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Bluelight Singles thread "Living without justification" Part 2

ButrosButros_Grantos said:
I've been single for the same amount of time and it reaches a point where it just doesn't matter anymore.
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Although i see (and, trust me, understand) your statement, i disagree with it.

I wrote a really long explanation after this backing it up, but it doesnt matter.

I disagree, although respect your opinion.
 
ButrosButros_Grantos said:
I've been single for the same amount of time and it reaches a point where it just doesn't matter anymore. You get accustomed to your own company, not that you'd have a problem sharing it just that you dont find the pressure to be with someone else.

I belief it to be a good thing as you learn to function more indepently than you ever could with someone else around.
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i totally agree...it's not to say you'd be anti-relationship, or that it never crosses your mind, but more so that it's not a pressing issue.
 
Shnouzerpuff said:


Ah if Uni didn't re-start tomorrow life would be quite good I suppose. But maybe that is because I am writing this BL entry wearing nothing but boxer shorts, a top hat and with a black cane hung over one arm of the computer chair...
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dam boy....thats just hot!! ;)


ive come to realise that im probly (as my dear old daddy says) im going to die single... :\

i am not placing any emphasise these days on finding a partner...im happy plodding along right now and seeing which street corner i turn and where i get...

i guess i could just settle for my work environment right now...beer+hot girls=happy kel. sort of

but it wont last forever.

Im going through a real girly "phase" now which is always fun...but i miss my boy company. even my boys.
 
*Stumbles back into thread*

I hate having to hurt people, I think I'd rather be the receiving end than having the image of such hurt etched into my memory :( The logic part of my head keeps saying there was no alternative - if only the logic part actually governed how i felt....

Makes self a breakfast coffee black russian
 
Welcome back miss slingshot, I'm sure you will find that your seat has not be taken.

I fucking hate it when the heart/head cannot agree with each other. No matter how many meetings they have, the still cant make a decision together. They can't even agree to disagree, cause then were does that leave you?..
 
^^tell them to map it all out on a whiteboard and see if they cant come to some form of conclusion. otherwise one of them will be terminated...or at least suspended without pay.
 
lil dont get all geeky on us
some of us will go bananas for a sexy geek girl
:p

lmao
 
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I've been having a look through some of the girls in here's gallery and most of you are hot.

Winks at all the sexy girls
 
^ Aww bub.... :( Just think about how great it will be when you see her in 2 months time though :)

OOooh i almost came back in here on Monday night but decided to talk it through and give it another go with the fella i am seeing. I actually really like this one ... its been a long time since i have liked someone too so that means it is worth while i try and work out any issues we have..... i usually just walk away because i cant be fucked (and because i dont care) but i do care about this one.

Lets see how long i leave my seat in here vacant. So far its been 3 weeks almost .... thats good for me these days.
 
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Awesome dude!

The only way to destroy your fears and mistrustings about guys is to face them...Dont break it off with this guy just because you think you can get someone better or *more* understanding. Because the hard truth is there is no perfect person to be with. Its all about being totally in the moment with the person you have and looking for positives within them, rather then the negitives... because us humans are really picky bastards..

ok... thats my philosophical take on things =D
 
-PSychiK- said:


I actually really like this one ... its been a long time since i have liked someone too so that means it is worth while i try and work out any issues we have..... i usually just walk away because i cant be fucked (and because i dont care) but i do care about this one.
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See, I wont even start a relationship unless I can see it possibly going somewhere. I wont go out with someone for the sake of going out with someone... (not saying you are). If you dont think you would want to work a problem out, if it araises, you prolly shouldn't be with that person in the first place.

*edit* didnt make sense there for a bit
 
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^^ I'm the same as you. If I can't see it going anywhere there's not really much interest in it.

:( for you being back here miss slingshot. **raises russian cocaine shot**
 
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I dont know I disagree with you both. Sometimes you may think someone isn't your type or a relationship won't work but life suprises you and you find yourself getting to know the person and it turns out that you had more in common than you originally thaught and your preconcieved ideas of this person were well wrong.

They say opposites attract for a reason you know.
 
Yes opposites do attract, but its that same depth of understanding, intelligence and basic level of emotional maturity that draws you to another. (well for those who desire equal and balanced relationships).

Personally, people who are mismatched to myself on these levels either infuriate the hell out of me, bore me, or leave me feeling grossly inept. I frankly don't see the point of dating people who I can't connect with on multiple levels, especially as no matter how many boundaries are set in place, someone inevitably gets hurt.

In terms of HOW someone expresses their depth of understanding, their personality and life experiences, I'd never discount anyone due to them not being 'my type' or 'too different'. Its a matter of both of us having the maturity to recognize that people DO have fundamentally different perspectives/ though processes and responses, that your attraction to them can't change any of these and there is much beauty to be found in understanding and appreciating those differences. :)

Thanks ozbreaker, My head has pretty much righted itself now, don't you love those all consuming brain fart moments? (especially when documented on bl;)
 
Regarding 'opposites attract': I think the key is finding someone that compliments your character, not someone too similar. Sort of like how two different puzzle shapes fit together to make something better. Someone who is too similar to me would annoy me.

I think usually after the first couple of times you hang out with someone, you can tell whether there is the possibility of something more. Some people are good for different purposes. You might meet a guy/girl who is great fun, you enjoy spending time with them, but you don't connect on that deeper level. These type of people make good 'friends' (with or without benefits).


Adikkal
 
You know, lately ive been starting to think that attraction is totally random and unpredictable. I dont think there is anyway to analyse or monitor it. Its basically what you're mind feels at the time.
 
^^ I agree dude.

The girl's at work think I have a totally weird taste in women. Cause I'll go I like, this, this & that in a women. Then prolly the same day I'll same im keen on someone and she is that, that & this.
 
I disagree. Attraction isn't random and unpredictable, that is to say, it has a certain process and principles which it abides by. Branding something as random/unpredictable just means we haven't figured out the pattern yet.

Alot of the time we think we want one thing (consciously) but the unconscious doesn't agree. A perfect example is the typical 'nice guy' thing. So many girls will say all they want is a nice guy who treats them right, but then they get one of them and lose attraction and respect for him because the guy treats her TOO well. They become too submisive and wussy.

Think to the animal kingdom... there is a definite courting process and in looking for their partner, the animals portray and look for particular characteristics, whatever they may be. It's neither random or unpredictable once you know the principles.

The point is, there are set psychological principles which govern whether we like something (or someone). The thing is, often we can't identify what's going on and are left in the dark. It's worth reading into that sort of stuff as it uncovers alot of the mystery.

pz

Adikkal
 
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