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Bluelight Singles thread "Living without justification" Part 2

bleh meh and smeh.

We need to start a cult 1234. Cult leaders seem to get all the play.

but seriously dude, that is a sucky situation but you are taking a good attitude toward it all. Props my good man. Props.
 
well im new here and all and im single and stuff...

well, after my ex, i swore to be a batchelor for life. which I stuck to, keeping my friend close and distancing myself from anything that could develop into a relationship.

unfortunately, one particular friend of mine happens to be rather attractive, and i found myself becoming more and more attracted to her, beyond a sexual means, for quite a while.

that culminated, in to what, as far as i can tell, was a royal clusterfuck two fridays ago.

here's the story... i got a message randomly from her some time on the thursday asking me to come around for drinks with her and a few friends on the friday night. i had plans to hit sublime, so i said i would come in for a little bit.

anyways, i started the night in liverpool at a friends place talking shit, and didn't leave to head to the city (where my friend lives) till about 10pm. i was late as all fuck.
from the way she was leaving voicemail on my phone, her tone of voice, etc. etc. i was pretty sure she was keen on me as i was on her. a quick relay of a couple voicemail to a lesbian friend who i was chilling back with in livo confirmed my suspscions with her opinion being: "are you fucking stupid, or just plain retarded? call her now you stupid bastard!"

so return phone calls were made and i was on my way. she seemed heaps excited to have me coming over, cos we hadn't seen each other for a while.

anyways, got to her place at about 11:30 after a fair train trip and getting lost along oxford street.

i had asked prior to arrival if i could crash at hers cos i didn't feel like going on from hers.

I rocked up, gave her a big hug, and a kiss on the cheek, then went out the back to meet her friends. Got fairly plastered on blacks and the others decided to leave.

we headed inside and fell down on the couch, her in one arm, alcohol in the other. we chatted, and she ended up lying in my lap while i finished off my drink. we talked about girls (me) and boys (her) and skirted over relationships, nd she said she'd been really hurt by guys recently, and was heaps cautious about relaitonships. after about 15-20 minutes of chatting she hinted at bed time and so i replied with: "where am i crashing? on this couch?"

she goes "well, you can sleep with me if you want."

i quickly agreed, so we headed up stairs to bed, and stripped down to our underwear and hopped into bed.

we curled up together and talked for a bit. nothing actually happened. i got a bit closer to her, gave her a little massage, and she rolled over to face me, and hugged me. i moved in for a kiss, not quite sure what to do, i was still a little plastered. our lips played on each other, but she pulled away and said she really had to sleep for work. i respected that and rolled the oposite way. i thought i'd fucked up, and had pissed her off.

well, about a minute later, i heard a little shuffle, and felt her arms snake around me, and her chest against my back. i went along with it, and eventually we fell asleep.

woke up in the morning, got ready, had breakfast, walked out and caught the bus together, her to work, me to the station to go home, sort of holding hands as we went.

gave her a hug and another kiss on the cheek before she left, and said i really enjoyed the night.

anyways, the following monday, i gave her a call, becuase i had lost my zippo (sentimental value) and to see if she'd found it. she said she had, and i could pick it up when i had the time, but seem really rushed, as she was between uni classes.

she kept asking if i had called for a special or important reason, and i just said i called to have a chat. she seemed really distant after that and ended the convo quickly.

i'm not sure what to make of this...
 
Originally posted by Shnouzerpuff
bleh meh and smeh.

We need to start a cult 1234. Cult leaders seem to get all the play.


so so true. cult leaders have it all. and if they get fucked over, do they sit and cry about it? no - they go and gas train stations or something. see, people with initiative, that's what i need! :D

anyway, still yet to hear from her. should be interesting when i do :)
 
Oh yay well I'm back in here again. It wasn't so bad this time - at least he didn't ask for any of my friends phone numbers. I didn't even cry or get really upset until I told my dad I was going out tonight so wouldn't be able to come for dinner because he broke up with me.

His concern for me was disturbing actually and I don't quite know how to take it yet.

Sooo anyways, I've got a big pay cheque coming in this weekend and I have allocated 90% of my available resources to getting as wasted as possible.

Anyone in Sydney who cares to join me please attend:
1 Gutter Rd
Spewy Land
NSW 2000

All welcome. ;)
 
azphyx said:
... got to her place at about 11:30
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Not the best start...

azphyx said:
we headed inside and fell down on the couch, her in one arm, alcohol in the other. we chatted, and she ended up lying in my lap while i finished off my drink. we talked about girls (me) and boys (her) and skirted over relationships, nd she said she'd been really hurt by guys recently, and was heaps cautious about relationships.
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Okay... she's nervous about relationships cause she's had some bad experiences. She was willing to talk about that and interested in listening to what you had to say about your past and that, with everything else, says that yes, she is interested in you.
azphyx said:
... she rolled over to face me, and hugged me. i moved in for a kiss, not quite sure what to do, i was still a little plastered. our lips played on each other, but she pulled away and said she really had to sleep for work.
well, about a minute later, i heard a little shuffle, and felt her arms snake around me, and her chest against my back. i went along with it, and eventually we fell asleep.
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Listen to what you said... she wanted it to be something better than a random, drunken event. The fact that finding her lips to kiss her was difficult for you doesn't say much for what it would have been like should anything have happened. So, there's a good chance that she's pretty keen to catch up with you again but for something other than a one night stand.
azphyx said:
...the following Monday, I gave her a call... she kept asking if i had called for a special or important reason, and i just said i called to have a chat. she seemed really distant after that and ended the convo quickly.
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You didn't make contact for 4 days after the fuck up so she may have figured that it was just a one night thing for you. Then, by the time you called, she may have been hoping that you'd talk about something other than your zippo. Try calling her again in the next few days (and not at a time when she'll be at uni or work... and don't call her when you're drunk) and see if you can make a time to meet up with her... and not at 11:30 at night. She said herself that she's been screwed over in the past so she's got her defences up... as do you... so somebody's going to have to push past them and it sounds like it's going to have to be you.

Good luck!
 
I left a few details out.

I never wanted a one night thing. I've known this girl for quite some time (just over a year) .

I was meant to be there any time after about 9:30. I tol her I might be a bit late, as I had to walk a good 25 minutes after I got off the train (which was amplified after I relaised I had walked in the total oposite direction).

Witht he kiss thing, I knew where I was going and what I was doing, I was just unsure how to react to the situation. I like this girl, and I don't wanna mess things up with her. So I was heaps cautious.

About the zippo, in the morning when it wasn't wear I had left it (with my phones, my wallet, my shoes and my keys), she was heaps cut, and promised to try and find it. When I rang her I didn't ring her in regards to the zippo, I had given up on it, and was just calling to see how she was doing. She brought it up, fairly excitedly "Oh yeah, I found your zippo too!" and I was extremely grateful....

I've tried to call her a couple times since then, to no avail... :(

But thanks for your advice. I'm honestly hoping i can make something of this :)
 
up all night said:
Oh yay well I'm back in here again. It wasn't so bad this time - at least he didn't ask for any of my friends phone numbers. I didn't even cry or get really upset until I told my dad I was going out tonight so wouldn't be able to come for dinner because he broke up with me.

His concern for me was disturbing actually and I don't quite know how to take it yet.

Sooo anyways, I've got a big pay cheque coming in this weekend and I have allocated 90% of my available resources to getting as wasted as possible.

Anyone in Sydney who cares to join me please attend:
1 Gutter Rd
Spewy Land
NSW 2000

All welcome. ;)
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good to hear your doing better this time round, sucks to hear you broke up tho.

*massive hugs*
 
up all night said:
Anyone in Sydney who cares to join me please attend:
1 Gutter Rd
Spewy Land
NSW 2000

All welcome. ;)
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oh oh found that in melbourne too!! such a great view from that address everyone should go there more often....

the men are also cuter there!! ;)
 
you know im always good company in spewy land yarns. im also good in sooky place ;)

still single...still...doing stuff. yeah. we'll see.
 
up all night said:
Oh yay well I'm back in here again. It wasn't so bad this time - at least he didn't ask for any of my friends phone numbers. I didn't even cry or get really upset until I told my dad I was going out tonight so wouldn't be able to come for dinner because he broke up with me.

His concern for me was disturbing actually and I don't quite know how to take it yet.

Sooo anyways, I've got a big pay cheque coming in this weekend and I have allocated 90% of my available resources to getting as wasted as possible.

Anyone in Sydney who cares to join me please attend:
1 Gutter Rd
Spewy Land
NSW 2000

All welcome. ;)
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Awwww i feel bad for ya...i'll come to your gutter lane and get wasted wif u
( i'm in the same boat)
 
azphyx said:
I left a few details out.

I never wanted a one night thing. I've known this girl for quite some time (just over a year) .

I was meant to be there any time after about 9:30. I tol her I might be a bit late, as I had to walk a good 25 minutes after I got off the train (which was amplified after I relaised I had walked in the total oposite direction).

Witht he kiss thing, I knew where I was going and what I was doing, I was just unsure how to react to the situation. I like this girl, and I don't wanna mess things up with her. So I was heaps cautious.

About the zippo, in the morning when it wasn't wear I had left it (with my phones, my wallet, my shoes and my keys), she was heaps cut, and promised to try and find it. When I rang her I didn't ring her in regards to the zippo, I had given up on it, and was just calling to see how she was doing. She brought it up, fairly excitedly "Oh yeah, I found your zippo too!" and I was extremely grateful....

I've tried to call her a couple times since then, to no avail... :(

But thanks for your advice. I'm honestly hoping i can make something of this :)
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hey man
hope all goes well for you. I have found previously that some of the best relationships come from people you were great friends with. If you truly like this chick and would like to see where it can go then youve got to talk to her and confront her... if shes screening your calls them somethings up.

And i hate to put seeds of doubt into your mind, but you gotta be careful man. If things end badly you could lose a great friendship, and if she has changed her mind then things will be different afterwards.

Also, if at all possible, mutual friends are some of the biggest helpers ever :)

So yeah, good luck, hope it all turns out the best for you.
 
Well my situation kinda sux. I'm seeing a boy who i'm not supposed to be (professionally) to start with who we said was only a 'fun' thing so no relationship. He's doing the whole boyfriend thing though. He messages me when i'm at uni asking me what time i'm coming home, hangs out, watches movies, has chats and sessions with me and even went to a mates party with me on the weekend. This is not a fuck buddy thing at all but it's supposed to be!

He also has an x gf in tassie who he's not with at the moment but they have plans on getting back together and he's actually leaving in a month to go back and be with her.

She doesn't know about me but he says he feels guilty about being with me and not telling her because she probably assumes he isn't with anyone as he does about her but says he's not going to lie about it IF she asks him.

This totally sux because i am the in between girl and i don't like it but it's either that or nothing :(

I can't even be mad at him because from pretty much the beginning he has been open and honest to me about his whole situation and is not stringing me along.

I feel like the other woman though and i'm getting attached to him!

So basically he's in a relationship with me and has all the comforts of that - sex and company and doing things together as a couple without the commitment and he's leaving in four weeks.

This bites :(
 
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hhc_king said:
Awwww i feel bad for ya...i'll come to your gutter lane and get wasted wif u
( i'm in the same boat)
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Sounds like they are going to need to a pretty BIG gutter for ALL of US to fit,he,he,he,he................... ;) .

If ALL you SINGLE people want to get wasted,if you don't already know,and are in Sydney:-

COME TO THE NEXT Sydney BLUELIGHT drinks meet up??????

Just ch-check it out,cause that's what it's all about, over in the thread in 'Australian Events' - Is on the 12th of March or 19th of March.

When they have finalised THE date!!!!!!!!!!!

We can ALL drink and bitch some more about being single ;)

Plus will be nice to meet some bluelighters for the first time like hhc_king,azphyx,up all night,................................ =D
 
^^ I'm going doofing then. It's my birthday and rinkadink is playing =D

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Fuck! between when i wrote my last post to now the boy came over, we went for a weed mission, smoked some cones and in amongst all that we had "a talk"

I think it's all over.

I deserve one last time with him to do as i please damn it =D

It still kinda hurts though, i new it would end but not this soon. Thought i had a few more weeks to enjoy his company with. I thought that's the time the universe gave us.

This sux! This exact reason is why i have a no boy policy in the first place when at home. I'm so pissed off with myself because i let this happen knowing what would happen and now i'm hurt over it.

I don't want it to be pity sex damn it. He did say it wasn't me though (Is that to be expected and cheesy though ie it's not you, it's me rountine?) pfffffttt He says he can't just jump from me to *her* so soon. He feels like an arsehole.

BLAH fuckity fuck fuck grrrrrrrrrr to all boys :)
 
^ sounds like it is for the best ... no one needs to be in that situation. You deserve to be with someone who actually wants to be with you .... not someone who feels bad for it! Thats crap! I couldnt do it personally....
 
I didn't think i could too and i thought this was going to be a one time thing to be honest (ie what he said 'a bit of fun' ) not do boyfriend stuff , that he admits to doing.

But then i had to go and fall for him and those deep blue eyes and that mischevious smile

damn it

serves me right for dating someone that young.
 
Well it seems we are back to doing the other thing now. Ie the bf/gf thing without it being that... it's so confusing... since 'the talk' he has actually been more affectionate and 'cuddly' and i actually want it from this one. It's just not fair that he's leaving *pout*
 
Originally posted by Backo
... but we can still play stickball right upallnight??

You and your precious stickball. ;) See at you the pub on Sunday stickboy.
 
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