely serious that it matters to you more what your partner looks like rather than who they are???????? :\

I am completely bemused as to someone who seems to have a modicum of intelligence would place physical features so highly in the criteria of someone they'd date....
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haha... no, no. I *never* said that (funny thing about interpretation)! I wouldn't be able to reconcile anything they said 'because' they were attractive. Infact, they wouldn't even know I was thinking about how great they looked =D (SIF'), I'd still be just as annoyed with them, we'd carry on fighting 'about' the topic at hand. How they look would be totally irrelevant to what we were fighting over - they wouldn't be excused for being hot.. ;). Now I feel quite the fool for coming across like that... :D

What I meant (or more to the point), is that when you're annoyed at someone, their flaws become very apparent. When you're happy, in a good mood, you can get along with people who you're not really suited to. This has happened to me, I've found myself (on one occasion in particular), with someone I wasn't physically attracted to. Now, when things were good, I'd be able to 'dismiss' that... When things were bad.. IT GOT TO ME. Now the point is, I shouldn't have been with him in the first place. I know that... I've admitted that. This is a mistake I've made and learnt from.

So now... I don't see the point in hooking up with people I don't find attractive! Why bother?

All in all, I agree with what you've said in your post 100%. Just a slight misunderstanding! :)
 
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haha damn my last posted sounded so judgemental..

bad me!

yeah i was in a relationship where i wasnt really physically attracted to zee person.. when we had disagreements i was absolutly repulsed.. i couldnt help it..
 
I'm sick of girls saying to me, why haven't I got a girlfriend? Because your *insert compliment here*.

If I knew why, I wouldnt be single.
 
Hmm yeah thats a fair call DeeCee ....


What i find most annoying about that question, is that it sounds like you are meant to have a girlfrined or expected to have one because you are a decent guy.

I used to get asked all the time why i was single.... i knew my reason why though, because i wanted to be. But i was frustrated being asked thats for sure! Because when id tell them i am single by choice, they'd look at me with a questioning expression.

I just liked being single! Is that so fucking hard to understand? I guess now that i am seeing someone means i will be left alone? lol.
 
-PSychiK- you know when a female gets a bf, that a percentage of the time, will get harrassed more, cause other guys size him up and think that they are better then him. And try and go in for the steal.

That from my observations when i was a bf.
 
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Well its funny because when i personally have a boyfriend i dont get harrassed as much ... maybe i just dont care to notice. When i get a guy and really like then i am very loyal, and i dont send out the approachable vibes.... as i hate being chatted up when i am with someone because a) it would make my partner uncomfortable/insecure and b)its unwanted and un needed attention, so it ends up being just plain annoying.

But this statement only stands when i am happy in my relationship.
 
deeCee said:
-PSychiK- you know when a female gets a bf, that a percentage of the time, will get harrassed more, cause other guys size him up and think that they are better then him. I try and go in for the steal.
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A boyfriend is an obbstacle, not a stop sign :p.

I've been speaking to too many guys. I do not endorse this theory.
 
Same with me DeeCee

I get that all the time... people I meet are really surprised when i tell them ive been single for two and a half years.

That makes me feel as though there were some obligation to find a partner. You know, get into one of those "politically correct" relationships for the sake of doing it kinda thing.

Message to people who do that is : Dont you have you're own fucking problems?

Wow, im being hostile this morning :D

But yeah, dont let anyone tell you how to live.. because then you are dead ;)
 
^^ It was only a matter of time Addikal :) Congrats mate, though I speak on behalf of all of Bluelight when I say:

Tell us the story!

I am keen to hear about what happened to lead up to my main man Addikal stepping out of the loneliest thread in all of bluelight and into the sparkling world away.


As for myself? Well I consider myself still here... Though cogs are turning and the situation may change soon...
I have been seeing my ex for a couple of weeks now but she is heading off for two months on an overseas trip this wednesday.

Not one to take news of that lying in the prone, foetal position, I also got chatting to a gorgeous blonde German girl last night for a couple of hours - So chances are next weekend I will be following that up.

Ah if Uni didn't re-start tomorrow life would be quite good I suppose. But maybe that is because I am writing this BL entry wearing nothing but boxer shorts, a top hat and with a black cane hung over one arm of the computer chair...
 
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But maybe that is because I am writing this BL entry wearing nothing but boxer shorts, a top hat and with a black cane hung over one arm of the computer chair...
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Haha when I read that I instantly pictured an Unsquare type photo from the pictures thread.

Gorgeous blonde German girl... sounds solid my man! Good luck with that one. I hope she has an accent. European accents on sexy women make me.....happy.

My story?

Well although it ain't 'official', i no longer consider myself single. I initially met her through my work and after seeing her for several months, I STILL want to spend time with her. Usually I tend to go on a date or two with a girl, become bored and not contact her again - so the fact that i'm still interested and feel like there's a whole lot more to discover speaks volumes.

Although I will miss the fun and freedom of being single, I now embark into a more intimate realm. However, always looking on the bright side, if for some reason this falls apart.... I can always return to that fun and freedom the single world brings :)

take care ya'll

Adikkal
 
Well I certainly had fun on the weekend but I'm still here. Met a girl last week at a pub and she came over Friday night for my birthday and we had the greatest sex I've ever had.
Then Saturday was my Fancy dress party, I invited her but had already had told my friends this is not the 1 for me, just some fun, mainly because of how much she used the C word, but funny thing was my friends all got along with her pretty well and were saying I should hold onto her and all that.
After the party we went back to my friends house (about 10 of us) for a while, then we decided to go back to mine for some more X rated action, just getting in a taxi, when my friends older sister yells from the door for me to get my ass back inside. I just jumped in the taxi.

Then I got 2 messages on my phone from my friends, 1 saying that the older sister knows her and the name of her X and 1 saying be careful with this 1 use protection. (which I did)

I got her side of the story but guessed from the messages there was more to the story so told the girl she should go home as my friends are everything to me and I would never do anything to fuck with my relationship with them. Then later friends told me that she is looking to have a kid, hense the use protection text.

So yeah still single, got to play with $9000 dollar breasts and had the best birthday I've had in a long time.
 
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Same with me DeeCee

I get that all the time... people I meet are really surprised when i tell them ive been single for two and a half years.

That makes me feel as though there were some obligation to find a partner. You know, get into one of those "politically correct" relationships for the sake of doing it kinda thing.

Message to people who do that is : Dont you have you're own fucking problems?

Wow, im being hostile this morning :D

But yeah, dont let anyone tell you how to live.. because then you are dead ;)
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I've been single for the same amount of time and it reaches a point where it just doesn't matter anymore. You get accustomed to your own company, not that you'd have a problem sharing it just that you dont find the pressure to be with someone else.

I belief it to be a good thing as you learn to function more indepently than you ever could with someone else around.
 
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